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#16    Bunny Munro

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Posted 27 February 2010 - 02:02 PM

I'm only into the marriage types, I don't know my brain just won't let me near the other types, as soon as I have an opportunity with the two others and all the lights are green they will suddenly start to repulse me to no end and I will not want to go near them as a result.

I don't see this as a bad thing, I like to think of it as my brain keeping my hormones in check and stopping me from doing something I would dislike myself for.

To me things like sex and everything else you could get out of the other two types are meaningless and both unfufilling and unsatisfying without a strong emotional connection and I just can't get that from the other two.

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Posted 27 February 2010 - 02:07 PM

 SpiderCyde, on 08 February 2010 - 02:22 PM, said:

I've heard a lot of guys refer to girls in these three categories. Supposedly there's girls you marry, girls you date, and girls you sleep with. A friend and I just had a huge discussion on this.

Girls you date: They're the partying type, they like to go out, have fun, they tease, they're not looking for a "relationship", but they're also not looking for a "hook up" or whatever.

Girls you sleep with: That pretty much says it all. These types are interested in predominantly no commitment, no real attachment, just casual sex, temporary companionship and a one night stand. They don't want to deal with you, other than for a couple of hours...if you get my drift.

Girls you marry: These are the best type. They are fun, spontaneous, faithful, honest, non partying, non club going, non bar going, good girls, responsible, hard working, beautiful, independent, looking to be in love and to be loved. They're also compatible with your sex drive and love making love to you, just as much as you do to them. They make you the most important thing in their lives, while you do the same for them.

Ok, so...I'm not sure if these things are even relevant, I'd love to have some guy's opinions on them, as well as some ladies' to see what people think.  :tu:

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Posted 04 March 2010 - 07:58 PM

I personally don't see the value of grouping people in such a way. I guess I feel it's a little unfair to categorize people like this. I don't just say this because of my female perspective, as I don't think women should view men in this way either. (However, I understand how groupings are easier to work with.) My world view says that we go through many stages and down many roads in life. As well, as adults, we have different types of interests in or connections with other people.

When it comes to picking a partner for anything, I think the most important consideration is that you have the same objective/interests and are compatible in that way. For instance, just because someone goes to the clubs a lot and likes to party, that doesn't mean they would be the good friend with benefits. Further, you can't prejudge what a person is looking for simply because they enjoy the nightlife. Women don't always go to clubs to look for a lay. Believe it or not, many go just to let their hair down and dance away the week's stress. Some women really do look for husbands in the clubs. Some women (and men) may not even realize that their behaviors could potentially send the wrong message to perspective mates of any kind.

You know what type of relationship a person is interested in based on what they communicate to you. Many people would fall under the category of "the marrying kind" do have people in their lives who are merely lovers. In a mature relationship, it is understood by both parties that neither parties has any other motives or expectations beyond whatever "physical arrangements" are agreed upon. Mr. (or Ms.) Right Now as some would say. Similarly you may date, go out and have fun till the right one comes along. This doesn't make you or the other person necessarily a "type", but that you've created a type of relationship that works best for the two of you based on your interests and connection to one another.

However, I will say this for the theory... Some believe you attract to yourself what you put out into the world. And, if you're partying and dating casually, you will only attract more of the same to yourself. And, of course, that when a person is really ready to settle down (becoming the marrying kind), he/she will stay in more and eventually meet the right one. I can't say that I've seen any truth to this personally, as people might meet someone during their party phase and settle down because of that person. However, I think that there is certainly truth in this when it comes to the way you could be treated, based on how you're perceived.


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Posted 05 March 2010 - 05:20 AM

 SpiderCyde, on 08 February 2010 - 02:22 PM, said:

I've heard a lot of guys refer to girls in these three categories. Supposedly there's girls you marry, girls you date, and girls you sleep with. A friend and I just had a huge discussion on this.

Girls you date: They're the partying type, they like to go out, have fun, they tease, they're not looking for a "relationship", but they're also not looking for a "hook up" or whatever.

Girls you sleep with: That pretty much says it all. These types are interested in predominantly no commitment, no real attachment, just casual sex, temporary companionship and a one night stand. They don't want to deal with you, other than for a couple of hours...if you get my drift.

