Dreaming of the future.

[AmIPsychic87]

Ok here is the situation, this isn't a recent event but it has been troubling me for a long time. Back in early December 2014 I had a very bizarre, very vivid, dream of my own wedding. It was like it was happening. I ended waking up before I kissed the bride but I got a good look at her face. A month later I met a girl online and we starting chatting and really hit it off. We traded pictures and here is the shocking part, her photo look identical to the girl I saw in my dream! The eyes, hair style, even the same smile and shape of the face were there! It was like I saw a photo of the girl from the dream!!!

What could this mean? How could I have an image of a girl in my head who I never met or never saw before be identical to a real person that I met no less than a month later? Did I dream of my own future??? And if I possible could she be my future wife?

Edited April 20, 2015 by AmIPsychic87

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I've had 2 dreams of things that happened later in life before. One was a trip I took in a dream with a friend to some guy's house, and later it happened in real life. The other was dreaming about a song, and in the dream I learned the name of another song that sounded a ton like it. The next day I searched the name of the similar song in the dream, and turns out it was strikingly similar (songs were Animal I Have Become by Three Days Grace and Monster by Skillet).

So the first instinct would be to think of it as you are dreaming of your own future. Another way I have seen that you can look at it, however, is you may be creating your own future (aka reality), though not fully conscious of how you are pulling it off. Just some interesting food for thought.

[AmIPsychic87]

I've had 2 dreams of things that happened later in life before. One was a trip I took in a dream with a friend to some guy's house, and later it happened in real life. The other was dreaming about a song, and in the dream I learned the name of another song that sounded a ton like it. The next day I searched the name of the similar song in the dream, and turns out it was strikingly similar (songs were Animal I Have Become by Three Days Grace and Monster by Skillet).

So the first instinct would be to think of it as you are dreaming of your own future. Another way I have seen that you can look at it, however, is you may be creating your own future (aka reality), though not fully conscious of how you are pulling it off. Just some interesting food for thought.

Creating my future? Maybe but that doesn't explain how I could see someone's face before I even meet them or see a photo of them.

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Creating my future? Maybe but that doesn't explain how I could see someone's face before I even meet them or see a photo of them.

Creating your future, as in constructing your reality, as in, you created that person. That would be why you saw them in 'real life' after you dreamed about them.

In theory.

[CarlSt]

Ok here is the situation, this isn't a recent event but it has been troubling me for a long time. Back in early December 2014 I had a very bizarre, very vivid, dream of my own wedding. It was like it was happening. I ended waking up before I kissed the bride but I got a good look at her face. A month later I met a girl online and we starting chatting and really hit it off. We traded pictures and here is the shocking part, her photo look identical to the girl I saw in my dream! The eyes, hair style, even the same smile and shape of the face were there! It was like I saw a photo of the girl from the dream!!!

What could this mean? How could I have an image of a girl in my head who I never met or never saw before be identical to a real person that I met no less than a month later? Did I dream of my own future??? And if I possible could she be my future wife?

Maybe the dream was a look into another reality where you married the girl. I think our consciousness is split and scattered across multiple realities which interact and affect each other, so perhaps a fragment of you married a fragment of her in the other reality and created a connection which then surfaced here. Probably this makes no sense to you but I suspect the girl is your future wife. Interestingly I have recently finished writing a novel about a situation like this.

[Mik2045]

I had this very interesting theory. I'm not sure how accurate it is, but, let me tell you. I'm not sure if ur has been scientifically proven or can be. But, let's say, the future has already happened but we are living at this very moment in time. Similarly to what Carl said about realities. I think that whatever is going to happen, HAS already happened and in time, we will get there. So, that being said, we've already experienced certain things (you getting married to that woman). Already having that experience, it's engrsved in your memory. What I'm trying to say is, I think the human brain is so powerful that it's able to function no matter where in time it is or which dimension. So, I think these dreams may have been a result of a spontaneous reaction that flooded your brain with these memories, sort of like a leak. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.

[CarlSt]

I had this very interesting theory. I'm not sure how accurate it is, but, let me tell you. I'm not sure if ur has been scientifically proven or can be. But, let's say, the future has already happened but we are living at this very moment in time. Similarly to what Carl said about realities. I think that whatever is going to happen, HAS already happened and in time, we will get there. So, that being said, we've already experienced certain things (you getting married to that woman). Already having that experience, it's engrsved in your memory. What I'm trying to say is, I think the human brain is so powerful that it's able to function no matter where in time it is or which dimension. So, I think these dreams may have been a result of a spontaneous reaction that flooded your brain with these memories, sort of like a leak. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.

