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Spirituality and Separation


dlonewolf85

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Many times, in my relatively short duration in this world, I have come across spiritual teachings that talk of detachment, taking a step back to get a better perception, deviating from materialism, etc. Of course, this could be regardless of whether it is a religious view or an atheistic view albeit a spiritual one. From my personal experiences, I have observed that spirituality sometimes can be, in fact, an extremely difficult and quite a lonely path. I imagine that often, a person could find difficulty in speaking freely about his views before the family, friends, or even the girlfriend. It may not be that people ridicule or mock or anything. Sometimes, it is felt that most people around do not really understand or even care to give it a thought. Occasionally, one or two people could put forward some extremely interesting views on spirituality. It could be someone on a public forum or maybe someone's views presented in the form of an article or maybe a blog. But that's about it. I understand there could be difference of opinions even among the folks who are more spiritually inclined. But the point is, there are very few people who really understand another's point of view.

Some people say that there could be different 'stages' in spirituality. I like to see them as being different paths and nobody is ahead nor is backward in any way. Each person is doing great in his/her own unique path. This again, puts every person in a sort of a lonely place, the path being entirely for that individual alone. When I speak of a path, it would imply that there could be a destination as well. I guess, the place in one's life where we feel complete and whole, itself, could actually be like the destination for some.

Whatever the case may be, the sense of separation and the feeling of loneliness seems to be an integral part of one’s personal growth; in the context of spiritually or otherwise. However, a little guidance and a few kind words of understanding from another individual could do much good in this regard. I feel that sometimes all that is needed from us is to only entertain another’s viewpoint, even for a short while, without having to accept his or her beliefs as our own.

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Mikko-kun

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Maybe we need both loneliness and social action in order to grow as human beings, I dont know if this is the case despite of having had plenty of both. It's more often the one you lack more that makes you stronger, though not always.

I think we lack the courage to see the world from another person's point of view and the courage to express our deepest wishes in plain language. Even though you can't (probably) telepathically go inside another person's head, you can picture the situation as well as you can without resorting to things like pity even if the person seems miserable. Pity and compassion aren't the same, if you ask me.

I feel that as much as only one person can see in this world, it'd be both refreshing as a deeply social interaction and as a very interesting change of views, to open your view to one another and share them. But the ability to imagine that there might be something you dont know in this world is, I think required, to take in these experiences in a new level. Since most of us, probably everyone, are used to talk in terms of the reality we know, in other words talking about "flowers are red, rain comes from clouds" and so on, things like this may be harder to talk about because of that kind of language and mental barrier. I've noticed that many have problems with either perceiving or accepting abstract ideas... maybe they just dont wanna entertairn themselves with them, but I can usually talk with them about anything, very personal stuff too.

I've always been regarded as an overpositive idiot of sorts, except during those emo seasons heh, I guess that overpositive part helps to take in new stuff easier, and I'm used to letdowns because of that, even though numbing yourself isn't a good thing most of the time.

The things we run from are sometimes the things we most need. Your words reminded me of this in my case at least... I keep running from other people's advices, but honest feedback, no matter how much it might shatter my thoughts, is what I desire the most. Honest doesn't have to mean rude or anything, just honest. This is just my view though. You had very insightful and open-spirited post if you can say that, I think it's important that you think things like this from time to time. They're not so disconnected from reality as the abstract sense of them might imply.

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dlonewolf85

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Thank you for your comments, Mikko-kun.

I like to think that the root cause of loneliness could be that every member of the nearly 7 billion world population perceive the same event or the same object or even the same expression, in his or her own unique way. Any honest criticism or even genuine appreciation to a suggestion, an opinion or a theory, even though the idea could be an abstract one, would still be empty if there is partial/no comprehension of what is put forward by the individual in question. Wouldn’t you agree?

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SpiritWriter

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Its funny I clicked on this and it looks like I had already read it and clicked like on it. :) I don't really look at the blogs too often. Looking forward to checking back in and reading some more.

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Thank you, SW. :) I'm glad you like it.

It has been a while since I posted on this blog, I think I should try to write more often. Please feel free to give your inputs, it is much appreciated.

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sees

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I just saw this blog entry!  Some interesting points.  Spirituality has been my focus for most of my adult life.

You mention detachment in spiritual teachings but this is to do with the ego, i.e. detaching from ego so that our spirit shines through.  Being too self centred blocks our ability to contact our essence.   I resonate about what you say about it being difficult in society to be spiritually focused.  No surprise though since we live in a consumerist/materialistic society where people's values seem to centre around money.   I find this alienating and am a semi recluse because of it. However I don't suffer from loneliness since I am self sufficient, i.e. not dependent on other's for my needs mostly.

A way I have found to heal the rift re. integration is to be of service to others e.g. doing voluntary work.  It feels good and nurtures the soul.

Since your blog post on this was some time ago, I'd be interested to learn about where you are now spiritually.  (We all grow at our own pace, i.e. there is no hierarchy with spirituality although I can discern the advanced purity of someone who has developed a higher consciousness).

 

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Thank you for reading, @sees, I hope that you liked it. :) 

I wrote this piece around 4 years ago, and I did try my best to express how I used to feel about things back then... However, now that I'm reading my blog again, I feel that maybe not much have changed. Upon introspection I find that my views have remained quite the same, although I have gained more clarity over the years, and also that my views may have perhaps become a little more complex than how it used to be... That being said, I can totally relate to your thoughts regarding the healing of this rift, and I completely agree... I'd love to hear more about your views on this topic, and I'm sure that there's so much that we can discuss, and hopefully, learn about from each other... Stay connected! 

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Thanks for your update!  You say that your views may have become a little more complex....is that for the better?  I would be interested to learn what is guiding your spirituality, e.g. mentors etc - particular inspiring teachings.  What is your current focus, if any?

I used to be a buddhist (from the mahayana school) which served me well at the time.  I had a dubious 'talent' for unrequited love so badly needed to learn how to distance myself emotionally.  I was attracted to buddhism for many reasons but it also offered the ability to  learn non attachment - like watching yourself.   I cultivated that skill and it has been most beneficial.  I am naturally compassionate so was already 'there' on that!  When I was told that I had to reincarnate as a man to achieve enlightenment it made me question being a buddhist.  I do believe that such an idea is a new, cultural add-on and not one intended with the original teaching.  It was enough though to make me bow out.

I still practise mindfulness e.g. heightened awareness of how I interact.  I am half Italian so naturally quite expressive which needs reigning in at times!!  My last mentor was Eckhart Tolle who is deservedly well known now for his best seller "The Power Of Now" - enabling so many to overcome their emotional pain.  I have developed intuition which serves me well to guide me.  It is distinct from gut instinct (although there is an overlap).  A gut instinct often comes from fear and is not always accurate/reliable, whereas accessing our intuition always comes from a deep, wise place that offers good solutions/directions.  It requires stilling the mind..not having thoughts since these block its access.   I don't meditate but can get into a blissful state just by sitting in a quiet garden.

My current focus is the heart...developing it more. 

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