If I had a ghost in my house, which I suspect I do, I'd ask favors of him or her. Myself, I have designated our storage room as "the ghosts". People are only to go in there briefly to retrive stored items and the rest of the time they are to respect that space as "occupied".
I was having trouble with the ghost coming in my room, sitting on the bed [I could actually feel the bed sink down and hear it squeaking too] and touching me on the arm or leg. It would also flip papers up on the wall or drop pictures pinned up to hang by one corner. The picture would flip and then sag down with the tack still in the wall and the hole unripped where it was pinned up before. Anyway, this ghost we believe is of the man previous who took great pride in the property and died of a heart attack while repairing the roof . One of the main things we heard when we first moved in were footsteps on the roof of the main house and the mother in law unit down the lane a bit.
So anyway, my daughter had my room before we switched and she reported the same nightime visits, sitting on the bed etc. So when I was cleaning the room to reclaim it when she moved into the mother in law unit, not once but twice as I was vacuuming, the ghost pulled the pinned picture stunt. Finally I turned off the vacuum, unruffled and said aloud, "look, it's nice that you come to visit and all, but everyone needs their own space here. How about this. How about I promise to give you the spare room if you promise to leave my room alone and not come back in here ever. I'm alive now. You are dead. Dead people need to move on. But if you cannot move on and are fixated here, at least have the decency to respect others' space! Also, I need help from time to time. I need you to look after the kids when my eyes cannot be upon them. You being dead and all can step in when I can't see them heading for trouble."
And so, from that day forward not one single event has happened in my bedroom. Since then there is this feeling in the spare room of urgency, like "occupied please take what you need and get out". Which is fine. And, both my kids have reported since then that weird things have happened when they're screwing up. For instance my daughter would often be tardy to school previuos. She just couldn't wake up early. Several times when she tried to oversleep since then, she reported hearing footsteps down the hall, hearing her voice called out or hearing an ungoldly unexplainable racket just outside her bedroom window. Once she even saw a tanned arm reach over to her and shake her to get up! I explained that was the ghost just doing his job and she accepts it. She even laughs it off. It's all how you approach the situation.
My son has experience a harder run with my helper. He has gotten cocky as he became a teen and when he gets out of line he gets tripped or things fall on him! Once he reported being shoved. I just said to him that his attitude was getting some attention from beyond. He now is well rounded or getting there anyway and also laughs at the prospect of the ghost helping him stay in line while his hormones turned him into Mr. Hyde.
I wonder if any of you have problems with a ghost that seems to like a certain behavior? I've always joked that I'd love a ghost to not just rattle the dishes, but to wash, dry and stack them too. If your ghost rattles chains down the hall, ask him/her to vacuum while they're at it? Or if they show up in the bathroom mirror behind your shoulder. Ask if they can scrub the toilet or clean out the shower drain? If they're seen on the front lawn, ask them to weed the marigold patch. Include them in the family. I wonder then how much trouble they'd be? Or even if they'd help. Mine does. I think I actually negotiated a ghost.
Edited by SSilhouette, 24 October 2013 - 05:39 PM.