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Your 'on line' and 'off line' personality


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#1    Lilly

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:07 AM

For awhile I've been thinking about how people's personalities can be very different when they're on line (in discussion forums and chat rooms) verses how they behave in 'real life'. I know that I have marked differences in my personality. In real life I'm far more introverted, less likely to offer my opinion, generally keep to myself (especially in public). However, when offered the anonymity of on line expression I become far more outgoing and willing to engage with others. Does anyone else feel that their personality differs depending upon the medium they are using?

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:08 AM

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My personality is pretty much the same on or off....but I'm much better looking (and maybe taller) online.

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:15 AM

I'm more reserved offline, I don't mind talking to people, just don't feel like it :)


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:15 AM

View PostLilly, on 21 August 2012 - 10:07 AM, said:

For awhile I've been thinking about how people's personalities can be very different when they're on line (in discussion forums and chat rooms) verses how they behave in 'real life'. I know that I have marked differences in my personality. In real life I'm far more introverted, less likely to offer my opinion, generally keep to myself (especially in public). However, when offered the anonymity of on line expression I become far more outgoing and willing to engage with others. Does anyone else feel that their personality differs depending upon the medium they are using?
Its the same for me, but only with the real life persons, whom I don't know and just met.

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:32 AM

I'm trying to behave the same, on-line and off-line. Maybe I'm more kind and warm in a real life with real people. I don't mean that as an insult, but I don't believe in "best-friends-forever" thing through Facebook, e-mail etc. From my point of view the direct contact is needed for good friendship.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:37 AM

Pretty much what you (don't) see is what you get...  I'm much the same on-line as off, except I really don't have antlers...


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 10:58 AM

Same as on here, only i drink more offline.

Interesting topic,

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 12:18 PM

View PostLilly, on 21 August 2012 - 10:07 AM, said:

For awhile I've been thinking about how people's personalities can be very different when they're on line (in discussion forums and chat rooms) verses how they behave in 'real life'. I know that I have marked differences in my personality. In real life I'm far more introverted, less likely to offer my opinion, generally keep to myself (especially in public). However, when offered the anonymity of on line expression I become far more outgoing and willing to engage with others. Does anyone else feel that their personality differs depending upon the medium they are using?

If someone is mean to you in public does it provoke an automatic emotional response (anger, hate, unhappyness, etc) which is missing during online debate?

Those programmed responses can be reprogrammed away.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 12:23 PM

I think I've learned as much about myself online as I have about others and it's interesting, to say the least.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 12:28 PM

View PostMr Right Wing, on 21 August 2012 - 12:18 PM, said:

If someone is mean to you in public does it provoke an automatic emotional response (anger, hate, unhappyness, etc) which is missing during online debate?

No, I *feel* very much the same in both mediums. However, I'm more likely to point out my feelings online verses simply keeping my feelings to myself (in real life).

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Those programmed responses can be reprogrammed away.

I don't function via "programmed responses", I look at each situation on its own merits. Also, I have little desire to be "reprogrammed"...sounds rather sinister actually.

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 12:58 PM

With serious coversations, like politics and religion: probably even less in real life than I do on here.

With corny jokes and acting silly: more so in real life than on here.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 01:05 PM

I have a different personality when posting on a thread then I do in the chat room. That is just here on U-M.

I am also different to mostly everyone I meet and gets to know me. Everyone would probably describe me differently.

I think perhaps the reason for this is because when two people interact they form something new so my interactions are just half of the result with any given person. So with another person the end result will also be different.

Basicially no one is really interested in the things that most interest me so I end defaulting to topics that others choose or that I slide in if I feel they can be receptive.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 01:24 PM

Eh, I'm pretty much the same online and off.  :)  I will say that I think my "personality" doesn't come through online as it doe IRL.  Many times I have to explain (even in a heated debate) that I'm not being snarky or a smartass and am sincerely asking or saying something.  IRL the "tone" comes across better.  :)

I am a goof online and off.  Don't take things personally (98% of the time) and try to NEVER say something hurtful or something I will regret.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 01:39 PM

I'm definitely more outgoing online. More inclined to join in on a conversation with strangers.
Most people I know are not very skeptical at all or interested in seeking truth.

Edited by HDesiato, 21 August 2012 - 01:56 PM.


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Posted 21 August 2012 - 01:54 PM

My personality is the same online and off line. I've been using chat for over 15 years, and in that time I've TRIED different personas, but it never works. I'm just me. If someone hurts my feelings online I feel just as upset as if they did it in real life. The only difference is, online I can put them on ignore or turn off the computer to make them go away, which I wish I could do sometimes in real life.





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