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[libstaK]

I notice a few folk saying they are more quiet offline, I am too.


To me it is because on line, what I write is what you read and if you misinterpret it - I get to correct that and keep things on track.  Basically, I can say what I mean and people can't pretend or insist I meant something else because it suits them to see me their way.

Offline, it seems words are so loaded with some people, I can barely get past a first sentence without being misrepresented/misunderstood and then can't get a word in edge wise to correct the wrong impression.  Maybe I am a bad reader of people, or haved trusted people who haven't got my best interests at heart when I share my thoughts and paid the price, so once bitten, twice shy, haven't figured a way past all that, must be way too sensitive me thinks.

[Babe Ruth]

Lilly, on 21 August 2012 - 10:07 AM, said:

For awhile I've been thinking about how people's personalities can be very different when they're on line (in discussion forums and chat rooms) verses how they behave in 'real life'. I know that I have marked differences in my personality. In real life I'm far more introverted, less likely to offer my opinion, generally keep to myself (especially in public). However, when offered the anonymity of on line expression I become far more outgoing and willing to engage with others. Does anyone else feel that their personality differs depending upon the medium they are using?

I think I'm about the same, in person and through the strange cyber filter we all view each other here.

I have always enjoyed conversation with strangers.  It's changed a bit these days, but that was always one of the fun parts of flying the airlines.  Today people seem much more introverted, and the ubiquitous 'smart phone' has added to that phenomenon.

It's still fun to sit down at a bar and engage in good conversation, and it's fun to do the same online.

[braveone2u]

Lilly, on 21 August 2012 - 10:07 AM, said:

In real life I'm far more introverted, less likely to offer my opinion, generally keep to myself (especially in public). However, when offered the anonymity of on line expression I become far more outgoing and willing to engage with others. Does anyone else feel that their personality differs depending upon the medium they are using?

Hi,

It also depends on one's social standing and socialization/defense mechanism. I'm more reserved in (general) public (watch, listen, and assess), but with colleagues, family, friends, and online, I'm out there. Club atmosphere  (as in underground dance clubs/bars) is work, not a public setting for me. When I have a goal or focus, I'm an extrovert.

Peace.

Edited by braveone2u, 26 November 2012 - 09:40 PM.

[JGirl]

today i noticed a few members having a p*ssing contest in another thread all about their achievements and intellectual levels.
i wondered if they actually go around cramming that crap into people's faces in their every day life.

[little_dreamer]

I think that my personality has different layers.  There's a polite, professional if impersonal layer on top.  Deeper down is a more rebellious and stubborn layer, cynical and tough.   The sweet and gentle layer is the core and center.

[Ugly1]

Good topic! Online I tend to be more calm headed. I tend to discuss things more openly as in person I would rather sit and think about what is on my mind. I've had many discussions here where if I were speaking face to face with someone, one of us would be bloodied up a bit.  I guess I am the opposite of most people. Online I try to not be a short tempered person while offline I tend to let my hands fly if I feel disrespected.

[AwakenAscension]

I'm usually more careful about the things I say, online, because you have to assume, once it's out there for the public, that it's out there, forever.

Offline in the "real world", I flirt more, joke more, talk about my views about society alot more, etc.

[omerta]

I'm more shy and reserved offline.

[Sean93]

I'm the same offline as I am online, no matter the forum. What i like about the forum's online however is that I can engage in conversation about things with people without actually having to talk to them...not because I'm shy or anything (I used to be terribly) but just because I don't like people in general, that is a non-confrontational way that isn't personal, just don't...ya diggit?

[Space_Jockey]

One thing that absolutely does not happen with me is losing my temper online, and engaging in 'arguments' or 'fights', jeez, people take these things a little too personally, I know that real emotions and people are involved, but still.

I just have to smirk when people reply the way they do, if you disagree with their views, they often reply like you made a bad joke about their mom or something. It really confuses me.

[Space_Jockey]

Ugly1, on 27 November 2012 - 02:04 AM, said:

Online I try to not be a short tempered person while offline I tend to let my hands fly if I feel disrespected.

I used to be like that, but it's not worth just beating up people who disrespect you, especially when that person won't really affect your life's outcome in the long run. If it's just some guy who cut in front of you in a queue or said something to you or something small like that, I see a lot of people go into 'teach him a lesson' mode, even though he/she won't see that guy in their lifetime ever again. What do they get out of the whole ordeal? Just personal satisfaction maybe, but nothing else.