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[ealdwita]

After reading the majority of the above posts, I thank whatever gods who were present at my birth for endowing me with an "I'm alright Jack" outlook on the world!

[dreamgoddess11]

Empaths have it tough. most people are empaths  actially. Some more than others. Try some meditations for grounding and visualizations for protections. There are tons of books out there with technIques ect...

[Chosen_One]

Yeah I"m an Empath as well.
I took a ghost walk a few weeks ago in New Orleans, and I was feeling a roller coaster of emotions. The tour guide said that I was actually feeling the emotions that the people had felt back when. I remember feeling like i was going to throw up and then when I got to the next street corner, I felt completely fine. I was told later, that at that particular street, a terrible death had occurred a dinner party, and the guests at the party all felt sick because of the tragic death. I also felt at one point like my limbs were aching and that I was stuck in a box. Apparently that's exactly what had happened to somebody on that street, because somebody was doing these freaky messed up experiments on people. The craziest thing I remember was when  felt like i was going to cry my eyes out and then a few feet later I felt happy as a clam. It's like I know I"m experiencing the emotions..but they aren't mine. Like there isn't any reason for me to feel those emotions at the time, but I am anyway. I just have to get far enough away to make it go away. The tourguide said that she has had a few others like me, but never has she ever seen anybody as sensitive as I am. Apparently I'm "extremely psychic".
The only problem is, that if I can't control it, I might start to feel other peoples junk like if they feel pain i'll feel it too. I'm sure it can get to a point where it starts to be a threat to our health.
Does anybody know ways to ground yourself or control the empathy to a certain degree? Thanks!!

Chosen_One

[Eleven Card Trick]

Can you read my emotions right now? Not being a smart **, just wondering if you can be that into it.

[sarah_444]

Chosen_One, on 10 March 2012 - 06:55 AM, said:

Yeah I"m an Empath as well.
I took a ghost walk a few weeks ago in New Orleans, and I was feeling a roller coaster of emotions. The tour guide said that I was actually feeling the emotions that the people had felt back when. I remember feeling like i was going to throw up and then when I got to the next street corner, I felt completely fine. I was told later, that at that particular street, a terrible death had occurred a dinner party, and the guests at the party all felt sick because of the tragic death. I also felt at one point like my limbs were aching and that I was stuck in a box. Apparently that's exactly what had happened to somebody on that street, because somebody was doing these freaky messed up experiments on people. The craziest thing I remember was when  felt like i was going to cry my eyes out and then a few feet later I felt happy as a clam. It's like I know I"m experiencing the emotions..but they aren't mine. Like there isn't any reason for me to feel those emotions at the time, but I am anyway. I just have to get far enough away to make it go away. The tourguide said that she has had a few others like me, but never has she ever seen anybody as sensitive as I am. Apparently I'm "extremely psychic".
The only problem is, that if I can't control it, I might start to feel other peoples junk like if they feel pain i'll feel it too. I'm sure it can get to a point where it starts to be a threat to our health.
Does anybody know ways to ground yourself or control the empathy to a certain degree? Thanks!!

Chosen_One

I had a similar experiance when I was really young. 9 years old I think? We were visiting Salem and were walking through this cemetary that was, from what I remember, right in the middle of the town.  I felt this huge amount of sorrow suddenly wash over me. At first I figured it was all the depressing stories we had heard all day, and now walking through i cemetary..obviously i'm going to feel this way, but the thing i couldn't understand was how everyone else was up walking ahead, laughing and smiling like we all had been doing all day, while i stood back and felt like i was going to  collapse into tears and my heart was going to burst.  Once we left the cemetary grounds I felt better within minutes.

[orangepeaceful79]

sarah_444, on 10 March 2012 - 12:49 PM, said:

I had a similar experiance when I was really young. 9 years old I think? We were visiting Salem and were walking through this cemetary that was, from what I remember, right in the middle of the town.  I felt this huge amount of sorrow suddenly wash over me. At first I figured it was all the depressing stories we had heard all day, and now walking through i cemetary..obviously i'm going to feel this way, but the thing i couldn't understand was how everyone else was up walking ahead, laughing and smiling like we all had been doing all day, while i stood back and felt like i was going to  collapse into tears and my heart was going to burst.  Once we left the cemetary grounds I felt better within minutes.

I sometimes get jealous when I read threads like this.  I never have any experiences even remotely like this.  I guess I just lack awareness.      Wonder why that is?

[Chosen_One]

Eleven Card Trick, on 10 March 2012 - 07:33 AM, said:

Can you read my emotions right now? Not being a smart **, just wondering if you can be that into it.

I might know how you are feeling. I could be wrong, because truthfully, I'm not sure exactly how powerful my ability is. But, I was trying to feel your emotions and my right eye started to feel a sense of pain, as well as the back of my head. Again, this could very well just be me, so don't get all criticizing if it is just me, BUT was that you feeling those feelings or was it just me?

Chosen_One

[Beany]

For shielding, try surrounding yourself with a "cocoon" of light that can't be penetrated. Of imagine a big clear glass bell dropping over you.

