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DebDandelion

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There are a few rules in my life that I don't break or even tempt to break, I also make.it very clear to people.that these are my rules if.you want to take.our friendship from friendly greetings to having coffee.

I also don't ask people for coffee if I don't want a next level friendship. for me,  having coffee with someone means I am willing to invest time and effort into the friendship.

I am also the kind of.person you should be honest with, like earth shattering.honest. I tend to respect you more and in most cases I won't lose trust in you. even if you did something that seems so wrong to society I take the fact that you are honest with me so seriously that I won't betray your trust.

But then, along the road of life you find those that lie.to you to protect you ( their grasp on what they have done).  I always have to wonder, are you really.lying to me because you want to protect me?( In that case you really do not.know me), or are you lying because you don't have the back bone to admit what you have done?

Flip side of the.coin being I have a friend that says what she doesn't know can't.hurt her. so she chooses denial over knowledge.  

So technically her trust can.only be broken once she finds out something happened...if she find out...Maybe that would be bliss...just not. knowing...

I dunno...what a challenge. 

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Hi Debstermania,

 I was in my 20's when I came to the conclusion that the only person I needed to trust was myself. I don't put people in the position that I have to have any concerns as to whether or not they can compromise me. I treat people fairly and with respect but still maintain a distance,for the most part they consider me a friend although to me I see myself as friendly.

jmccr8

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Hello there. in general I don't allow.people in my inner circle of.piece..reason being if.you don't get your hopes up/don't have expectations you won't be disappointed.  people have on many occasions disappointed me, then again I am pretty sure I also disappointed them.

I at some point walled in my soul, heart and thoughts but.i found that I lost a part of.who I am, so I compromised and lowered the walls.for some,  very few selected souls.

For these souls I provide trust.  I place trust in them and expect them to do the same. we have an unconditional friendship, honesty a requirement and critical thinking needed. needless to say this develops over time, so these friends are for life, and mostly the become family.

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