Voyager Posted April 8, 2011 #1 Share Posted April 8, 2011 I'm really just venting right now. But I am so longing to have a significant other right now, it's not even funny. I mentioned in another thread about how I look at just about every other guy who walks by and fall in love at first sight! So I won't go through that again. But I realize that by admitting this, that I become an easy target for labels such as "desperate, "needy", "pitiful", "selfish", etc... And I may be all of those things. But I believe that I must be a "hopeless romantic" or something of the sort, because sometimes it seems my whole life revolves around "one day" having a significant other. I've 28, I've technically never been in a relationship...for a number of reasons... How does one get over that feeling DEEp within the pit of his stomach that longs for romance...to the point that he can barely (if even) function in life?? I want to be in a relationship soooo bad! But I know I'm not ready. I'm trying to make myself ready, but even then, it feels like I'm too lonely to even be optimistic. It's kind of like I feel trapped? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maca02 Posted April 8, 2011 #2 Share Posted April 8, 2011 i wouldnt worry if i where you m8ty, i didnt meet my wife untill i was 27, ( she was 32 at the time ) it will happen when you least expect it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~TheBigK~ Posted April 8, 2011 #3 Share Posted April 8, 2011 it will happen when you least expect it This is definitely true. Besides, most if not everyone goes through this kind of thing at some point in their life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker1982 Posted April 8, 2011 #4 Share Posted April 8, 2011 I'll be your boyfriend, Voyager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soul Kitchen Posted April 8, 2011 #5 Share Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) For all painful things in life you just have to be honest with yourself and with your situation, take a deep breath, and think about those who have it worse. I don't mean ignore or dismiss the pain, but fully acknowledge it and accept it, in turn getting over it. Whatever happens, you are still alive and capable of feeling pleasant feelings. It's healthy to be grateful for what you have and focus on that, and it's unhealthy to dwell on what you don't have. Besides, someone will come along. Just take that longing and desire and turn it into melancholy. Melancholy is hot. Edited April 8, 2011 by Thesantanafan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arenee Posted April 8, 2011 #6 Share Posted April 8, 2011 I'm 28 years old and I am a single mother with a baby girl on the way. Talk about feeling hopeless sometimes. It seems as if we've got something in common as far as romance goes though. I'm sure you'll find something when the time is right. I still hold on to a bit of hope and although I have been in relationships, I have faith that this next one just might work. Don't let yourself get too down. We all deserve happiness and yours will come. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker1982 Posted April 8, 2011 #7 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Well, I'm a single uncle. How old's your daughter arenee? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arenee Posted April 8, 2011 #8 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Well, I'm a single uncle. How old's your daughter arenee? My daughter is not yet born, but I have a three year old son. I'm six months pregnant. Sorry if I didn't make that clear as I have a knack for doing that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoIverine Posted April 8, 2011 #9 Share Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) One thing I can say, I'm 33, and at the point now where I'm personally tired of always finding girls who want to live off of me. I don't want to support anyone, I'm not a parent! For once it would be nice to find an equal, someone who supports themself, someone that's independent, just like me. I'm tired of dating people who can't carry their own weight. Edited April 8, 2011 by SpiderCyde Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arenee Posted April 8, 2011 #10 Share Posted April 8, 2011 One thing I can say, I'm 33, and at the point now where I'm personally tired of always finding girls who want to live off of me. I don't want to support anyone, I'm not a parent! For once it would be nice to find an equal, someone who supports themself, someone that's independent, just like me. I'm tired of dating people who can't carry their own weight. I support myself and my children without the help of child support or anything. I don't have a lot of extra but my needs as well as my children's are taken care of. I know exactly what you mean though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoIverine Posted April 8, 2011 #11 Share Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) I support myself and my children without the help of child support or anything. I don't have a lot of extra but my needs as well as my children's are taken care of. I know exactly what you mean though. That's awesome! You go girl! Mad respect for you! Edited April 8, 2011 by SpiderCyde Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arenee Posted April 8, 2011 #12 Share Posted April 8, 2011 That's awesome! You go girl! Mad respect for you! Thank you! I just think being able to live on your own shows you've got respect for yourself. Many people lack that and it's an important quality to have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twgus Posted April 8, 2011 #13 Share Posted April 8, 2011 My two cents, and that's probably grossly over-valued, is that you need to explore more deeply why you say that you "know I'm not ready" for a relationship. What is it that you think prevents you from being "ready"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puridalan Posted April 8, 2011 #14 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Sometimes it is best not to want but just to be. I have been fortunate/unfornatue with being very very content with myself the majority of my life, I have never been one of those females where I felt I either needed a boyfriend 24/7 or a child to make me complete. At the end day it is you who makes yourself complete without any other attachments. I know you probably want to be in a relationship but perhaps you should seek out other venues until then like investing in some of your talents and hobbies perhaps that is art or science who knows. I also know that beings you are in a relatinship can give you the most love and also make you wish you were dead. So no it isn't easy, but somethings and somebeings in life are well worth expierencing. But as for my opinion I would advise not seeking out every guy...to me that almost feels like if thats all your constantly doing there is something in your life that you haven't 'filled' yet whether that be your own talents, aspirations instead of looking onto another first. Just my opinion, best wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beckys_Mom Posted April 8, 2011 #15 Share Posted April 8, 2011 I'm really just venting right now. But I am so longing to have a significant other right now, it's not even funny. I mentioned in another thread about how I look at just about every other guy who walks by and fall in love at first sight! So I won't go through that again. But I realize that by admitting this, that I become an easy target for labels such as "desperate, "needy", "pitiful", "selfish", etc... And I may be all of those things. But I believe that I must be a "hopeless romantic" or something of the sort, because sometimes it seems my whole life revolves around "one day" having a significant other. I've 28, I've technically never been in a relationship...for a number of reasons... How does one get over that feeling DEEp within the pit of his stomach that longs for romance...to the point that he can barely (if even) function in life?? I want to be in a relationship soooo bad! But I know I'm not ready. I'm trying to make myself ready, but even then, it feels like I'm too lonely to even be optimistic. It's kind of like I feel trapped? Anytime I was searching for a man..I never found one...I only ever got male attention when I wasnt looking it lol... