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Paying the bills
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Beckys_Mom
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10 April 2006
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This is my personal rant
My partner and I own our own home, but like everyone that are in the same boat, know there are bills to be paid…right? And if you value your home and want to keep a roof over your head you will pay these bills
Sigh….My partner Gary has been living with me for 10 years, we always paid our bills on time, it was not a problem…but later Gary insisted he wanted to take full control as I have other things to attend…I thought fair enough!!
Up until last year, everything was going great, until one day I received a letter from the bank manager telling me our mortgage was in arrears!!!
This annoyed me, as I knew we could afford to pay this, so why the heck was it in arrears? Of course I collared Gary about this, he denied it…now when someone lies to me, I will get pissed off………..We winded up fighting over this….so I told him, that was it, from now on the monthly payments is something I will take care of and I will create a separate account for this.
He panicked for some strange reason…and asked me to give him one more change to make things right…after a while I had calmed down and said OK, this time I will give you the benefit of the doubt, and let you fix it.
He told me he had spoken to the bank manager, and had made arrangements to pay back what was outstanding….but he forgot that along with the mortgage, you also have to pay your rates, and if you don’t pay your rates, you could looses your home and wind up in court, as its illegal not to pay them…..guess what Gary ignored?? The RATES!!!...
I received a letter from the RSA telling me the rates where also in arrears. I was like WTF is going on with him??? So again I collared him about this…after he was done beating around the bush just to tell me..he couldn’t be bothered to pay them (when I knew fine well that was it) So he told me he would contact them and pay them back….again I gave him the benefit of the doubt…
A months later I asked him was everything being paid back like promised?..He smiled and said – Not to worry!! - I took his word for it, because he hates it when I question him and don’t trust him, so I did, but in the back of my mind I had a feeling he was telling more lies..but I decided to wait and see what happens.
A few months have now passed and guess what? – I just received another letter from the RSA saying the arrears where still not paid…wtf?? So I called him up this morning..I growled at him and asked WHY?? Its not as if we couldn’t afford it..so WHY lie to me about it and why not pay up??? He again LIED thought his teeth..grrrrrrrrrrrr…now the arrears have doubled..all because I placed my trust in him again…..so now I have to make arrangements for another account in my own name..and leave it purely for bills such as my mortgage and rates, and I know he will yap at me saying I don’t trust him ect…well darn straight I don’t trust him…he don’t like paying bills….he never worries over them, until he receives a final red letter….I like to get it over with ASAP..I think ahead all the time
He once had my previous bank account frozen…the big mistake I made, was letting him put his name on to my account. In time he had other bills left unpaid and he had the account frozen and everything went pear shaped and when I was pregnant, the stress I went though with this crap, was terrible. I had to sort this out myself..I am done arguing with him, I am done trusting him…he even ignores the fact his car tax needs sorted…I always tell him a few months before it runs out, that he needs to re-new his car tax…does he listen??? NOT A MISSION…he waits until they send him a letter to take him to court..yes he is a prize plonker !!!
How can I trust someone that lies all the time and creates a mess for us??? Is there help he can get?? Meaning someone to talk things out with him, that is a professional and will help him understand that he is now a father and a home owners and that these things should be taken care of ASAP!!!!
I could just scream!! I just want to smack him one and knock some sense into him...its supposed to be a 50/50 relationship aaacccckkkkkk
That is all
My partner and I own our own home, but like everyone that are in the same boat, know there are bills to be paid…right? And if you value your home and want to keep a roof over your head you will pay these bills
Sigh….My partner Gary has been living with me for 10 years, we always paid our bills on time, it was not a problem…but later Gary insisted he wanted to take full control as I have other things to attend…I thought fair enough!!
Up until last year, everything was going great, until one day I received a letter from the bank manager telling me our mortgage was in arrears!!!
This annoyed me, as I knew we could afford to pay this, so why the heck was it in arrears? Of course I collared Gary about this, he denied it…now when someone lies to me, I will get pissed off………..We winded up fighting over this….so I told him, that was it, from now on the monthly payments is something I will take care of and I will create a separate account for this.
He panicked for some strange reason…and asked me to give him one more change to make things right…after a while I had calmed down and said OK, this time I will give you the benefit of the doubt, and let you fix it.
He told me he had spoken to the bank manager, and had made arrangements to pay back what was outstanding….but he forgot that along with the mortgage, you also have to pay your rates, and if you don’t pay your rates, you could looses your home and wind up in court, as its illegal not to pay them…..guess what Gary ignored?? The RATES!!!...
I received a letter from the RSA telling me the rates where also in arrears. I was like WTF is going on with him??? So again I collared him about this…after he was done beating around the bush just to tell me..he couldn’t be bothered to pay them (when I knew fine well that was it) So he told me he would contact them and pay them back….again I gave him the benefit of the doubt…
A months later I asked him was everything being paid back like promised?..He smiled and said – Not to worry!! - I took his word for it, because he hates it when I question him and don’t trust him, so I did, but in the back of my mind I had a feeling he was telling more lies..but I decided to wait and see what happens.
A few months have now passed and guess what? – I just received another letter from the RSA saying the arrears where still not paid…wtf?? So I called him up this morning..I growled at him and asked WHY?? Its not as if we couldn’t afford it..so WHY lie to me about it and why not pay up??? He again LIED thought his teeth..grrrrrrrrrrrr…now the arrears have doubled..all because I placed my trust in him again…..so now I have to make arrangements for another account in my own name..and leave it purely for bills such as my mortgage and rates, and I know he will yap at me saying I don’t trust him ect…well darn straight I don’t trust him…he don’t like paying bills….he never worries over them, until he receives a final red letter….I like to get it over with ASAP..I think ahead all the time
He once had my previous bank account frozen…the big mistake I made, was letting him put his name on to my account. In time he had other bills left unpaid and he had the account frozen and everything went pear shaped and when I was pregnant, the stress I went though with this crap, was terrible. I had to sort this out myself..I am done arguing with him, I am done trusting him…he even ignores the fact his car tax needs sorted…I always tell him a few months before it runs out, that he needs to re-new his car tax…does he listen??? NOT A MISSION…he waits until they send him a letter to take him to court..yes he is a prize plonker !!!
How can I trust someone that lies all the time and creates a mess for us??? Is there help he can get?? Meaning someone to talk things out with him, that is a professional and will help him understand that he is now a father and a home owners and that these things should be taken care of ASAP!!!!
I could just scream!! I just want to smack him one and knock some sense into him...its supposed to be a 50/50 relationship aaacccckkkkkk
That is all
Of course he got all weird and defensive with me. 
I think separate accounts are a good thing.