markdohle, on 20 July 2012 - 10:01 PM, said:
Perhaps on an unconscious level we know more than we understand. For years I used Tarot as an aid for inner reflection and growth and found it helpful. I did have an experience with a man that was not very pleasant. He found out that I used the tarot and asked me for a reading. I told him no, I did not use the cards for that kind of thing. Finally to put him off I said yes against my better judgment.
So I threw the spread and something jumped out at me about him being stalked, he said yes, then I told him about the women, but then I saw that he was the cause of all that had happened. The girl’s friends were trying to scare him off because he was in fact stalking her. I told him that he needed to stop. He agreed with all I told him, and I became depressed for a week, something that does not happen to me. To this day I don't understand what happened, unless things like tarot do upon up the unconscious between one person and another. Like I said, I found the cards and symbols useful for self introspection, prayer and inner healing and a growth in self knowledge, but reading for others a waste of time. I don't use the cards anymore, they just lost their appeal after 25 years, did not need them. Then I started writing a few years later....perhaps they are connected in some way. Writing does flow from the unconscious I believe and that is why I often find writing healing.
What an awesome post, did not know you did cards (before). I never tried my hand but picked up a New Age (non-tarot) deck because it had pretty images on them. Maybe one day I'll lay them out.
Your negative experience seems a mystery to me and SuddenPsychic's explanation does not completely satisfy. I could not offer a better explanation but something did click with me but am unsure why. The following is a snippet from an article and it feels like this part of that article could be related somehow. Keep in mind that for me marriage is the epitome of relationships, of connection. So every relationship uses the same processes, even weak relationships between those you infrequently come into contact with, but the processes are in a weaker, less intimate form.
So while the following about mind-mapping was stated about marriage I wonder if the same process of mind-mapping put you on his level. So instead of him taking your energy as a psychic vampire perhaps you actually took on his energy, a week in the life of that man. Who knows maybe he got a bit of you in the process and felt better for a week? Maybe it doesn't apply but I've also read that just by being in the same room as someone we take on their same blood pressure momentarily.
To me maybe that is why some are so intuitive about others, they know what others are feeling, not because they are good at detecting what is in others but because they are good at going within themselves and understanding on some level, even unconsciously, that if I am suddenly feeling anxious when so-and-so walked into the room maybe they are anxious. Maybe this is how authentic psychics operate.
One more item I have thought of is that in church we were told to always be careful who you lay your hands on in that type of prayer where laying of the hands is done because you can become spiritually contaminated. That explanation no longer satisfies me. Still I remain puzzled at your encounter. Now the snippet about mind-mapping.
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"Couples are always complaining that they don't communicate," Schnarch says, "but that's not true." Often, they grasp the dynamic quite well. "We take it as an article of faith that bad behavior in troubled relationships stems primarily from good intentions gone wrong." Schnarch calls this "the big lie." People usually know the harm they're doing and do it intentionally.
Not only are most people aware of the mind games they perpetrate, they're aware that their partner is aware that they're aware, a dynamic Schnarch calls "mind-mapping," after the brain's ability to make a mental map of how another mind works. A man sees an overweight woman on the street and comments disparagingly on her girth to his wife, then insists he couldn't know his wife, at virtually the same weight, would feel wounded. The next day the woman goes on at length about the success of her old friend the investment banker despite the fact that her husband has just lost his job. At some level they both know she is returning the pain. The insidious nature of such exchanges could be one of the best-kept secrets in marriage.
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Edited by Lookitisoneofthosepeople, 21 July 2012 - 01:13 PM.