So do you mean we already know everything that will happen? Or at least this is possible in principle? If we are experiencing something that has already happened what does this say about what we are?

[Nucular]

What could this mean? How could I have an image of a girl in my head who I never met or never saw before be identical to a real person that I met no less than a month later? Did I dream of my own future??? And if I possible could she be my future wife?

My short answer would be 'maybe'.

I have no way of knowing what you saw, and I don't know whether there's any such thing as psychic dreams/premonition etc., though for all my hoping, trying and searching I've found no evidence yet.

But what I would say is: memory is a weird thing. It's not what we usually assume it is - a record, albeit imperfect and incomplete, of past experiences, which can fade in time. It is actually an active process, throughout life; each memory revisited is a memory rewritten. We are not computers, and our brains are not hard drives. We are beings who constantly seek meaning, consistency, validation and, above all, survival; so our strange minds have been programmed, not to record an accurate recollection of events, but to provide us with whatever will make us more likely to carry on living (and thereby reproduce - google 'evolutionary psychology').

There's a ton of modern research which shows this to be the case (happy to explain further with references if anyone's interested).

On a more subjective level (I'm unaware of research to back this up, I'm speaking from personal experience), memory and recollection of dreams is particularly weird. I've had vivid, important-seeming dreams which bothered me for hours, and then later that day I realise have faded so completely I'd struggle to recall a single detail, other than that I'd had a weird dream. Although dreams are still fairly mysterious to psychologists, it has certainly been shown that they have an important role in the actual formation, processing and storage of memories, and so might be 'special' when we consider memories specifically related to dreams (again, details available on application). It also seems to me (this is a mixture personal experience and some research) that memory of dreams is often qualitatively different to real-life memories: a visual memory of a person you've met is encoded differently to a person of whom you've dreamt.

There's also the 'deja vu' experience, which is the subjective response to a stimulus that "I've seen that before", despite no evidence to that effect, or actual evidence to the contrary. This is thought to involve hiccups in parts of the brain associated with recall and recognition, such as the temporal lobe (again, details etc.), and has never been shown to involve any form of extrasensory perception - despite how it feels to one who experiences it (myself included).

I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this stuff.

Is it possible that you've got the causality of your experience the wrong way round? Could your looking at a photograph of someone with whom you feel or hope there may be a connection have 'retrofitted' itself into your dream-memory?

I have a feeling (again, this is me) that some dreams 'await fulfilment'; not in a psychic way, but in a sort of subconsciously directive way. You dream about stuff that's important to you, your hopes, wishes and desires; they are things which beg to be fulfilled. Your new online acquaintance sounds like a potential candidate for the fulfilment of your wedding dream (I know how it is to be on a conscious/subconscious search for that person). If you were primed by your (I assume) previous correspondence, and her physical appearance in the photo wasn't incompatible with your dream memory, it seems very normal that your mind could have linked the two images.

Romantic as it might be to have dreamt of your future bride, I only suggest this because my thoughts have zero bearing on whether she is or isn't your 'one'; but also, the danger of going down the 'prophecy fulfilment' route is in coming across too strongly (not all girls dig the 'soul mates' thing before you've met), or somehow feeling that you've failed if that isn't the reality that transpires. Again, I speak from personal experience

Good luck though!

[eight bits]

Nuke !

Long time, no see. Always good to have your common sense and good will stop by for a visit. (I sort of liked your creepy former avatar, but this one's OK, too, and less unsettling).

What you wrote about memory and dreams is all good, and so I just nod.

I would, however, add something, since the OP is in real-life contact with the woman and romance is in the air. The anima dream character (searchable) is great, but projecting the anima archetype (searchable) onto a living woman is unfair to her, and usually works out poorly for both partners.

Of course, I am writing from a Jungian perspective here. Regardless of whether memory was shaped by the real picture, or the OP knew what he's looking for, and has found someone like that, either way, he reports a neat synchronicity,(also searchable).

Being the lady of a gentleman's dreams should not disqualify anybody from matrimony, but doing justice to the real-life woman (and so ultimately, doing justice to the gentleman himself) requires caution - as if marriage didn't require sober premeditation anyway.

In any case, I join you in wishing the OP well, and good luck with this wonderful turn of events.

Hope to see you around more often, too.

[Nucular]

And always great to read your posts, eight bits - I haven't managed to post much in the last epoch, but have stopped in to lurk occasionally and catch up on some of your contributions. I think I may have actually internalised you as an object

In my absence they took my creepy avatar off me! And replaced it with my profile pic. Must shop around for a new creepy one...