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Bendy Demon

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All I "want" is a job. I don't really have any life goals nor am I interested in climbing a corporate ladder.

I don't really care where I see myself in five years as I am not interested in making my job the totality of my life nor is it going to be a concern 24/7. Just an adequate job that allows me to pay the utilities and salt away a few pennies and perhaps pick up a few skills along the way.

I am diligent, get to work on time, learn what I need to learn, do over-time if needed, get along with others and I stay out of the office politics and drama. I may not have the experience or all the skills but at least I will learn them if you take the time to show me.

Is that so horrible?

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Your profile is too full of things you neither believe nor do

for me to surmise your interests and abilities.

The combination need drive you,

because therein is your best chance for success

as well as happiness--

your fulfillment.

So, why compromise before you've begun?

Again, look into taking IQ tests and answering questionnaires

designed to help place people in jobs that best suit them, e.g.

what I failed to say about the previously mentioned interview

for a job that wasn't for me was how it directed me to better

capitalize on my talents elsewhere. It hinted at my becoming

successfully self-employed. And, ever since then, I have

developed a knack for staying self-employed. Most simply,

I look for rewarding ways to be helpful to others by making

competitive use of my set of finely honed skills.

Discover your aptitude. Develop a talent, and you'll have the

confidence to claim whatever job you are convinced that you

can most effectively do. Essentially, you will be selling the fact

that you've proven yourself superior at doing a particular task

and backing it up with evidence as well as references.

Now, is that so horrible?

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Maybe I should be more clear, I am not after any managerial or administrative positions.

Anyways, develop a..."talent"????? Oh, you must have meant "skills". I can do "stuff", you know, file away stuff, use computers, clean...things like that.

I never had any real aptitude or proclivities for anything.

As for interests I have none. Same for accomplishments.

I do what I have to do, got a degree but in my mind that was no accomplishment but merely something I had to do to try and increase my possibility if getting a job.

Sadly we have been raised to think we have to constantly prostitute ourselves to the highest bidder. Pretend to be the best, pretend to be "enthusiastic", pretend, pretend, pretend.

As for I.Q..I am barely average and my aptitude tests were generic and basically inconclusive. HA!

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Aptitude shows potential and skill requires practice to evidence

talent...

You have interests, but, for some reason, deprive yourself of joy.

Might the flatness of your emotions and lack of enthusiasm be a

side-effect of a psychotropic, e.g. an anti-depressant? Or, some

underlying medical condition?--

Don't mistake my line of questioning for prying,

as much of it is simply for you to ponder...

btw, it's helpful for me to know your gender now--

not that that will make me any better of a would-be matchmaker.

Elsewhere you mentioned, but did not specify, onetime hobbies.

That they once cheered you is something.

Are you sure you're not underrating some useful expertise? e.g.

a person skilled in putting together puzzles

might have a flair for organization, lay-out, graphics ...&c.

A degree is an accomplishment. The type thereof together with

things such as personality traits and favorite past times should

create a larger picture that I, as an acquaintance, lack.

An honest living is no more nor less. One's marketing his labor

and/or goods to the highest bidder isn't prostitution but prudent.

And, as a designer, who better than I to give my vision expression?--

Life isn't all black and white nor even as gray as you depict it.

That my palette is full of colors lets me transform boring and drab

into something new, esthetically pleasing and, therefore, of interest.

Moreover, as colors represent energies, effect moods and, even,

appetites, a decorator's use of it can cause appreciable others

to feel restful or absolutely vibrant--why else decorate for parties?

Speaking of which, I've a friend from a large family whose ability to

cater to a large crowd at the drop of a hat eventually provided her

a lucrative career that could've become a business.

Back to IQ, while one may not do well overall on tests thereof,

s/he should notice some parts seem easier than others. Ease in

doing something is nearly as good being graced. Nearly, since

it's not altogether a God-given but acquired, e.g. that even you

could learn how to be a social-butterfly amuses me. Why?

Your taking more interest in others would let you forget your woes,

make contacts, gain ideas, have fun and, maybe, learn to trust

enough to fall in love. Not that romance is everything but what is

most lacking in your life is passion--passion for anything or anyone.

It's time you permit yourself enough zest for life to "follow your bliss"

--Joseph Campbell.

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I am not sure I ever mentioned any hobbies cheering me up.

