I think some of the teachings do lead to that rejection inadvertantly. Otherwise such a strong rejection would be rare, ot common.
Personally, I hate that excuse. 'Hate the sin love the sinner' doesn't really work when it comes to homosexuality since a person's sexuality IS part of the person. So really all it is is condemning the person.
I'm glad you, unlike most christians, seem to understand that a distinction is there.
Getting closer to power can be a dangerous thing. It amazes me how easily believers can be manipulated into doing things simply because 'god says so'. Personally I think that's a big problem with organised religion. Spirituality is meant to be a journe that you make yourself, eyt all to often people would rather be told what to do or believe. I think a large part of what is attributed to god is man made. I doubt there's anything godly in any wholly text, since so much of it's been tainted by men adding to it.
Knowing god seems to be a rather odd and vague concept. Sometimes I wonder if believers are really knowing god or just themselves (or what they think god is).
I just cant see why god would bother with us.