Being empathic doesn't automatically imply the responsibility or obligation to take away another person's pain. We don't know what their path might be, and what the consequences may be of interfering with that path. It's my intention to hold everyone with respect, for they have all or sometimes even more resources than I do to eventually figure out how to heal themselves. What I can do, by recognizing their emotions, is to offer an opportunity for honest conversation, should that person choose to engage. I can offer support, compassion, kindness, a different perspective. But to personally interfere at a very intimate level by taking on their condition, especially without their permission,seems like a violation of their being.

We don't heal others, only Spirit can do that. What we can do sometimes is be the conduit through which Spirit can move, we can let Spirit move through us and let that flood of healing light surround us and others. This is easily done anywhere, any time, and energizes us instead of exhausting us, because it's not our personal energy we're using. Now that I think about it, doing this might be a great way to shield, as well; be a transmitter, not a receptor.

[Beany]

orangepeaceful79, on 10 March 2012 - 03:43 PM, said:

I sometimes get jealous when I read threads like this.  I never have any experiences even remotely like this.  I guess I just lack awareness.      Wonder why that is?

These experiences are no more valuable than any other. Everyone has something of value to offer to the world, we just need to figure out what that is and then put it into action. I often think I would trade all of my experiences for the ability to sing beautifully, or paint something meaningful.

[Eleven Card Trick]

Chosen_One, on 10 March 2012 - 06:11 PM, said:

I might know how you are feeling. I could be wrong, because truthfully, I'm not sure exactly how powerful my ability is. But, I was trying to feel your emotions and my right eye started to feel a sense of pain, as well as the back of my head. Again, this could very well just be me, so don't get all criticizing if it is just me, BUT was that you feeling those feelings or was it just me?

Chosen_One

Could be, I was getting allergies and my eyes were tearing up individually. For example, one would start hurting and crying for 20 minutes and then later on in the day the other would do the same. And well, my head was hurting, but only because my friend was complaining about everything under the sun... So that might explain that. Not bad, and I'm not criticizing.

[3amfright]

Chosen_One, on 10 March 2012 - 06:55 AM, said:

Yeah I"m an Empath as well.
I took a ghost walk a few weeks ago in New Orleans, and I was feeling a roller coaster of emotions. The tour guide said that I was actually feeling the emotions that the people had felt back when. I remember feeling like i was going to throw up and then when I got to the next street corner, I felt completely fine. I was told later, that at that particular street, a terrible death had occurred a dinner party, and the guests at the party all felt sick because of the tragic death. I also felt at one point like my limbs were aching and that I was stuck in a box. Apparently that's exactly what had happened to somebody on that street, because somebody was doing these freaky messed up experiments on people. The craziest thing I remember was when  felt like i was going to cry my eyes out and then a few feet later I felt happy as a clam. It's like I know I"m experiencing the emotions..but they aren't mine. Like there isn't any reason for me to feel those emotions at the time, but I am anyway. I just have to get far enough away to make it go away. The tourguide said that she has had a few others like me, but never has she ever seen anybody as sensitive as I am. Apparently I'm "extremely psychic".
The only problem is, that if I can't control it, I might start to feel other peoples junk like if they feel pain i'll feel it too. I'm sure it can get to a point where it starts to be a threat to our health.
Does anybody know ways to ground yourself or control the empathy to a certain degree? Thanks!!

Chosen_One

I'm still working on blocking & grounding myself. Just as I get to a comfortable point where I feel I'm in control, I encounter something new or different & it becomes another chip in the wall I have to figure out how to fix & maintain. I don't know if you are in a relationship with anyone or not or are physically close with someone but...I have found that as the years go by & the closeness remains a pretty deep psychic bond does form & you can pick up & regularly take on another person's pain. It's pretty natural for all couples but...as an empath, the bond goes a bit more than knowing what your partner is feeling or if they are lying or hiding something from you. Once (cause I've only tried it once) I shared some of my excess energy with my (now ex but working on fixing that, lol) partner. Need say, for her, it was like being high for three days straight. She got to see the world as I see it, experience all the senses at a different level. It really opened her eyes & her mind in realizing that we don't truly see or experience things the same way.

Of course that little experiment ended with me taking weeks to gain back my energy reserve & since then we have created a symbiotic link between us where I can feel her pain long before she ever says anything or even knows about it & I can send a little energy her way to help her body open up channels it's blocking & fix the problem on her own (or if it just can't, help fix it with me present).

Symbiotic relationships are natural, lol, not talking science fiction even science its self has proven that couples will (unknown to them) adjust their hormone levels, heart rate & pheromone out put to match or sync up with their partners. It's why husbands can feel pregnancy pains when their wives are in labor, it's a sympathetic response.

So, in the long run, depending upon the relationships you build with people, yes, you could end up taking on another person's health issues, weighing your own health down.

I honestly believe strong family units already create an empath who does just that, who feeds the unit their energy to keep the unit healthy & as a result themselves suffer more health problems than the rest. I am, thankfully, not that person, not yet. My father's family is very close & I have an aunt who is kind of like the unit leader, she organizes everything, keeps in touch with everyone & she suffers the most health issues. I'm not talking about running herself ragged. We all live very close by so we're barely a half hour drive apart. But she's the only diabetic, has had her gallbladder removed, has had multiple surgeries, difficult pregnancies & yet she's the most energetic bubbly personality you could meet. I truly believe, for now, she's the family empath who nurtures our collective energy. She doesn't know this, lol but it's what I've come to believe from what I've seen over the last 20yrs.  

