My Deceased Father

[The_Sensual_One]

My father passed away on May 17,2007. He's still around lingering. My mother says he's need move on and I told her I think he's just watching over us like an angel and that he wants to be around cus he never got to see me graduate in 2008, physically. I know he was sad his last few days cus he didn't eat much and couldn't lay down until the time of his death around 3 something A.M. I've been dealing with a lot myself over the years and been quite miserable about my scalp and body changing from 2 pregnancies. Anyway, earlier today he used my children's bear by making it talk. The bear kept saying, "I love you," and "I see you." I was like, "Yeah, yeah, but you can't help me. I'm still miserable. No one has any answers to help. Hopefully I won't shave my hair off again from experimenting with useless products." My father always said I looked amazing with long hair. I feel like he's sad cus I've shaved my hair off 20 times from experimenting trying to see what works. I don't know what happened to my body. But I have some allergies and not sure which ones But besides that issue. I'm trying to figure out what he wants to tell me. Anyone here good at this can help?

[She-ra]

This sounds like autoimmune issues to me The_Sensual_One (TSO) and if not that then something you really need to go to the doctor about and get a screening. I would ask for a complete thyroid panel and any tests that include hormone function. But yes, get an appointment set right away. You really do not want to mess with this as it can sometimes get a lot worse.

I had horrible thyroid issues that starting after having my children. The thyroid issues can effect: Depression, hair -nail -skin issues, Hair falling out in weird spots or patches, skin rashes, dry and itchy skin (anywhere on the body), Sleeping issues and insomnia, ... I will just link you to some findings: http://www.webmd.com/women/guide/understanding-thyroid-problems-basics and http://www.emedicinehealth.com/thyroid_problems/article_em.htm

So please have that checked into right away. This isn't something you want to mess with. Also, I found it helpful to write ALL my symptoms down when going to see the doctor - that way you won't forget. Make sure you add in anything like depression and/or anxiety and tell the doctor because that is linked to the thyroid and hormones as well.

With regards to your father passing away - I am so sorry - Hugs. Losing a parent can be the most challenging time in a persons life. I have lost both my parents. I lost my father first, in 2007 as well, and I still go thru phases of horrible *missing him* stages. My father and I were best friends. I too, grasped at ideas he was still around and watching over me (and I sometimes still want to believe that) but I had to stop reaching. I had to just accept his death before I could move forward again. It's so hard - probably one of the hardest things I have ever experienced in my life. So, yea, I wouldn't look into all of that too much. I would just take it all as remembering and honoring him. I humor myself when I think I smell him or he's trying to communicate to me from beyond the grave. I just say *Hi Dad* and move on. He wouldn't want you to do anything other than honor his memories and try to help yourself - you know?

With all that being said, the point I'm trying to make is, you can't look to him for help - where you say this, "Yeah, yeah, but you can't help me..." You have to take control of your life and help yourself now. That's what he tried to teach you as a father - to be a happy and healthy adult. So, think of it as honoring him and his wishes by going to the doctor and getting all this looked into with your hair and skin issues.

Who knows, maybe this *was* a sign from him to ask someone this question and get an answer what to do about it. The answer being- get to a doctor and have this checked out.

Did you father pass from cancer? If he did, this is another reason to go have this looked into. I am NOT SAYING I think you have cancer at all. You just need to keep on top of physicals and health issues.

I hope this all makes sense to you and I hope you set an appointment soon. If you go see your Primary Doctor they might have you go to an Endocrinologist (for thyroid issues). Please keep us posted and I wish you well and peace.

[The_Sensual_One]

I am definitely going to get that checked. My mother takes care of me. She will handle that for me. I had a wreck in 2007 and had a brain injury. I don't function like a full adult thanks to my wreck. I see several doctors for different things. I see my neurologist each year cus I had a cyst on my brain after my first pregnancy and had daily headaches. I still get them but I take prescription headache medicine. I'm going back to my dermatologist and eventually if we ever get any money I'll see an allergist. We are having hard times, lucky to even have internet right now. I'm not gonna get into too much personal stuff. But yeah, my father is actually here. I'm not sure what your beliefs are but he's here. I'm not the only person in my home that hears him and see's him. He knocks on the doors every day. He use to pull down my mother's pictures so she took them down. He messed with the volume on her tv when she asked if he was there cus she didn't believe in all of that stuff, til she got PROOF. And she was shocked. I'm usually good at clairvoyance but I've been too...well just been focused elsewhere to get in-tuned with my spiritual side. I appreciate you replying. I just wanted someone who has the same ability that maybe can pick up a message since my chakras aren't balanced.