Girls you marry: These are the best type. They are fun, spontaneous, faithful, honest, non partying, non club going, non bar going, good girls, responsible, hard working, beautiful, independent, looking to be in love and to be loved. They're also compatible with your sex drive and love making love to you, just as much as you do to them. They make you the most important thing in their lives, while you do the same for them.

Ok, so...I'm not sure if these things are even relevant, I'd love to have some guy's opinions on them, as well as some ladies' to see what people think.  :tu:


Ok...female here obviously...

I am 24 and I am happily married...I somewhat agree and somewhat disagree..
This is all about what type of person you are, you cant really go off of what one of your "buddies" say because that is his opinion. He may have a totally different view of the marrying type.
I am outgoing, I love to cook, I love to clean, I am indenpendent and I dont look for a man that will always support me financially, although it is nice to know he could. My husband is military and right now I am not working because I am a full time student and at this point in my life, medically I am not able to work. He is ok with that and some men wouldnt be.
I am trying to better my life and some guys are still stuck in the old fashion ways where women are supposed to stay at home and do the wifely duties. My husband wants me to do whatever it is that I want to do that would make me happy.
We are both into the same things, we love football so taht isnt a problem on Sundays...I dont get along with women and he knows that so most of my friends are male and he is ok with that because he is also friends with those same males.

Now like I said it is all up to you. I like to go out to a club or a bar everynow and than and yes sometimes I like to go out with the girls but it is always ten times more fun when my husband goes with. We like to go out maybe once or twice a month. If we arent doing that we are spending time together at home playing PS3 or watching our ghost hunting shows...or were out hunting ghosts together.
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Posted 05 March 2010 - 05:35 AM

I agree with the sentiment but I'd be wary of how you judge each category - for example the perfect wife could turn out to cold and detached, while the party girl could be really warm and loving. Judge each person as they come, don't decide right away which category they fall into. I was convinced I just liked my boyfriend as a friend for ages when we met, but now we've been together for two years. Opinions can change.


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Posted 05 March 2010 - 08:07 AM

 SpiderCyde, on 08 February 2010 - 02:22 PM, said:

I've heard a lot of guys refer to girls in these three categories. Supposedly there's girls you marry, girls you date, and girls you sleep with. A friend and I just had a huge discussion on this.

Girls you date: They're the partying type, they like to go out, have fun, they tease, they're not looking for a "relationship", but they're also not looking for a "hook up" or whatever.

Girls you sleep with: That pretty much says it all. These types are interested in predominantly no commitment, no real attachment, just casual sex, temporary companionship and a one night stand. They don't want to deal with you, other than for a couple of hours...if you get my drift.

Girls you marry: These are the best type. They are fun, spontaneous, faithful, honest, non partying, non club going, non bar going, good girls, responsible, hard working, beautiful, independent, looking to be in love and to be loved. They're also compatible with your sex drive and love making love to you, just as much as you do to them. They make you the most important thing in their lives, while you do the same for them.

Ok, so...I'm not sure if these things are even relevant, I'd love to have some guy's opinions on them, as well as some ladies' to see what people think.  :tu:

I thought back to my dating days pre-marriage, spoke to a few other women about this, and we decided to come up with our own three categories of men.

Men you date: Many women only date with the expectation of finding a mate, but for those of us who didn't, these men were as follows: Normally, a good-looking, slightly (sometimes seriously) arrogant man with whom you have little in common, but loves to go out and have a good time, spend money freely, and generally doesn't take much seriously. These men are usually judgmental, immature jerks who have little to offer emotionally in the long term, but are fun in the short term. AKA - Bad boys.

Men you sleep with: These men usually only come into the picture if a woman actually falls for a "man you date" who then breaks her heart. They are men with whom a woman would never consider a relationship, but they are good for boosting female self-confidence and "getting even" with a cheating or hurtful "man you date". AKA - Two can play at this game.

Men you marry: The ones who don't try to categorize, judge, or pigeon-hole you. They accept you as you are, warts and all. AKA - The Keepers.

