Lifestyle.. doesn't do much for me.
I looked it up in the dictionary, several sites actually and the common definition as:
Noun-Lifestyle- A manner of living that reflects the person's values and attitudes.
I hear much about the 'gay lifestyle' and I do not get it at all.
In this case, I am using lesbian, gay, bisexual as 'homosexual' and straight as straight or heterosexual.
What maes a homosexual different than a heterosexual is one thing. "sexual attraction".
Sexual attraction has nothing to do with values or even really attitudes. It is just the gender in which you are sexually attracted to.
I am sexually attracted to both genders. I do not live a lifestyle defined by my sexual attraction. I live a lifestyle of the average human being. I value my family, I value my friends, I value honesty common decency.
I have a good attitude in general, sure I get upset, angry and depressed, but I do not take it out on people if I can help it. When I do get angry and take it out on someone and realize what I have done, I am apologetic and I do more then say the words 'I am sorry', I actually work towards letting them know how sorry I am and do my best to express it in actions and how I behave.
I have the attitude that everyone deserves respect regardless of their faith or color or gender until they prove otherwise. Sexual attraction is not something that would prove otherwise because I am of the belief that as long as I do not htink you are being abused or abusive, and it is legal, it is none of my business who you are with, who you marry and it really is none of my business who you take to your bed!
I live among homosexuals and heterosexuals and I will admit that most of the time I have no idea which they are until I see them in a relationship with someone. I mean do you really go to people you meet and say 'you homosexual?'. No!
Like most other people here, I wake up at a certain time and prepare for work, I go to the toilet first thing on waking and take care of THAT, then I grab a shower as a wake me up and eat a breakie.. then brush teeth and hair, put on deoderant, baby powder.. and body spray, then grab my lunch (my daughter actually makes it for me) and off I am to work for 8 hours.
I come home, spend time with friends and family, eat.. grab a rince off to wash away the workaday, then change into night clothes to relax and jump on the computer, sometime during the late evening I may watch tv, a movie with the family.. then perhaps for an hour before bedtime.. read, then go to the toilet.. wash hands.. brush teeth and go to bed.
Wake up and beginagain.
Isn't that close to the same thing everyone else does? personal hygiene, personal friends, personal family.. and work.. oh and food and sleep.
Weekends, maybe a movie, working in yard, spending time with loved ones, family.. shopping, catching up on bills and if lucky i will clean out my purse.. catch up on some shows I taped during the week.. go to the library.. weather permitting, swimming? picnic? park? zoo?
Then the workaday again.
Hrmm.. for a homosexual, my life seems to be basically the same as everyone elses.
It seems that the 'lifestyle' people speak of is their own.
Gay LIfestyle is basically the straight lifestyle..
I think the problem is this.. 'stupid selections'.
Yes.. 'stupid selections'.
You have heard of selective memory? Well Stupid Selections is when you watch media and read media and stupidly select those specific articals as the RIGHT THING.
See, the media is not going to post and speak of 'normal everyday things', over and over and over, these things are done rarely so they look like they are 'rare', no.. they pick out wild parties and parades and tout them over and over.. so that it is seen and believed to be the 'norm', and the straight people hwo need to somehow make homosexual perverted.. and HANG ON TO THE STUPID SELECTIONS.. like a starving dog on a bone.
Yet, if homosexuals or (since majority of the homosexual hating groups are christian) other straights condemn christianity based on what they are perceived as doing on a regular basis.. such as KKK.. The Crusades.. then Christians rear up and say 'dont take those groups and make them the whole thing'.. yet. is that not what they do about homosexuals?
Here is the biggie too.
Not all of us are Christian.. or religious or even believe in the bible as a holy book
why should some text from a book we do not believe in rule our lives and dictate if we should be permitted to marry or not?
I do not see a 'gay lifestyle' any more then there is a 'straight lifestyle'
All I see is people around me, including myself.. who are trying to survive in a world that money seems to rule.. so we work work work, try to pay bills that are climbing higher then our pay raises, keep food in our bellies and the bellies of our families, and for those who want to.. trying to find comfort and companionship and a love of the heart in another human being, regardless of gender.
It is basically all the same, until you enter the 'sex' and basically you have no business in my sex life, and nor do I have any in yours.
This lifestyle stuff? It is all in the heads of people who are clutching desperately for anything to cling to.
You should be clutching at being good to one another.
“The world needs a sense of worth, and it will achieve it only by its people feeling that they are worthwhile.”