Anyway, I am glad your palate is colorful, mine is not and I really don't see what I am missing. I never had any "bliss" to follow nor did I ever really have anything that attracted me and as I grew I realized that hobbies are a waste of my energy especially if they do not have any real life use.

Puzzles? Sorry..bores me after a couple of minutes. (I am pretty sure my cat pilfered one of the pieces too) Decorating? Never really meant anything to me. I am just fine in a blandly colored environment.

I was never really interested in others, I mean I can fake it a little and ask bland questions but beyond that I mind my own business.

(I have no desire to be a social butterfly. Takes too much energy to fake it all)

My emotional and enthusiastic flatness is simply my personality. There is only so much faking I can do before I just tire of it all. Pretending to be highly interested in something is just that, pretending. That is what I generally see, especially in the work world. You have to always put on a mask and pretend that you find the daily grind ever-so invigorating. Even in interviews one is expected to be highly enthusiastic about even basic jobs like flipping burgers or cleaning toilets.

So naturally I am being looked at as being either sick in the head or suffering form medications (which I am not on, by the way) because I am not jumping up and down and talking a mile a minute. I just find life, itself, kind of boring. Sure, I do "stuff" but after awhile I do see it all as just filler to pass the time.

As for education, I suppose some see getting a degree as an accomplishment, for me I just don't see it as such. It is merely something I had to do. Millions of people are getting degrees.

I think we end up spending most of our lives pretending to be this or pretending to feel that because that is what is expected. A life of constantly pretending so one might wonder where all this authenticity comes in if we are constantly expected to pretend to be or feel something just to appease our bosses, interviewers, instructors and so on.

Anyway..I am rambling 'cause my coffee cup has mysteriously emtied itself....

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It seems you solely believe your negative and, thus, limiting self-definitions.

My sense of connection to something greater than myself adds height and

depth to my life in ways worth celebrating, giving thanks. That connection

is yours, too. Deny it, deny yourself.

I only mentioned puzzles as an example of something you'd find mundane.

With all of the shapes in the world, in nature, why shouldn't some people

view them fascinating? We are, in one way or another, seeking, collecting

and piecing together the stuff of life.

0:-) MGby.

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There are lots of things greater than myself. All of nature itself is greater than I and I am full well aware that we all are a part of it but I am certainly not going to worship it either. I may need nature to live but it certainly doesn't need me so why not extend that to everything else? Does the world need me? Of course not.

I guess I just do not see anything negative in recognizing my insignificance and average-ness. People are all different and interpret things differently and I am simply one of those that sees life through eyes that are unclouded by semantics and philosophies.

Nice conversation so far....

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StarMountainKid

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It seems to me you are already following your own philosophy. Nihilism? Absurdism? Existentialism? Maybe the novels of Albert Camus, or 'Notes from Underground', by Fyodor Dostoyevsky would fit your philosophy.

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I don't really follow any of the philosophies you mentioned. I just cannot muster the energy to force myself to constantly fake something I never felt.

I think our society has become so entrenched with this idea of individuality that we end up thinking we are so special yet when you go to school, work or even volunteering, it really doesn't matter who you are personally just as long as there is a living body to do the work that is needed.

Society judges us by our level of narcissism and if we chant the "I love me" mantra loud enough and pretend to feel that we are just awesome people then we are called "normal" and "well adjusted" but if one does not dance to that tune then that person is labeled as being sick or something. It is just something I have observed.

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A stick-in-the-mud's tantra is "tolerate me."

It isn't so much what you do but how you do it.

Taking much for granted, you live joylessly.

Animals have distinct personalities. Therefore,

the celebration of individuality isn't necessarily

self-centered. Some people have a way of

spreading cheer wherever they go just for being

pleasant as attentive.

Warmth radiates from the heart.

Try giving thanks for not-so-little things: peace,

soothing breezes, rainbows, pleasant aromas, hot

water, clean sheets/towels, shoes, knowing from

where your next meal will come, having others

who care about you / your well-being, their and

your having a roof over your heads, health ...&c.

Are comforts lost on you, too?

Break out of your self-constricting mold, and learn

to live a little.

http://www.lyricsman...fitzgerald.html

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For me, "living" is just another word for 'life experience'.

I'm over 50 and have redesigned myself at least a half dozen times. I went from a darkroom photographer and media producer to fighting forest fires in about three years (with a stint in carpentry involved in the middle).

