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[NewfiePrincess]

Hi, this is my first post here...kind of a strange question that I hope I'll be able to articulate clearly.

About 5 years ago I worked with a man who I developed somewhat of a friendship with-such as talking at work and occasionally online.  I suppose I developed a bit of a 'crush' on him, however it is different from anything I've ever felt before.

I've been in a serious, mostly happy relationship now for ten years, yet I feel this strange connection to this other man.  For instance, even though we haven't worked together for about 4 years, nor have we talked online, I still think about him on a daily basis.  I worry about his well-being, and I have dreams about him at least once a week (usually more.)  If we see eachother in person we may say a quick hello but that would be it.

Anyways, my question is, is it possibly that I am connected to this man in some sort of a spiritual way?  I highly doubt that I ever cross his mind, but that confuses me because if I believe in how the universe supposedly works with the energy and thoughts you put out there, I would think that he should feel some sort of connection to me as well, if that makes any sense?  Is there something more supernatural that could be going on here, or is this merely some kind of love interest that I can't seem to shake?  It's been a good 5 years of having this man on my mind and in my dreams, and wishing he felt the same connection but he obviously doesn't..and I am tired of it...I don't want to feel this connection to him anymore but I don't know how to stop this feeling!

I hope this made sense.  Please reply if you know anything at all about this, I am desperate for answers, lol.

[John from Lowell]

Hi,

Welcome to UM.

I tend to think that we have many spiritual bonds which most of us never become conscious of. There does need to be an exchange of energies for this awareness to evolve.

In the spiritual realm, we each have a relationship co-ordinator. It is my understanding that relationship potentials are fostered by this aspect of our greater self. In my view, the best way to influence our highest potentials is to commit to being our most authentic expression of self.

I hope my thoughts on this will be helpful.

John

[NewfiePrincess]

Thank you John for your reply, yes it was helpful I believe that this is indeed a spiritual bond, I am obviously aware of it but perhaps he is not. I have found myself to be highly intuitive and somewhat psychic, skills I would love to develop more but some silly fears always hold me back when I start getting anywhere with it, but that's a whole other topic, lol.  Thanks again!

[Ninhursag]

This Is A Great Question, Princess ..

I Know What You're Talking About Coz I Have Something Similiar Going On .. And It's Been Going On For 9 Years .. I've Been In A Happy Relationships For 6 Years Now .. But Still I Dream Of This Person Quite Often Even If I See Them Only Once Or Twice A Year And There's Nothing Except A Casual Hi ..

I Think We Have Connections With Other People Even If They Are Not Meant To Be In Our Lives Full-Time .. But Then Again, They Are Meant To Be In Our Lives, Since We Can't Let Go Of Them .. Does This Make Sense??

Who Knows, Maybe They Played An Important Role In One Of Our Past Lives?? I Read A Book Called "Destiny Of Souls" By Michael Newton Who Explains Wonderfully Things Like These .. I Suggest You Have A Look

[NewfiePrincess]

Right on, seems right up my alley... I'll have to check it out.  Thanks for the reply, it's comforting to know this is an actual thing that other people experience.

[Ninhursag]

You Are Welcome And Welcome To UM

[4-D]

I'm thinking maybe he was your husband/son/dad or whatever in a past life? Someone you were very close to in your past life. Maybe you remember him more than he remembers you?

[Ninhursag]

4-D, on 30 May 2012 - 06:16 PM, said:

I'm thinking maybe he was your husband/son/dad or whatever in a past life? Someone you were very close to in your past life. Maybe you remember him more than he remembers you?

Why Husband/ Son/ Dad? Why A He?? Sexes May Vary From Life To Life ..

[Purplos]

When I was transferring universities to one closer to home, I had to make up a math requirement during the summer, so I took a very basic math class during the summer at this new university. There was a young woman in the class who caught my eye the first time I walked in. I don't mean it like an attraction or anything. She seemed familiar and I tried to think of where I knew her from. I couldn't come up with anything, but so many things about her seemed familiar.

As the class went on I saw her glancing at me more and I figured she probably had caught me looking and thought I was either rude, weird, or interested, none of which I was (well.. maybe a bit weird).

Finally, one day she walked up to me a bummed a cigarette and said, "I feel like I know you from somewhere, but can't place it." We fell to talking... trying to figure out common friends or places we hung out in high school or anything, but there was no possible connection. The oddest thing was, I knew she had a brother and a cat, and she knew I was the youngest and had sisters. She knew I transfered from a college in NY. Quite a few other things just popped up in random conversation that were right.. semi-frequently.

