Okay
Here is a thought, actually listen
Yes, simply listen, don't try to communicate with the dead via a huge elaborate party planner
instead focus on one specific dead person, someone you knew, ie your grandmother ect
In fact why don't you get a picture of the person
one picture of them
or either one item they had that they gave to you
simply focus on the photo, do a blank stare onto the photo, but not entirely zoned out
then write down the first things you get whether it be auditory like you actually hear that persons voice telling you things, whether it be visual via words like "cat" or visual by picture images ie someone pouring a cup of coffee
write/draw to the best of your ability to things which come to mind no matter how stupid it may seem, if the person says a phrase write the phrase, if the person shows you something via picture draw the picture, if they give you a date..right the date down
sometimes it helps when the deceased person is familiar, also helps because now you have a target instead of randomly waiting for someone/thing to come in.
However, some individuals do better with those they do not know...each to their own..but that is one tip I offer
Also, another tip..don't ask stupid questions or 'baby talk' I'm sure when you're dead you don't want a billion people asking you 'how are you' or 'what is your name...constantly'..it would get rather annoying, rather listen to them and what they have to show you. Don't ever let your ego get in the way, is probably number one.
Edited by puridalan, 04 May 2010 - 06:14 AM.