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[moosehead]

Yes I have a copy too of Rainbow Bridge. It is touching. My girl is not suffering.  Or in pain. She is blind and of course some arthritis. I took her to the vet and we talked about when the time comes. After our talk I just did not feel it was quite time yet. She maintains her weight and goes to the bathroom ok. Doesn't seem to be in pain. If she was I would have no problem putting her down. I just think she has a few mts left maybe. She has been the best dog. She is a long haired mini dashchund. I would post a pic but my computer crashed last wk and I lost my pics. I did have a disc so can reload them but finding it now in the stuff packed for moving would be impossible. People used to stop me and ask me what kind of dog she was and comment on how cute she was.
Thanks for your support.  Seems everything right now is topsy turvy.

[ThePhantomFlanFlinger]

moosehead, on 30 August 2012 - 05:35 PM, said:

Yes I have a copy too of Rainbow Bridge. It is touching. My girl is not suffering.  Or in pain. She is blind and of course some arthritis. I took her to the vet and we talked about when the time comes. After our talk I just did not feel it was quite time yet. She maintains her weight and goes to the bathroom ok. Doesn't seem to be in pain. If she was I would have no problem putting her down. I just think she has a few mts left maybe. She has been the best dog. She is a long haired mini dashchund. I would post a pic but my computer crashed last wk and I lost my pics. I did have a disc so can reload them but finding it now in the stuff packed for moving would be impossible. People used to stop me and ask me what kind of dog she was and comment on how cute she was.
Thanks for your support.  Seems everything right now is topsy turvy.

She'll let you know when its time.....good luck for the future..!

[Hilander]

I wouldn't do anything until I had to.  But when that time comes, choke back your tears and do whats best for her.  I wish I had of had my dog put to sleep, she would of been better off, I loved her so much.

[Ryu]

Oh Moosehead..I am so sorry to hear of what you are going through.

After reading all you have said, divorcing the man is the only thing you can do.
When someone makes threats like that to you then you must leave ASAP. No second chances, not in a case like this.

I wish you well.

[moosehead]

Thank you so much. This has helped more than you all know. Each day now is a struggle. I don't even want to get up anymore. Just be glad to get thru this wkend.

[SereneScene]

I like dogs but in a family I would only want one dog max if I have kids and all that, I really dont like when people go too overboard with dogs and place their value higher than family and constantly treating them as if they are humans but still animals are great and loving and deserve respect, the whole bb gun thing is stupid, not sure why he would do that..

[Lilly]

Here's some information why animal abuse is a  'red flag' regarding a person's potential for negative/dangerous behaviour.

http://www.pet-abuse..._connection.php

[lizzieboo]

moosehead, on 28 August 2012 - 10:31 AM, said:

I will be leaving next wk. My husband and I have done nothing but fight since about 2 mts after our marriage. ALL OVER DOGS. MY DOGS. Have 3 and one is 20 yrs old and blind. Now I had 4 when we met. He does not want the dogs in the house. He should have mentioned that from the beginning. But he didn't and seemed all was well. I have always been an animal lover and I stood my ground. He should have been honest with me. I did give one away. And the 20 yr old will not be with me much longer. The other is an Australian Shep. I rescued her from euthanism. She had heart worm and only weighed 23 lbs. Her pic is on my profile.
I divorced my first husband back in the 80's and NEVER wanted to remarry. However, this happened to be a man I had actually went to school with. I left here and was gone for 33 yrs. When  I returned we met up and then married.
I can see his point too but I am not willing to get rid of my dogs. He is not worth it. So...I have all my stuff packed and now am just waiting to leave  after the Labor Day wkend. Do not want to travel moving then.
I thought this marriage would be for the rest of my life. But I have always said nothing lasts forever.
I hate it has come to this but during these 2 yrs I have also endured 3 surgeries. And he had one too. Things have been against us from the start. I think we could have maybe worked it out but we both are stubborn. This is his 4th marriage. Hmmmm. That should have been a red flag for me! And we rushed in to it too.
I will not miss the arguing or him. I have already gone thru the crying, being down all the time, etc. I am going back home and already have a job lined up so I will be ok. AND WILL HAVE MY DOGS HOWEVER AND WHENEVER I WANT THEM IN MY HOUSE. Never thought it would end this way but I have just had enough. Last night he said "I wish they would all die". He can be mean and I think 2 yrs is enough. Few more days and I will be gone out of this place and back home where I belong. I will be much happier. I don't think I have ever seen this man smile or laugh. You have to have some fun in life and show it. I'm just done. And now I wish I could leave before the holiday. But I just don't have things ready yet. Loose ends to tie up and all.
I know some of you will feel the same about animals as he does. But he actually shot my A Shep w a bb gun. Close range too. He is just mean sometimes. Oh well. Another chapter about to begin in my life. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I am northern bound.