[She-ra]

Not to be too personal but is the area of the brain affected the temporal lobe? Just curious.

And please do have your thyroid panel done just to be safe. It can't hurt and it's a simple blood draw.

[The_Sensual_One]

Update: I'm not able to get my thyroid or any more blood work cus of insurance and rules. That's what my mother told me. She said they won't check me until 2 more years. If I wanted it check we have to pay $300. We don't have that, so I'm out of luck. I'm not sure, whichever part of the brain that effects memory and emotions. I'm gonna take a long break from this site. Maybe one day a miracle will happen.

[SSilhouette]

This sounds like autoimmune issues to me The_Sensual_One (TSO) and if not that then something you really need to go to the doctor about and get a screening. I would ask for a complete thyroid panel and any tests that include hormone function. But yes, get an appointment set right away. You really do not want to mess with this as it can sometimes get a lot worse.

I had horrible thyroid issues that starting after having my children. The thyroid issues can effect: Depression, hair -nail -skin issues, Hair falling out in weird spots or patches, skin rashes, dry and itchy skin (anywhere on the body), Sleeping issues and insomnia, ... I will just link you to some findings: http://www.webmd.com...problems-basics and http://www.emedicine.../article_em.htm

So please have that checked into right away. This isn't something you want to mess with. Also, I found it helpful to write ALL my symptoms down when going to see the doctor - that way you won't forget. Make sure you add in anything like depression and/or anxiety and tell the doctor because that is linked to the thyroid and hormones as well.

With regards to your father passing away - I am so sorry - Hugs. Losing a parent can be the most challenging time in a persons life. I have lost both my parents. I lost my father first, in 2007 as well, and I still go thru phases of horrible *missing him* stages. My father and I were best friends. I too, grasped at ideas he was still around and watching over me (and I sometimes still want to believe that) but I had to stop reaching. I had to just accept his death before I could move forward again. It's so hard - probably one of the hardest things I have ever experienced in my life. So, yea, I wouldn't look into all of that too much. I would just take it all as remembering and honoring him. I humor myself when I think I smell him or he's trying to communicate to me from beyond the grave. I just say *Hi Dad* and move on. He wouldn't want you to do anything other than honor his memories and try to help yourself - you know?

With all that being said, the point I'm trying to make is, you can't look to him for help - where you say this, "Yeah, yeah, but you can't help me..." You have to take control of your life and help yourself now. That's what he tried to teach you as a father - to be a happy and healthy adult. So, think of it as honoring him and his wishes by going to the doctor and getting all this looked into with your hair and skin issues.

Who knows, maybe this *was* a sign from him to ask someone this question and get an answer what to do about it. The answer being- get to a doctor and have this checked out.

Did you father pass from cancer? If he did, this is another reason to go have this looked into. I am NOT SAYING I think you have cancer at all. You just need to keep on top of physicals and health issues.

I hope this all makes sense to you and I hope you set an appointment soon. If you go see your Primary Doctor they might have you go to an Endocrinologist (for thyroid issues). Please keep us posted and I wish you well and peace.

Great advice.

Try this one trick too, on top of seeing your doctor. Each day, as you open your eyes, force yourself to think of three positive things, or more if you can. Go slowly. Isolate the positive thing and savor it, like you would savor a lovely dinner at your favorite restaurant, or any other positive event. Then when you find yourself smiling at tha thought, move onto the next. Then the next, slowly, savoring...

Then just as you lie down in bed and before you drift off, do exactly the same thing. Do this every day, just like you would brush your teeth, or change your underwear (hopefully!) ...there, did I make you smile? Also, if you have access to a TV, watch nothing but comedy. No dramas, no violence, and especially no daily news. Just comedy. One of my favorites today is "Impractical Jokers". They are absolutely absurdly funny at times and just generally upbeat. Plus, they teach you that no matter how rough life can get, (and believe me, they make it rough for each other), you can still find the funny edge of any dodgy situation.

What this does is it changes the direction in which your eyes look. If our eyes are looking in the wrong direction, we can get skin rashes, have our hair fall out, get depression, intestinal issues and insomnia. Also, make sure your bed, couch or chair where you sleep is unbelievably supportive and comfortable. Don't multi-task either. Mothers always tend to get overwhelmed and multitask way too much. Slow down. Enjoy even the most mundane routines.

Your father would want you to enjoy life and laugh; I'm sure of it.