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MIL to be again

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This was a status update, but due to size and I know it's not done yet felt blog would be better.

 

This happened Sunday 20th Aug 2017, 7:30pm.

MIL to be came over here last night unwelcomed, to demand the desktop computer she gave Michael back. BANGED (I mean banged like when you're punching something banged) on the door (door bell broke years ago) yelled at me to tell him. Again she called Michael a FING SELFISH PRICK, because he told her that it takes hours to transfer things if he has to give comp back. That's one of her go to lines.

I rang local police station and they told me I can't get a restraining order out unless she harms one of us or our property more then twice. First time is assault charge only. We can tell her to leave or refuse to answer door and have police removed her.  

Considering when Noel was in the local hospital near me (5/10min walk) she "forgot how to get to my house" so Michael could give her a lift home, she found our house yesterday in the dark. I have her phone numbers blocked on my phone and deleted her friend request on Facebook.

I got told by the police station that her threats aren't seen as something they deal with!

That homeowner (dad) has to be first to tell her to leave then police if she doesn't listen or he's not home.

Basically until the person harms you or your property atleast twice, you are powerless.

 

We know she'll be back sometime this week to try again.

When she comes back part of me so badly wants to say YOU'RE BANNED AND NOT ALLOWED HERE LEAVE! Then slam the door in her face. I will however be recording everything said if I think to grab phone at the time to do so.

Dad said he's going to padlock the front gate (instead of it just closed, back gates are pinned and locked to) again so she try getting in here, it used to be padlocked when he had the medium he owned out front. She wouldn't be able to jump it its too high for her to.

Thurs is her birthday, so it'll be Weds or Thurs she returns.

I'm angry she's free to verbally abuse because the law sucks.

 

That's why I wanted a restraining order to stop her being able to contact or come near, but got told no. 

I know if I really wanted to I could get her to the point she would lay a hand on me, but I'm not that type.

In one way he still has to in directly deal with her, Will hasn't been read by lawyers yet and Noels court case is still going but that's through Noels lawyers who have Michaels number.

Michael says don't answer the door to her. I think she's heading for Psych break because of everything she's done is biting her in the A.

We legally can psychward her if we feel she's a harm to herself or others (great psychologist I had told me that) and Michael said go for it (even he wanted me to get AVO out on her).

I don't want to unless it gets really bad, because her dogs only have her (as in people they know well), lost Noel, Michael moved out so they would have been grieving that and would stop eating etc from stress if they lost her for a day or more.

 

Best we can do is call police to tell her to leave. Gate was shut so she would have lifted the pin and opened it to get in here. To me closed gate is DO NOT ENTER WITHOUT PERMISSION,  but she and her crazy self things the rule doesn't apply.

Michael thinks she'll be back when he and dad are at work, in the hopes she can get me to let her in or grab it.

Not happening there's no love or any good feelings to that woman, she's his mom and that's it is how I see it.

Michael says he thinks she's losing it, she told him pick up his dart board so she could rent his old bedroom out. He did and day later she rang to ask had he been to her house.

 

The exact words one of the local (where I live there's one in one area and another in a different area, both close to me) police stations told me last night when I called. I said so threats to KICK MY A** THROW ME BY THE SCRUFF OF MY NECK! YOU WON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT while trying not to have an Anxiety attack. That they're (AVO/restraining orders) very hard to get now.

She can verbally abuse and threaten us with no legal ramifications, because there's no physical harm or damage.

The law is fudged up that's for sure.  

 

I have abusive notes (Michael gave permission for me to share and show my psychologist) from her she wrote to him before he moved out of her house.

We're talking nasty stuff calling him lazy, selfish etc and playing the dying husband/ his dad card to try to get her own way. He works 5-6 day weeks 10-11 hour (Sat is 4 hours if he gets called in) days and she does nothing yet calls him selfish etc.

 

 

 

 


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tcgram

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Holy cow!!    That woman is beyond ridiculous!!    I cannot believe that the police said they could do nothing until she tears up your property twice or harms one of you.   By the time she harms someone it's too late!!    I agree that Michael should get her admitted somewhere for a total psych evaluation, she needs one.     

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16 minutes ago, tcgram said:

Holy cow!!    That woman is beyond ridiculous!!    I cannot believe that the police said they could do nothing until she tears up your property twice or harms one of you.   By the time she harms someone it's too late!!    I agree that Michael should get her admitted somewhere for a total psych evaluation, she needs one.     

Anyone who knows her legally can request one, if he was to it would carry more weight due to him being her son. She's been in psych ward a few times before.

The law is useless, oh if she hits at least once we can assault charge her that's it.

Michael thinks she's lost it, his words not mine. I have a feeling she's running around telling people I've brainwashed him to cut her out, she says her dad brainwashed her mom into becoming a Jehovah's Witness years ago. Or that he "left her on her own to be nasty and hurt her". Or I stop him seeing her, I've said many times to him and again last night said If you want a relationship with her and want to see her that's up to you, I'm not going to have one and won't stop you.

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Ruby04

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She did go NOW I DON'T HAVE ALL DAY!

Noel would be so mad at all this if he was here, he told her to pull her head in before he passed.

If she does come when the guys aren't home she will get told to leave, she's not stupid enough to try coming in the house then she would get trespassing charge.

If I really wanted to I could push her to the point she would hit me, but I don't want to be psychically harmed just to get something done. 

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We have padlock and keys for gate again. Dad was saying legally people are allowed in your front yard to knock on your door, however if she tries stepping foot in backyard/car port area that's trespassing.

Oldest sister (who knows all and at my birthday dinner last year got up and ran to the toilets while I was in there with a friend, because MIL to be was heading in and big sis didn't want MIL to be to start on me) has inboxed her on Facebook. She said (cleaned up for here): I'm going to get straight to the point. How dare u take someone to MY MOTHER'S home & carry on the way you did?! I was informed by a friend that lives close by of your banging & loud mouth. I am going to ask you once & once only to stay the f away from my mother's home AND my sister! If you want to see your son then call or make arrangements via telephone. Your presence is NOT wanted or required at all & your bs mind-games will not work in this part of our family.

She was informed by me not a friend but said that to protect me.

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Michelle

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Your dad is wrong. If the gate is locked and you have a no trespassing sign on it, they have no right to enter. 

Just FYI...

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Ruby04

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46 minutes ago, Michelle said:

Your dad is wrong. If the gate is locked and you have a no trespassing sign on it, they have no right to enter. 

Just FYI...

No sign just closed gate, she had to lift the pins to open it. I think he meant if gate is open they're allowed it.

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