In the end, only thing I can say is keep working on building walls or barriers. Everyone has a different approach. Me, personally, I reserve my energy behind a barrier, like a force field if you will. The more challenging the experience is, the more I dip into my energy reserve & reinforce the shielding. (ok that may sound science fiction like, lol)

[dreamgoddess11]

Nice topic. Try to Experiment with different grounding & protection techniques till you hone on the ones that work for you. There are so many ways to do it and I've found what works for me may not work for you & vice versa. I keep seeing this message all over... Meditation. Meditation. Meditation. It's hard to do till u get in the zone. But is a great inner tool for u and all of us really

[Chosen_One]

Eleven Card Trick, on 12 March 2012 - 08:27 PM, said:

Could be, I was getting allergies and my eyes were tearing up individually. For example, one would start hurting and crying for 20 minutes and then later on in the day the other would do the same. And well, my head was hurting, but only because my friend was complaining about everything under the sun... So that might explain that. Not bad, and I'm not criticizing.

AWESOME!

Feel better though!
Trust me, I literally know how you feel lol it's annoying.
Good luck!

Chosen_One

[krislove]

The trick is not to hoard the energy within your body. You have to release it. As I was reading your post I notice that these are things that I could have easily written about myself. I am me. The labels help a lot in the beginning because they tell you that you are not alone in what you feel but as time goes on, you will find that other people may experience similar things but it will never be the same as what you experience because you are unique and we could both be having the same experience and interpret it differently.

What I do to clear myself is ask the archangel Micheal to cut any cords of attachment that has attached itself to me and for him to send loving pink energy to these being so that they would not feel like they need to attached themselves to me. When I feel gunky I drink water and I bless the water saying I am drinking this to clear me.

once you opened up to the possibility that we are all one then it's not so hard to send loving energy to all. There's so much to talk about that you could do but they have to be tailor to who YOU are and no one else will ever be able to tell you what will work for you. You have to try it all and learn what works for YOU.

[The Dreamer - Hybrid89]

Hostess, on 29 January 2012 - 09:39 AM, said:

I have always been described by people as extremely empathetic. I didn't know what an "empath" was until I looked it up after reading a post on this site, today. I can read how people feel at all times. I feel their emotions, but not as if they were mine- I don't know how to explain it. I have also been told that I am "insightful." My Dad told me I was "the most insightful person I have ever met." I was 14 when he said that, lol. I know what people need to hear and I am not afraid to tell them. I am real and honest with people. I feel like I am tooting my own horn when I talk about this, though
Also I apparently give pretty good advice on things I have never experienced, myself. I get emotions from others to help me help them, and there's just something in me guiding me to the right thing to say.


I don't know what to think of all this  

Well I can safely say I'm an empath and for a few years now, I feel others peoples emotions as my own. At first i couldnt tell the difference but over tiem i learned. i'm also a lot like you, though I wouldnt put it down to my empathy a lot of the time but rather to my own lifes experiences. That beign said ive used my empathy to understand how that person is really feeling and then the advice just rolled off my tongue.

Empath ycan be usefull but it has its drawbacks also.

As for tooting your own horn, come now, if a person is awesome, then you are awesome and deserve to flaunt what you have.

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I am to a degree also an empath but I feel it seems only the sad and bad things people are feeling so I have to try and pull myself away from these people. If I can help them I do but being a nurse I have to deal with so much pain at times it's awful.

If you let it it will make you physically and emotionally ill, you need to learn ways to block it out if it ever becomes too much which at the moment it doesn't seem that way.

The thing is, sadness and negative feelings are the easiest to pick up on because the can take control so easy. I in fact distance myself from people who act depressed and emo when in fact they have no real reason to you know.

I do agree though, you have to train yourself to block out these types of neagtive thoughts even though there extremely over whelming.

I just imagine a skin tight invisible shield around my body, and I put the intent beind it that it will block all the negativity, then I just imagine something good and leave the person to wallow in there own self pity.

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Before I went on medication, I was very depressed and suicidal. The fact I could feel that others didn't want to be around men reinforced the idea in my head that I was worthless. In reality, no one wanted to be near me because I was never happy and didn't talk to anyone, and a bit of a downer.

I'll openly admit that depression is constantly at my door step, and even as a teenager i suffered very badly with depression and was sucidal for awhile. I didnt however go near medication, luckily enough I have a hell of a lot of will power and pulled myself out of that pit I was in. My friends helped to keep me level iswell. Can't forget those peeps now can I.


People just remember empathy is a rather common ability that a lot of people have they just simply refer to is as 'intuition'.
I'm a strong empath because I put time in to learn and control it.

I'm even at the stage where through a persons feelings I can understand whats on there thinking, though this has happened around a handful of times. Freaks the fracking S**t right out of my friends. lol.