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker1982 Posted April 8, 2011 #16 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Maybe we should make a club..................THE LONELY HEARTS. Also, if u girls are interested (plug) I live in Maryland. Any of you from here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trog Posted April 9, 2011 #17 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Those relationships that are easy to get into are usually messy to get out of .... You are right to be cautious about such things . In numerology the number 6 is the relationship marriage number , if you have multiple 6's in your birth date that could be making you a little anxious . The partnerships that last are in my experience those where both parties have common interests , rather than opposite . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alphafemale Posted April 9, 2011 #18 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Anytime I was searching for a man..I never found one...I only ever got male attention when I wasnt looking it lol... she speaks the truth. I know for a fact there si someone out there for everyone. Be patient. When you feel like venting you can go to the computer & vent here@ were all human & understand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoIverine Posted April 9, 2011 #19 Share Posted April 9, 2011 My girl said she had a lot of homework to do tonight, that'd she be up most of the night doing it. I tried to call her about an hour ago, she didn't answer. 20 minutes later her phone calls me back accidentally. Her and some guy apparently are on a date. WW3 is about to begin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arenee Posted April 9, 2011 #20 Share Posted April 9, 2011 My girl said she had a lot of homework to do tonight, that'd she be up most of the night doing it. I tried to call her about an hour ago, she didn't answer. 20 minutes later her phone calls me back accidentally. Her and some guy apparently are on a date. WW3 is about to begin. I'm sorry to hear about that. So not cool. Hope things work out for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alphafemale Posted April 9, 2011 #21 Share Posted April 9, 2011 arenee--some things are worse than want to me, being decieved is far worse than wanting a mate. I am so sorry SpiderCide. I too have been decieved as a young person. It was very upsetting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beckys_Mom Posted April 9, 2011 #22 Share Posted April 9, 2011 My girl said she had a lot of homework to do tonight, that'd she be up most of the night doing it. I tried to call her about an hour ago, she didn't answer. 20 minutes later her phone calls me back accidentally. Her and some guy apparently are on a date. WW3 is about to begin. Ohhh hell is about to break loose lol Listen remember one thing... you were once a teenager yourself... think back to the sneaking about you did.... it's all part of growing up... Ban that BF of hers from your house... When a boy or a girl allows love to interupt their education... it is never a good thing... I don't know how old your daughter is... but I am sure there is time enough for BF's ...she is at an age where love with a guy is more important...I recall being that way too..I look back and regret it I hope your daughter is very careful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoIverine Posted April 9, 2011 #23 Share Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) Ohhh hell is about to break loose lol Listen remember one thing... you were once a teenager yourself... think back to the sneaking about you did.... it's all part of growing up... Ban that BF of hers from your house... When a boy or a girl allows love to interupt their education... it is never a good thing... I don't know how old your daughter is... but I am sure there is time enough for BF's ...she is at an age where love with a guy is more important...I recall being that way too..I look back and regret it I hope your daughter is very careful Nah, it's not my daughter (don't have kids) it was my girlfriend. She went out with some guy last night after she told me how "busy" she was with homework. Before that, she even asked me to help her work on a paper for composition class, so I was doing that while she was out! Grrr! I thought we were pretty serious, guess we're not. Better to know now, I guess. Edited April 9, 2011 by SpiderCyde Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beckys_Mom Posted April 9, 2011 #24 Share Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) Nah, it's not my daughter (don't have kids) it was my girlfriend. She went out with some guy last night after she told me how "busy" she was with homework. Before that, she even asked me to help her work on a paper for composition class, so I was doing that while she was out! Grrr! I thought we were pretty serious, guess we're not. Better to know now, I guess. Ohh I thought you were speaking of your daughter ..I guess when you said homework etc.. it threw me off Ok easy ditch her... You are being used by the sounds of it... If I were you I would go out and find another woman..and take her home AHA.. whats good for the goose is good for the gander... People will say - you should sit down and have a heart to heart... listen at this rate, her going off behind your back with another bloke... no heart to heart will fix that... You are into your 30's now.. you do not have time for all of that fannying about.. you need to find someone who will settle down with you..and you can trust them... Edited April 9, 2011 by Beckys_Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoIverine Posted April 9, 2011 #25 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Ohh I thought you were speaking of your daughter ..I guess when you said homework etc.. it threw me off Ok easy ditch her... You are being used by the sounds of it... If I were you I would go out and find another woman..and take her home AHA.. whats good for the goose is good for the gander... People will say - you should sit down and have a heart to heart... listen at this rate, her going off behind your back with another bloke... no heart to heart will fix that... You are into your 30's now.. you do not have time for all of that fannying about.. you need to find someone who will settle down with you..and you can trust them... Yeah, I know. Thanks BM, I needed to hear that for my own good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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