See how silly that is? A man can just as easily fall into all three categories of mine as a woman call fall into all three categories of yours. It's all a matter of perspective, maturity, and the stages of one's life. No point in categorizing. Just get to know the other person, and let the chips fall where they may.

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Posted 06 March 2010 - 02:34 AM

 SpiderCyde, on 08 February 2010 - 03:36 PM, said:

Say your significant other wants to go bar hopping with a same sex, single friend a couple times per week, but you're not down with that because you feel like that's something single / looking to be single people do. You respect her by not putting yourself into situations where you can be hit on by other women, but she doesn't feel the same and won't do that for you. I trust her, and know she wouldn't do anything with anyone else, but it's more of a respect issue to me. I'm really confused about this, don't know how to react, or respond to that. I guess I probably suck at the relationship thing.  <_<
No sweetie, you dont suck...to me it seems like its her that sucks and I am sure you have heard this before but I would say leave her.

Look, we all know relationships are hard work. But to me it doesnt seem like shes willing to work. Grantit we all need some of our "own time" but multiple times a week ay a bar without  you, seems somewhat extreme. Maybe if you try compromising with her asking her if she could narrow it down to maybe once every two weeks...for her to have a night out with her friends. And maybe you could play poker or just go have a beer with the guys or something (im sure they miss their bud)

That would allow for you two to spend more time together. Now if you trust your girl, than yes you have to come to the reality that she will get hit on especially if shes very good looking, but this will happen its inevitable. And this will not only happen at the bars but also at the mall, walmart, driving. But you have to learn to be ok with that and if you trust her dear, you have no reason to worry about.

I get hit on all the time, and my husband just takes it like it makes him even prouder to know taht he is with me (not conceited at all i am quoting him and what he has said to be in the past)

But she has to learn to meet you half way and if she isnt willing to do that, you seem like a man who knows what he wants, so I say go find you a nice woman that is willing to do this for you.

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Posted 20 July 2010 - 04:57 PM

 clyde barrow, on 08 February 2010 - 02:47 PM, said:

The ideal woman is one who is not just your lover but also your best friend.  If you find one, don't let her go. They are hard to find.

I couldn't agree more with you on that statement. The ideal or perfect woman for any man in this world is one who loves him dearly for who he is and what he stands for, and will always be by his side through thick and thin, during the ups and downs of their relationship, and also stays truthful and honest to her man to avoid any unnecessary tension or trust issues from tearing both parties apart.

I'm no expert on dating and relationships, and there is so much written and preached about it that to me it's almost a science by itself, but as far as I know, the perfect woman (at least this is what I believe) should be loyal, truthful, honest, caring, beautiful both on the inside and outside, understanding, nurturing to her family and independent, and can take good care of both her husband, children and herself while not being materialistic or demanding like how some women are towards their husbands. The most important thing in a relationship is communication and trustworthiness, if these two things are missing then that relationship will suffer in the long run, so there must be a certain level of trust and good communication skills between the two individuals to sustain a long-lasting and happy relationship.  :)

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Posted 20 July 2010 - 05:20 PM

All 3 are excellent, just make sure they never meet each other. :P

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Posted 23 July 2010 - 04:12 PM

You don't do any of the 3 with the same woman. Trust me, been there, tried that.


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Posted 28 July 2010 - 12:47 PM

I agree with the original sentiment... although it's probably not gender specific.. but... because i'm male i believe it's like.. there are three types of girls. the ones that you could marry/love... the ones that you just ****... and ummm ones that are just instantly friend zoned or just not considered in any romantic/sexual way..

the difference between the first two.. is like, for me like. natalie portman and keira knightly.. i think they're both beautiful but i could actually love natalie completely whereas with keira we'd just have wicked sex that i probably wouldnt be able to have with a girl like natalie that i loved because i dunno... sex is sometimes ugly.. i guess..


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Posted 28 July 2010 - 01:00 PM

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Posted 28 July 2010 - 02:24 PM

Lately I'm thinking there's only 2 types of girls: those you'd never think of dating and those who you'll glance at a few seconds longer. Not sexual enough for party girls, not filled with that fluffy BS for a relationship girl, too young to think about marriage girls (who all seem to be one of the other 2).





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