Meiliken, on 22 April 2012 - 08:27 AM, said:
Aye, it is tiring seeing the world for what it is. I suppose that is why some people commit suicide out of sheer exhaustion. I wish humanity was as beautiful as you make it sound, but human nature isn't pretty. It's not even passively ok to look at. I've walked into churches seeing the vile webs people spin around themselves and nearly vomited. Saying that people congregate into families is due to love is ignoring the basics of survivability. Love does not factor into survivability. There is physical strength in numbers. The more people there are, the higher likelihood of survivability. Children don't survive due to love, they survive due the instincts to perpetuate the species. Animals naturally do this. Or do you attribute human mentality to animals?
Seriously I wish mankind was as good as you try to portray, in fact I'm desperate for it, but I can't blind myself. In fact, that is my purpose in life. To find something worth saving in humanity. I've yet to find anything.
I honestly cant say if this is caused by the environment you live in or by something in you, which would cause you to see any social environment in that way. It is not my place to feel sorry for you, but i certainly wouldn't want to walk in your shoes. In fact I would refuse to.
Personally, I have found that ALL; beliefs, attitudes, emotions, etc., are something we can choose and create for ourselves, through; will, intellect, training and effort. Happiness is a construct of the human mind, and anyone can construct it. On the other hand, there is increasing evidence that some people have a hapiness gene which gives them a greater propensity towards happiness, and others do not. In your case (joke here) it almost sounds like you have a misery gene.
On the other hand societies have measurable indicators of health and well being. I live in many layers of society, from my nuclear family, out through my wide and multi generational extended family, into a comunity; where people are almost unfailingly, good kind caring and loving. Love is probably the greatest single factor in human survivability. Almost every person i know who has committed suicide (not caused by chemical/clinical depression) has lacked love as a major component in their life. Sometimes that lack has been real, sometimes just perceived.
Love is in part a chemical reaction evolved in humans to cause them to stay together long enough to raise a child. But in humans love, like many other things, is a construct of language, emotion, symbolism and reality. So, for example, when i met my wife i was "hit by the thunderbolt" I was in love with her on all the above levels from chemical through emotional to intellectual love . However, like all human constructs love has a pattern and requires wiork and effort . Discipline, planned behaviour, self knowledge comparative awareness etc allow me to create a love for my wife which transcends time, aging and everything else. ANd so today I love her as passionately fiercely protectively madly etc as i did when i met her 40 years ago. My parents created the same form of love. SO did hers.
But love can be created and genuinely felt for any and all human beings. I hold a genuine but differnt love for all humans. Thats why i care for them, try to help them, take them into my home feed clothe etc people from all around the world.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world..
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
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