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Dreaming of the dead

January 5, 2016 | Comment icon 6 comments
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Energy and vibrational frequency are concepts that are becoming better understood even in the field of physics (quantum physics).

Most mediums (people who are able to contact those who have passed on to spirit) acknowledge that they must alter their vibrational frequency to communicate with spirit. Spirit emits a completely different vibration than our material plane so (according to mystics), if we want to communicate with the dead we must lighten our vibrational frequency and spirit must lower theirs. This (hopefully!) facilitates a connection somewhere in the middle.

Cayce: “Both minds must be in the same attunement or vibration and separated from the physical consciousness; for these are of the spiritual consciousness. Only through an attunement may a message (from a departed one) be received.” EC

The most common dream experience in spirit communication is related to the message which essentially means, “I am fine and happy. Your grief, however, is holding me back and making me sad. You can help me greatly by trying to overcome your sorrow. YOU MUST STOP GRIEVING!” Cayce

Mourning

In the initial stages of our mourning our dreams will often depict the loved one in terrible physical condition: suffering, feeling sad and helpless. This reflects our own pain in loss and is likely more about us and how we are feeling than an authentic message from spirit.

As we go through the mourning stages towards acceptance our loved one appears to be getting healthier and more joyful in spirit. Again this simply reflects our inner growth towards acceptance of their passing.

The more psychological work we have done on the relationship before the death, the faster and less painful this journey will be. Unresolved issues will generate a sticky and unhealthy attachment to the dead loved one resulting in a number of manifestations of neurosis, for example,

Those qualities that we disliked the most in the loved one may trigger an unconscious need for acceptance and forgiveness. For example, if your mother was a bank robber and you didn’t like that quality in her and rejected her in life for this quality – and you never work this through with her – after her death you will begin to have fantasies of robbing banks and then you might even launch into a stealing spree in an effort to forgive and accept her. This is a natural impulse to accept her finally and let her go. Sometimes it seems as if the dead loved has literally jumped into the body and life of the mourner!

Psychological Problems Triggered by Fear of Death

If we have been overly extreme in our reflections of the dead loved one – either overly maudlin or overly glorifying their attributes (monsters or angels!) we may have a series of dreams that are designed to bring us to a more balanced perspective.

We may lose ourselves in projections – seeing the dead loved one in everyone you meet – for example, projecting their “mothering” “fathering” onto the other people in your life.

You may feel compelled to do whatever it was asked of you before they died – ie. “Always look after your baby sister” translates into supporting her, mopping up her messes, going to jail for her… A dream series may help open your eyes to this self-negating behaviour.

Your loved one’s death may trigger a deeply repressed terror of death. This phobia manifests in a number of disturbing behaviours such as avoiding all things potentially related to death, for example, hospitals, cemeteries, sick people, news or movies. Sometimes it escalates to the point where the person is just too fearful to take any risk at all leading to agoraphobia.

Hypochondria is another manifestation of this death phobia. Every pimple becomes evidence of cancer, every anxiety attack becomes a heart attack, every gas pain becomes bowel cancer. This is really a manifestation of death phobia. It can severely inhibit a person’s ability to discern when they really are sick and alienate them socially.

More psychological problems can erupt such as, an irrational but persistent belief that you will die the same age. If the loved one died at 52 so will you. This can lead to all manner of unhealthy behaviours as that age approaches – either extreme risk or so risk adverse they won’t leave the house.
1. Superstitious obsessions (leading to obsessive compulsive behaviour) – stepping on a broken sidewalk will result in being in an accident and becoming a paraplegic and then dying.

2. Survival guilt. You are living and they are dead therefore you can’t accept joy, pleasure or satisfaction – gifts of this manifested world – leading you to avoid any activity or object that offers any degree of sensual pleasure. Sleeping on a bed of nails, starvation, limited material possessions – odd sexual deviancy.

Dreaming of the dead therefore from a psychological perspective is the psyche working to heal itself of this relational breach and connection.

How Dreams Heal the Mourner

When we sleep we glimpse a world where the vibration is very light. It gives us a sense of what spirit is like. The veil between the incarnated world and spirit world thins. Our waking ego is asleep and our dream ego awakens which is why we seem to be like different people in our dreams!

Loved ones may bring,

1. Bring words of solace. “Don’t be sad! Your sadness drags me back to this world and I want to be free!!”

2. Bring words of encouragement. “You can do it! Go for it – your life is short!”

3. Apologies. “I’m sorry for being such a jerk when I was alive. I love you and I regret what a pain I was to you when I was there.”

4. Guidance. “Don’t do this or that, and do this or that. This is the way to a joyful life for you – do this and that to bring yourself back on the path to light!”

5. Assurances of joy after death. “Dying is great! I feel better than ever – you’re going to love it too and I’ll wait for you and we’ll be together again.”

6. Past life information. “You will live on after death just as you were created before you were manifested in physical form!

7. Longevity. “Stop worrying so much about how long you are going to live! You’re going to live for many more years!”

Dreams of Loved Ones Passed are Best When Shared

Dreams of a dead loved one can open psychic doors and is often the first glimmer they have of their true psychic life, abilities, and vistas of possibility. These are very special dreams and should be kept close to your heart. They open doors of possibility for us and give hope and guidance for everyone not just yourself. They are given to be shared.

Kathleen Meadows, M.A. has a free online dream dictionary which includes a model of how to organize your own dream study group. http://www.dreamsdictionary.org



If you are interested in the esoteric sciences and psychic ability development you will find the articles on my web site an interesting read. Visit my web site https://www.psychicanada.com/. Comments (6)


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Comment icon #1 Posted by MelissaJackson2 8 years ago
A few times I was dreaming of my dead family members. Well, one time I did dream of Michael Jackson (one of my family members), and though I didn't see him or anything... Well, back to the subject... You can communicate with the dead in your dreams...? Wow... I didn't know that :0
Comment icon #2 Posted by Astra. 8 years ago
You can communicate with the dead in your dreams...? Wow... I didn't know that :0 Dreaming of someone who has passed (lets say a family member or friend) - isn't because they are communicating with you. It may simply boil down to the fact - that you miss them - or you may have had some unresolved issue's that had not been dealt with properly (before they died) - in which could lead to feelings of guilt... (depending of course). When we sleep and dream - it's basically our 'sub-conscious' mind interpreting something on a deeper level - that our 'conscious senses' may pick up - but not so much i... [More]
Comment icon #3 Posted by Summerin1905 8 years ago
i dreamt of my pets that have passed. it was interesting but i then cryed.
Comment icon #4 Posted by davros of skaro 8 years ago
Frequencies, energies, spiritual realms? OH MY!
Comment icon #5 Posted by 029b10 8 years ago
Frequencies, energies, spiritual realms? OH MY! Not OH MY! but OH BS! You have to be dead at least a 120 years before you can communicate with the living and by then everybody you know is dead too so there isn't any sense in paying for that extra service you don't use, geez that would be like a homeless person paying for renters insurance.....
Comment icon #6 Posted by baronesslucy 8 years ago
When I was in college, a woman who lived next door to me died unexpectedly. She had been ill with a cold on and off for several months. I remember going to bed shortly after I found out she had been taken to the hospital. I felt a sense of dread. I remember walking up a couple of hours later and seeing her standing in the doorway of the bathroom which connected the two rooms. She was dressed in an off white gown and a crown was on her head. She had a neutral look on her face. Not too long after that, my roommate came in and told me she had to tell me something. I said that "Mary (not her real ... [More]


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