The thing about belief is you CAN stop believing what you believe and you can choose.
There's a different between those beliefs. The key part is that you think that afterlife is only or the 'priveledged chosen' where as I (and the atheist you mention) believe in a catch all thing that applies across the board. I'd still feel sorry for him, but less than I feel sorry for you.
The last thing kids need is religion added to all that.
You bought up the bad past experiences I had with christians. Those experiences came from youths who were preached at, whch caused them to harm others as a result. When kids are preached at that's the sort of thing they do, they take such things and run with them. So no, I don't see preaching to kids as being a good thing. First, second and third hand experience all tells me it's a bad thing.
At the end of the day, you still believe in a god that believes that the non-chosen are lesser than the chosen. You're still ok with a god that treats the non-chosen in a way that would be reprensible otherwise.
It might not cross your mind, but the belief is still there.
~ Regards, PA
Of course it seems wrong to you. No one wants to admit they've let themselves be blinded, even if it's as plain as the nose on their face. To me from our discussions, that seems to be exactly the case with you. You've not proven me wrong. All youve done is shown that you have enough restraint to act like a decent human outside of church.