Don't worry Ryu. You'll find your way, or like me, not. :)

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Most people, including yourself, work to live

and not vice versa, while self-actualization

in the Holy Spirit implies a way of serving that

blurs the line between working and living.

From a spiritual perspective, we are ever to

example Christ on behalf of the Father. The

fidelity with which I can so do is a degree of

transcendence for, insofar as living is dying,

"the evangelical view of death s the release

from a vale of tears into a transcendent heaven"

--Lyn Pykett. In other words, I am happiest

when I can not only see beyond the illusions

of this world but help others avoid its pitfalls, e.g.

as one who, both as an authorized employee

and as a proprietor, has hired help, I am partial

toward enthusiastically constructive persons who

as much define themselves in positive terms as

seek to affirm others in their collaborative efforts.

"What constitutes 'living' in your mind?"

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This is how society has been designed; you are trained to live to work. This is why people are forced to work two or more jobs just to make basic ends meet. This is why education serves only to further potential employment.

Why do you think that all our lives efforts, especially as we are growing up is all dedicated to the almighty job. Our entire day and lives concerns center around jobs and whether or not we will even have a job the next day.

As for "living", to me it is synonymous with existing. It is all semantics.

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Granted my last explanation was clear as mud,

you do not understand what rules me.

However, I recognize the basis of your soap box.

Neither do I like corporatism.

Still, if living is merely existing to you,

what's the difference between it and working?

To enjoy nothing is excruciating boredom.

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Not really. It is kind of liberating in a way because you do not get attached much to artificial mindsets.

I can like things but I learn to keep a large mental distance from it so as not to get too attached once it gets taken away by some means.

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The fact is that, though I don't believe you don't enjoy anything,

I respect your reasons for not wanting to state your pastimes.

There is much I've had and lost. And other things I've gained.

All in all, I'm thankful for it all. Even the losses, not just because

they've taught me to cherish all that I hold dearest, nearest to my

heart, but because I enjoy some risk-taking.

"[...] Make a little take a little

Live a little give a little

Give a little get a little love."

0:-) MGby.

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I didn't state my past times because I don't have any.

I did not have any hobbies or interests; I did "stuff" only to pretend to be busy but I never pursued anything because it all bored me to death.

My thinking on any hobby was "Why? After I have done said activity then what?"

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You neither stated your major and minor.

Because I know nothing about your experience,

there is little that I can suggest you do to obtain

your goal. I only mentioned pastimes as a means

of my possibly gaining information useful to my

offering you ideas for achieving that end.

Experimenting with hobbies is a way of learning.

Collectively, my artistic endeavors, study of the

sciences and sales experience is what permits

me to be self-employed. That much I have said

only to expand your way of thinking in order that

you might broaden your opportunities.

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Major and minor???

All I have is an 13 year old associate degree in web design. It was useless then as it is now. As for goals, I really don't have any of those.

I need to move eventually but for me it is merely something that needs to be done so I really do not call it a goal anymore than getting out of a burning house is a goal.

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Your said you wanted a job.

Something initially interested you in web design.

Contemplate whatever that was and kindle it.

Use whatever impetus compels you to change

in order to break the mold that is stifling you.

That is all I have to say on the subject.

Peace be with you.

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"initially" I had the asinine idea that I wanted to do character design for manga or games. It was a stupid idea and I whole-heartedly acknowledge that. There is no future in it plus one has to have an aptitude for stuff like that.

I do not have the luxury of contemplating and rekindling anything. I never knew what I wanted to do really and I still don't; have no idea where my skills lay so I may as well just grab some basic courses in something and get whatever job I can.

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I can say one thing about you. You are much more intelligent that you say you are.....nothing average about how you express yourself, which you do very well.

You seem to have an unusual personality, so others may need to box you in a bit to be handle your 'understanding', 'slant', or philosophy of life.

You seem to need little, live a simple life and are outside the normal control of cultural norms, or if you wish, brainwashing.

I do think what has been presented here is done with good will, a great deal of it......people probably like you more than you think ;-).

Peace

Mark

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White Crane Feather

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Would you like some ideas Ryu? I have a method of getting a ton of interviews for people. It's kind of a shotgun approach, but it's never failed somone willing to follow through. Let me know.

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