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Is too much praise good for you?

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#1    Still Waters

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:06 PM

A team of Japanese researchers at the National Institute for Physiological Sciences has discovered that the more a person is complimented the more the striatum part of their brain is stimulated, and the better they perform a task.

“Compliments are as good as cash at making us work harder,” ran the ensuing headline.

http://www.telegraph...ood-for-me.html

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:11 PM

I think you post the most insightful topics here Still Waters, and I think your avatar is beautiful.


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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:21 PM

I only praise my child's hard work when she has truly earned it...  It encourages her to keep going ..well for the majority of the time..If only she would quit talking in class !!!

If you constantly  gave a child praise, it could make them feel -  I doesn't matter what I do, mommy will think I am the best, I could do a scribble on a sheet and she would think it is brilliant !!!

It could be worse.. My dad was good at putting down  our efforts ..We could do nothing right by him   If and when I did do well at school, he took the credit ...  I got my confidence after I moved out ..

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:39 PM

I dislike insincere praise..I do know when it it just mouth words or whether it is actually sincere and I think most people can tell the difference.

It's like lying to a person then expecting them to be grateful for that blatant lie.

It is not that I necessarily dislike people or that I don't "play well" with others but rather I do better and prefer playing alone.

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:46 PM

Praise can be a detriment as it can boost ego and promote arrogance in the wrong person.

But it can also positively boost confidence in the right person, and as the article implied, improve task performance.

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:50 PM

Personally I'd rather be left alone to do my work than to have someone come around and "praise" me simply because they feel they must do it to make me do more.

Be sincere or just say nothing...I guess meaningless praise doesn't work for all.

It is not that I necessarily dislike people or that I don't "play well" with others but rather I do better and prefer playing alone.

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:51 PM

I like praise, it makes me feel better about myself and helps my performance. Who doesn't like to hear...Yes Yes Yes!


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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:53 PM

View PostBling, on 13 November 2012 - 11:51 PM, said:

I like praise, it makes me feel better about myself and helps my performance. Who doesn't like to hear...Yes Yes Yes!

I don't.
Praise is nice and can be useful but like I said, there are actually those of us who know when it is sincere and when it is just mouth words.

It is not that I necessarily dislike people or that I don't "play well" with others but rather I do better and prefer playing alone.

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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:54 PM

View PostRyu, on 13 November 2012 - 11:53 PM, said:

I don't.
Praise is nice and can be useful but like I said, there are actually those of us who know when it is sincere and when it is just mouth words.

Yeah, I don't think you got the joke!


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Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:56 PM

View PostBling, on 13 November 2012 - 11:54 PM, said:

Yeah, I don't think you got the joke!

Humor is hard to determine on forums I guess. :ph34r:

It is not that I necessarily dislike people or that I don't "play well" with others but rather I do better and prefer playing alone.

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Posted 14 November 2012 - 12:59 AM

Who doesn't want a little praise as long as its sincere.  It does effect you just like being belittled would so I can see where being praised would motivate you to perform well at many tasks.


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Posted 14 November 2012 - 01:10 AM

Praise is ok in small doses,but you dont scream and shout if they dont do so well,you try and help them to do better next time.

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Posted 14 November 2012 - 04:20 AM

View Postspud the mackem, on 14 November 2012 - 01:10 AM, said:

Praise is ok in small doses,but you dont scream and shout if they dont do so well,you try and help them to do better next time.
Encouragement and praise is how to raise a healthy, confident soul.


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Posted 14 November 2012 - 01:39 PM

I praise my 6 year old, who is a very, very bright little guy,  when he does something well, remind him to always do his best even when it is easy to complete a project at half speed and to learn from his mistakes when he screws up and that everyone makes mistakes.  Giving praise for nothing is counterproductive with him because he would see right through it and then wouldn't appreciate it when it is deserved.  I think that works for most kids but YMMV.

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Posted 14 November 2012 - 02:36 PM

You are forgetting/ignoring an important keyword: "too much".
From my understanding, "too much" had already a pejorative connotation, no need to mention what comes after

Edited by FlyingAngel, 14 November 2012 - 02:37 PM.






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