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rambling 6 - a poem and two thought processes
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SpiritWriter
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23 September 2012
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I've Had A Change Of Heart, Honey
I hated you
and put up defense
with my body
my face
my feet and elbows swelled
I puffed and sweltered
in disagreement with your buzzing
and you turned up your butt to snub me.
HA - I laughed as you got squished
until you went into remission.
Oh little bee
now I love your sugar.
I'd rather be stuck with you
than anything granulated or shifty.
Come pet my flower
with those bags at your hips.
Spend all day
in my bushes.
**
Thoughts on Child Rearing
We have not been endowed with a physical grapple over our children's lives and as they grow they become more and more independent of us. When they make choices that are contrary to the decisions we would have made for them we remember our own learning experiences and the states our minds were in when we were young.
Are we sold out to being the most effective role model our children can have? Are we taking care of ourselves so that we too have healthy minds? Are we looking at our own stress levels, our own actions. Are we taking care of our mess? Do we realize that we do not have control over everything, no matter how hard we try to fight to keep hold of the reigns?
As our children grow closer to adulthood the strings of our aprons our loosening everyday. Let us be forgiving but not quiet in times of disobedience. Let us bring shortcomings out to the table to discuss so the lines of communication are open even if the situations we need to discuss are hard to bare. We are interested in the overall person, their future, their growth process, the way they are able to understand and process information in order to make better decisions. Focusing on individual actions that make us mad can in effect cause a rift in communication. This leads to sneakiness, lying and holding back truth. Should our children share everything with us? Well that depends on the relationship we have with them. It is important that they do have someone they can feel comfortable with sharing everything with, that can see it from their perspective as well as offer sound advice without throwing in the guilt card or being judgmental. It is important in dealing with those we discipline to remember to see the God within them and to recognize the desire in them to make good choices that will aid in their success in life, while not forgetting the human tenancy to push boundaries. We make boundaries out of stern rubber. After they bounce off of them a few times without getting hurt too bad, we can explain what they were set up for in the first place. If they promise not to be whiny, we can remove the boundary, or perhaps push it back a few notches and let them know we trust them with their freedom.
**
Thoughts on Sorrow and Guilt
Help me to immediately recognize the mistakes I make and promptly atone for them. Let me apologize as quickly as the spirit makes me aware but let me be thoughtful and discerning about my own sorrow, that I would not apologize for speaking a truth or for defending my own boundary. Let me not apologize for someone else's sorrow. Meaning that if a person appears hurt by my actions, but I have acted rightly, let me not feel guilt by my act. If I should explain my case and they are abusive, then the spirit should decide; Will I remain silent and each of us go our way, or do I engage for the purpose of both of our enlightenments? There is a time for silence and a time to walk away. The spirit can work on a man, in the loneliness of his heart and does not need inappropriate moments and inadequate mouth-pieces to persuade its case.
Let me also not reject the teachable moments that make me reflect on myself, my habits, my words, thoughts and actions. Let my purification not be in vain and for the sake of the pride in my heart but that I would be a usable utensil in the service of righteousness. Let me at all times remain humble and increase always in humility. This requires silent times and the silent recognition of the state of my own heart. A humble man would not ever mention that he is humble and to even think such a thought would require a plea for more humility. When we feel the choices we have made have failed us and we contemplate a better way, let us exercise our faith in hearing the voice of wisdom that speaks to each of our hearts.
**
I hated you
and put up defense
with my body
my face
my feet and elbows swelled
I puffed and sweltered
in disagreement with your buzzing
and you turned up your butt to snub me.
HA - I laughed as you got squished
until you went into remission.
Oh little bee
now I love your sugar.
I'd rather be stuck with you
than anything granulated or shifty.
Come pet my flower
with those bags at your hips.
Spend all day
in my bushes.
**
Thoughts on Child Rearing
We have not been endowed with a physical grapple over our children's lives and as they grow they become more and more independent of us. When they make choices that are contrary to the decisions we would have made for them we remember our own learning experiences and the states our minds were in when we were young.
Are we sold out to being the most effective role model our children can have? Are we taking care of ourselves so that we too have healthy minds? Are we looking at our own stress levels, our own actions. Are we taking care of our mess? Do we realize that we do not have control over everything, no matter how hard we try to fight to keep hold of the reigns?
As our children grow closer to adulthood the strings of our aprons our loosening everyday. Let us be forgiving but not quiet in times of disobedience. Let us bring shortcomings out to the table to discuss so the lines of communication are open even if the situations we need to discuss are hard to bare. We are interested in the overall person, their future, their growth process, the way they are able to understand and process information in order to make better decisions. Focusing on individual actions that make us mad can in effect cause a rift in communication. This leads to sneakiness, lying and holding back truth. Should our children share everything with us? Well that depends on the relationship we have with them. It is important that they do have someone they can feel comfortable with sharing everything with, that can see it from their perspective as well as offer sound advice without throwing in the guilt card or being judgmental. It is important in dealing with those we discipline to remember to see the God within them and to recognize the desire in them to make good choices that will aid in their success in life, while not forgetting the human tenancy to push boundaries. We make boundaries out of stern rubber. After they bounce off of them a few times without getting hurt too bad, we can explain what they were set up for in the first place. If they promise not to be whiny, we can remove the boundary, or perhaps push it back a few notches and let them know we trust them with their freedom.
**
Thoughts on Sorrow and Guilt
Help me to immediately recognize the mistakes I make and promptly atone for them. Let me apologize as quickly as the spirit makes me aware but let me be thoughtful and discerning about my own sorrow, that I would not apologize for speaking a truth or for defending my own boundary. Let me not apologize for someone else's sorrow. Meaning that if a person appears hurt by my actions, but I have acted rightly, let me not feel guilt by my act. If I should explain my case and they are abusive, then the spirit should decide; Will I remain silent and each of us go our way, or do I engage for the purpose of both of our enlightenments? There is a time for silence and a time to walk away. The spirit can work on a man, in the loneliness of his heart and does not need inappropriate moments and inadequate mouth-pieces to persuade its case.
Let me also not reject the teachable moments that make me reflect on myself, my habits, my words, thoughts and actions. Let my purification not be in vain and for the sake of the pride in my heart but that I would be a usable utensil in the service of righteousness. Let me at all times remain humble and increase always in humility. This requires silent times and the silent recognition of the state of my own heart. A humble man would not ever mention that he is humble and to even think such a thought would require a plea for more humility. When we feel the choices we have made have failed us and we contemplate a better way, let us exercise our faith in hearing the voice of wisdom that speaks to each of our hearts.
**
