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[Infinitemind]

I am leaving my family in a few days. I told my siblings already. My life was never
my life! My life has always been controlled my them! My decision was never my decision.
Those people are not even my family! I hate them! Living in a sunni muslim family
is not easy, especially since they are really strict on you. I was never allowed to
have a gf. I was never allowed to hang around with my friends after school, i was
never allowed to go to their house. I was always lonely and the nerd. But slowly
i started changing myself. Now i am leaving them. But i don't know where to go?!!!
Those people always made me depend on them. I don't even have a job. They make me
work for them in the family store where there is NO profit! It is going so bad
that me and my "brother" are working there for free! I have lost faith in Islam.
I think i am leaving Islam. Can anybody please help me?

[arenee]

Just checked your profile, nvm.

I'm sure there are shelters or something you can go to.  I hope someone here can give you better advice than I could.  I hope things work out for you though.

Edited by arenee, 25 April 2012 - 08:52 PM.

[Infinitemind]

arenee, on 25 April 2012 - 08:50 PM, said:

May I ask how old you are?

I am 22 years old. I live in Jamaica, Queens in New York City.

[arenee]

Infinitemind, on 25 April 2012 - 08:51 PM, said:

I am 22 years old. I live in Jamaica, Queens in New York City.

I think if you look up places there are plenty who would be willing to get you out of your situation.  I can't imagine what your life is like or what the situation is but there are places out there who would help you find a job and get on your feet.  I have limited access to certain web info here at work but I'm sure a quick google search and some phone calls could lead you in the right direction.

What do your siblings think of your leaving?

[Infinitemind]

arenee, on 25 April 2012 - 08:55 PM, said:

I think if you look up places there are plenty who would be willing to get you out of your situation.  I can't imagine what your life is like or what the situation is but there are places out there who would help you find a job and get on your feet.  I have limited access to certain web info here at work but I'm sure a quick google search and some phone calls could lead you in the right direction.

What do your siblings think of your leaving?

They are crazy too! They are just using the name of Islam to control me like them. Please i need your help!
I need to stand on my own feet. Can you give me any contact numbers or something?

[arenee]

Infinitemind, on 25 April 2012 - 08:57 PM, said:

They are crazy too! They are just using the name of Islam to control me like them. Please i need your help!
I need to stand on my own feet. Can you give me any contact numbers or something?

I really wish I could.  Like I said my computer is very limited to the things I can search on here.  I'm lucky they've not blocked UM.  Although most of the pics, videos etc, are not visible to me.  I don't have access to most webpages on the computers here.  I do admire your standing up for yourself and I hope someone here can help you locate someone who can help you?  Do you go to college or anything?

[Kasey2601]

If you have access to the internet, you can look things up through any number of search engines. We're not generally in the business of offering advice of this nature. You're in the United States, so that's a start. You have work experience, even though it sounds like you weren't paid much, if at all. Look in the phonebook under government listings. Here where I live, they are printed on blue pages to stand out. Look through there and find an appropriate number.

[Infinitemind]

arenee, on 25 April 2012 - 09:00 PM, said:

I really wish I could.  Like I said my computer is very limited to the things I can search on here.  I'm lucky they've not blocked UM.  Although most of the pics, videos etc, are not visible to me.  I don't have access to most webpages on the computers here.  I do admire your standing up for yourself and I hope someone here can help you locate someone who can help you?  Do you go to college or anything?

I used to go to Hunter College. I dropped 2 years ago. I am just so depressed in my life! It's
all thanks to my "family!!!!!"

[eight bits]

http://www.stjohns.e...rban_impact.stj

[Simbi Laveau]

Infinitemind, on 25 April 2012 - 08:51 PM, said:

I am 22 years old. I live in Jamaica, Queens in New York City.

http://www.tc.columbia.edu/muslim-nyc/

http://www.masnet.org/main/

Maybe try to save some money first ? Before just leaving.
Having nothing ,is not a good idea.
In the meanwhile,contact these 2 places.
Maybe they can help you find a place to stay until you can find a job .
Let me talk to a friend of mine.She actually got a woman out of Iraq and gave her asylum in ny.She might know someone.

This person might be able to help you as well.

http://www.asylumist.com/

Edited by Simbi Laveau, 25 April 2012 - 09:24 PM.

[CommunitarianKevin]

Is this post serious? If it is I think you need to figure things out BEFORE you leave...also a bunch of people that post on a website might not be the best source of advice...

[Star of the Sea]

Infinitemind, on 25 April 2012 - 08:51 PM, said:

I am 22 years old. I live in Jamaica, Queens in New York City.

Good luck in your search for happiness. Stay strong and have faith in yourself.... if you can let us know how you get on. Rooting for you

[Leonardo]

Infinitemind, on 25 April 2012 - 08:51 PM, said:

I am 22 years old. I live in Jamaica, Queens in New York City.

New York Dept of Youth and Community Development

Go to the "Runaway and Homeless Youth" section and there are links to various shelters such as Crisis Centres - if you are determined to leave and have nowhere else to go.

[Simbi Laveau]

HuttonEtAl, on 25 April 2012 - 09:28 PM, said:

Is this post serious? If it is I think you need to figure things out BEFORE you leave...also a bunch of people that post on a website might not be the best source of advice...

I think it is serious.Sadly so .

[Winter Summer]

Hi Infinite,

Deciding to leave an intolerable situation is a wise decision.  It's really important to stay focused on your goal and to keep the anger and frustration you feel under control.  Those feelings are justifiable, but they can muddle your thinking at this time.  Please take advantage of any or all of the resources people have listed here.

It's always darkest before the dawn, and you've definitely passed through many a dark night. You deserve a brand new day, so to speak.  My heart goes out to you and I wish you the very best.  I believe you're going to come through this.