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[Still Waters]

A team of Japanese researchers at the National Institute for Physiological Sciences has discovered that the more a person is complimented the more the striatum part of their brain is stimulated, and the better they perform a task.

“Compliments are as good as cash at making us work harder,” ran the ensuing headline.

http://www.telegraph...ood-for-me.html

[Bling]

I think you post the most insightful topics here Still Waters, and I think your avatar is beautiful.

[Beckys_Mom]

I only praise my child's hard work when she has truly earned it...  It encourages her to keep going ..well for the majority of the time..If only she would quit talking in class !!!

If you constantly  gave a child praise, it could make them feel -  I doesn't matter what I do, mommy will think I am the best, I could do a scribble on a sheet and she would think it is brilliant !!!

It could be worse.. My dad was good at putting down  our efforts ..We could do nothing right by him   If and when I did do well at school, he took the credit ...  I got my confidence after I moved out ..

Edited by Beckys_Mom, 13 November 2012 - 11:22 PM.

[Ryu]

I dislike insincere praise..I do know when it it just mouth words or whether it is actually sincere and I think most people can tell the difference.

It's like lying to a person then expecting them to be grateful for that blatant lie.

[Kafkaesque]

Praise can be a detriment as it can boost ego and promote arrogance in the wrong person.

But it can also positively boost confidence in the right person, and as the article implied, improve task performance.

[Ryu]

Personally I'd rather be left alone to do my work than to have someone come around and "praise" me simply because they feel they must do it to make me do more.

Be sincere or just say nothing...I guess meaningless praise doesn't work for all.

[Bling]

I like praise, it makes me feel better about myself and helps my performance. Who doesn't like to hear...Yes Yes Yes!

[Ryu]

Bling, on 13 November 2012 - 11:51 PM, said:

I like praise, it makes me feel better about myself and helps my performance. Who doesn't like to hear...Yes Yes Yes!

I don't.
Praise is nice and can be useful but like I said, there are actually those of us who know when it is sincere and when it is just mouth words.

[Bling]

Ryu, on 13 November 2012 - 11:53 PM, said:

I don't.
Praise is nice and can be useful but like I said, there are actually those of us who know when it is sincere and when it is just mouth words.

Yeah, I don't think you got the joke!

[Ryu]

Bling, on 13 November 2012 - 11:54 PM, said:

Yeah, I don't think you got the joke!

Humor is hard to determine on forums I guess.

[Hilander]

Who doesn't want a little praise as long as its sincere.  It does effect you just like being belittled would so I can see where being praised would motivate you to perform well at many tasks.

[spud the mackem]

Praise is ok in small doses,but you dont scream and shout if they dont do so well,you try and help them to do better next time.

[Likely Guy]

spud the mackem, on 14 November 2012 - 01:10 AM, said:

Praise is ok in small doses,but you dont scream and shout if they dont do so well,you try and help them to do better next time.

Encouragement and praise is how to raise a healthy, confident soul.

[Merc14]

I praise my 6 year old, who is a very, very bright little guy,  when he does something well, remind him to always do his best even when it is easy to complete a project at half speed and to learn from his mistakes when he screws up and that everyone makes mistakes.  Giving praise for nothing is counterproductive with him because he would see right through it and then wouldn't appreciate it when it is deserved.  I think that works for most kids but YMMV.

[FlyingAngel]

You are forgetting/ignoring an important keyword: "too much".
From my understanding, "too much" had already a pejorative connotation, no need to mention what comes after

Edited by FlyingAngel, 14 November 2012 - 02:37 PM.