This was a status update, but due to size and I know it's not done yet felt blog would be better.
This happened Sunday 20th Aug 2017, 7:30pm.
MIL to be came over here last night unwelcomed, to demand the desktop computer she gave Michael back. BANGED (I mean banged like when you're punching something banged) on the door (door bell broke years ago) yelled at me to tell him. Again she called Michael a FING SELFISH PRICK, because he told her that it takes hours to transfer things if he has to give comp back. That's one of her go to lines.
I rang local police station and they told me I can't get a restraining order out unless she harms one of us or our property more then twice. First time is assault charge only. We can tell her to leave or refuse to answer door and have police removed her.
Considering when Noel was in the local hospital near me (5/10min walk) she "forgot how to get to my house" so Michael could give her a lift home, she found our house yesterday in the dark. I have her phone numbers blocked on my phone and deleted her friend request on Facebook.
I got told by the police station that her threats aren't seen as something they deal with!
That homeowner (dad) has to be first to tell her to leave then police if she doesn't listen or he's not home.
Basically until the person harms you or your property atleast twice, you are powerless.
We know she'll be back sometime this week to try again.
When she comes back part of me so badly wants to say YOU'RE BANNED AND NOT ALLOWED HERE LEAVE! Then slam the door in her face. I will however be recording everything said if I think to grab phone at the time to do so.
Dad said he's going to padlock the front gate (instead of it just closed, back gates are pinned and locked to) again so she try getting in here, it used to be padlocked when he had the medium he owned out front. She wouldn't be able to jump it its too high for her to.
Thurs is her birthday, so it'll be Weds or Thurs she returns.
I'm angry she's free to verbally abuse because the law sucks.
That's why I wanted a restraining order to stop her being able to contact or come near, but got told no.
I know if I really wanted to I could get her to the point she would lay a hand on me, but I'm not that type.
In one way he still has to in directly deal with her, Will hasn't been read by lawyers yet and Noels court case is still going but that's through Noels lawyers who have Michaels number.
Michael says don't answer the door to her. I think she's heading for Psych break because of everything she's done is biting her in the A.
We legally can psychward her if we feel she's a harm to herself or others (great psychologist I had told me that) and Michael said go for it (even he wanted me to get AVO out on her).
I don't want to unless it gets really bad, because her dogs only have her (as in people they know well), lost Noel, Michael moved out so they would have been grieving that and would stop eating etc from stress if they lost her for a day or more.
Best we can do is call police to tell her to leave. Gate was shut so she would have lifted the pin and opened it to get in here. To me closed gate is DO NOT ENTER WITHOUT PERMISSION, but she and her crazy self things the rule doesn't apply.
Michael thinks she'll be back when he and dad are at work, in the hopes she can get me to let her in or grab it.
Not happening there's no love or any good feelings to that woman, she's his mom and that's it is how I see it.
Michael says he thinks she's losing it, she told him pick up his dart board so she could rent his old bedroom out. He did and day later she rang to ask had he been to her house.
The exact words one of the local (where I live there's one in one area and another in a different area, both close to me) police stations told me last night when I called. I said so threats to KICK MY A** THROW ME BY THE SCRUFF OF MY NECK! YOU WON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT while trying not to have an Anxiety attack. That they're (AVO/restraining orders) very hard to get now.
She can verbally abuse and threaten us with no legal ramifications, because there's no physical harm or damage.
The law is fudged up that's for sure.
I have abusive notes (Michael gave permission for me to share and show my psychologist) from her she wrote to him before he moved out of her house.
We're talking nasty stuff calling him lazy, selfish etc and playing the dying husband/ his dad card to try to get her own way. He works 5-6 day weeks 10-11 hour (Sat is 4 hours if he gets called in) days and she does nothing yet calls him selfish etc.