Sweetheart, I admire you deeply for your commitment to your dogs. I have two dogs (a Newfie puppy that my husband gave me last Christmas, and an elderly pug we recently rescued from a puppy mill). I also have three cats, all adopted. When I met my hubby, I had 17 cats (I used to take in lots of strays). He was the first guy who not only wasn't repulsed by all the cats, but actually remembered all their names after only being told once. Oddly, he had the same attitude that your soon-to-be ex has about animals: He didn't want them in the house. But he changed because he cared enough to get to know me, which meant getting to know my cats, too. Five years after we met (three years after we got married), he joined me in volunteering for a feral cat rescue group.

What I'm getting at here is that you are completely in the right. Paul McCartney once said, "You can judge a man's true character by the way he treats his fellow animals." Your dogs love you unconditionally; apparently your estranged husband was not able to learn the lesson of loving unconditionally from them. It's his loss, not yours.

Have faith; I sense a beautiful spirit in your post; you will find a man who cherishes both you and your beloved dogs. And if you ever need to talk, send me a PM. I am always available to lend a sympathetic ear or a crying shoulder to a fellow animal lover.

[Mistydawn]

He sounds like a proper s***.  As soon as he had shot at my dog, I would have been out the door and long gone, regardless of any possessions left behind.
Get out and stay out, that's my advise and if you can get ahold of his silly gun.....

[moosehead]

It isn't always so easy to just pick up and leave. But I am trying. Can't do a thing now w the holiday. He is home for 3 days. So far no real arguments or drama. Doesn't mean that can't change in a min. You all have been so nice and will never know how much you have helped me. For awhile I thought maybe I should do whatever it took to keep the marriage. But this is not right. If he really loved me he wouldn't ask me to do this knowing it is the one thing that would hurt me the most.
It has been such a boring day. I layed down to take a nap and awoke with a horrible dream. I was really upset. Now, just sitting here on the computer.
Hope you all are out and enjoying the last holidays of the summer. I am so glad summer is almost over. HERE the heat is awful and I can't stand it. Glad to see cooler weather coming soon.
Please tell me what all you all have done and how your wkends are. Mine sucks right now. Oh well.
Hopefully soon I will be back home and 1 daughter and 1 gdaughter are there and they always keep me laughing. Something I haven't done now in 2 yrs. I guess I need that! Have fun and be safe!

[lizzieboo]

moosehead, on 01 September 2012 - 09:12 PM, said:

It isn't always so easy to just pick up and leave. But I am trying. Can't do a thing now w the holiday. He is home for 3 days. So far no real arguments or drama. Doesn't mean that can't change in a min. You all have been so nice and will never know how much you have helped me. For awhile I thought maybe I should do whatever it took to keep the marriage. But this is not right. If he really loved me he wouldn't ask me to do this knowing it is the one thing that would hurt me the most.
It has been such a boring day. I layed down to take a nap and awoke with a horrible dream. I was really upset. Now, just sitting here on the computer.
Hope you all are out and enjoying the last holidays of the summer. I am so glad summer is almost over. HERE the heat is awful and I can't stand it. Glad to see cooler weather coming soon.
Please tell me what all you all have done and how your wkends are. Mine sucks right now. Oh well.
Hopefully soon I will be back home and 1 daughter and 1 gdaughter are there and they always keep me laughing. Something I haven't done now in 2 yrs. I guess I need that! Have fun and be safe!

You are very right when you state that it's difficult, often impossible, to just pack up and go. I hope things stay peaceful until you are able to leave.

We ran errands today, and I took Maxim, my Newfie, for two long rambles, one in the woods and one just around the fields across the street. I need to take my camera on tomorrow morning's walk because I saw some wildflowers in the woods that I haven't seen before. I like to photograph wildflowers and then find them online so that I can learn their names and growth info. Oh, I also saw a huge deer this morning. It was a bit funny, because we spotted each other at the same time, and both reacted the same way: We froze and just stood there, 50 yards or so apart, gaping at one another. He came to his senses first, and bolted into the woods. I heard the green heron whose nest is beside the pond across the street, but didn't get to see him today. He IS a beauty, though; I've been blessed to see him several times, gliding just above the surface of the pond.

Tomorrow I'm going to cook a huge pot full of marinara sauce with meatballs and sausage. So we'll either have meatball or sausage parm sandwiches for supper, or big bowls of pasta. I love to cook; it's a sort of therapy for me.

I hope your day is tranquil, hon. Maybe you could do something special for yourself...take your dogs for a nice long ramble, or something like that? Or, if it's too hard for your old dog to walk distances, just let them all hop into bed with you while you read a book. Isn't it great to snuggle in bed with a big pile of dogs?

Hugs til we chat again!

[moosehead]

Well thats pretty much what I did. Took a nap. But had bad dreams. Didn't do much today. Has been a long day and boring. I have so much to do but at a stand still right now.
Sent you a pm I think. Still learning about this site but I do like it. Later. have a great wkend.!!!!

[The Gremlin]

Hope the move is going ok, and that you are now FAR away from that nasty sounding man.

Best Wishes.

[moosehead]

Lizzie I wish I had some of those meatballs and sauce. Sounds so good.!

[moosehead]

Well somehow I got my dogs pic on finally. Don't know whats up with this computer. Anyway, you can't really see her beautiful eyes. They are so blue.