The class ended and we didn't stay in touch. It still makes me wonder though. Why were we so sure we knew each other, and why did we?

[The Dreamer - Hybrid89]

Hmm, this has happened to me a lot.

Some people believe in past lives and others think its a load of crap. Personally I like to believe in past lives. ive recalled at least 4 or 5 and 1 very strange one.

A poster above mentioned that it could be a lover or someone that was close to you in a past life, this could be very possible. I recall once upon a time my ex-fiancé introduced me to a good male friend of hers, she really wanted us to get on but I made no promises, after talking to the guy for no more than 30 minutes it felt like I had known him my entire life. A few months, no mroe than 3, went by and he was confiding stuff in me that  he wouldnt and couldnt confide in people he had grown up with and called his closest friends.

In this era, the Age of technology, I personally think that people are so consumed by physical things and the whole 'If I cant feel it, or see it with my own eyes it doesnt exist', that they forget about the spiritual side of things. For example, the bond of love between 2 people, is that physical, something you can feel, touch or see, I mean the real bond you feel even if that person is thousands of miles away? Thats one very common example of the spiritual side of things.


I met a girl last december, she was around the same age as me, long story short, we had a very, very strong bond from the get go so to speak, it ended quite badly, mostly due to the way the girl acted. So all im saying, even though you have this strong bond with him, maybe try and think of how it could have been if you had acted differently.

Just my thoughts.

[Ninhursag]

Purplos, on 31 May 2012 - 04:16 PM, said:

When I was transferring universities to one closer to home, I had to make up a math requirement during the summer, so I took a very basic math class during the summer at this new university. There was a young woman in the class who caught my eye the first time I walked in. I don't mean it like an attraction or anything. She seemed familiar and I tried to think of where I knew her from. I couldn't come up with anything, but so many things about her seemed familiar.

As the class went on I saw her glancing at me more and I figured she probably had caught me looking and thought I was either rude, weird, or interested, none of which I was (well.. maybe a bit weird).

Finally, one day she walked up to me a bummed a cigarette and said, "I feel like I know you from somewhere, but can't place it." We fell to talking... trying to figure out common friends or places we hung out in high school or anything, but there was no possible connection. The oddest thing was, I knew she had a brother and a cat, and she knew I was the youngest and had sisters. She knew I transfered from a college in NY. Quite a few other things just popped up in random conversation that were right.. semi-frequently.

The class ended and we didn't stay in touch. It still makes me wonder though. Why were we so sure we knew each other, and why did we?

Ohhhh That's An Awesome Story!!

Something Similar Happened A Few Times To Me Too .. Somebody Catches My Eye And I Know I Must Have Seen Them Before Or Known Them Before But I Can Never Remember When Or Where .. That Wouldn't Be So Strange, I See Thousands Of People Every Day ..
But There's Something That Tells Me I've Known Them Better Than That ..

Isn't It Funny Tho, When You Think About It?!

I Would Say You Had Some Connections In One Of Your Past Lives, But Then Again .. How Would She Know Facts About Your Current Life If You've Never Seen Her Before?!

Very Interesting ...

[G3N0M3]

This may be contradictory a bit for my next thread... but I believe from my experience that it could have been someone you had met within an Astral state.

Think of meeting someone within this state of consciousness, when we meet out-of-body we can learn about a persons entire life within what feels like seconds. So the backfall when experiencing the OBE while sleeping, you think that it is a dream and might just forget the experience, but not the knowledge of the other person.

On the other hand people have been talking about past lives, but like Ninhursag said, I agree that if it had something to do with past-lives then there would be no corrilation with their lives now.

I'd like to try and come at this skeptically but feel that this would be an unexplainable occurance.

[Aubrienne_Ellyrias]

i fel tthis way over my ex, there was never a time i didnt dress nice for him or not get nervous, i literally would lose my breath when i was with him, but he was a jerk and we broke up till this day i still only remeber him we def had such a strong connection one that i notice only i feel and he doesnt he never did feel it back, and i dont mean love, but the feeling i felt like idk he even looked familiar to me, when i saw him he reminded me of someone and i never figured out who, he never felt that about me. i also always had this thing for a guy a had a crush on in high school, he was the sweetest nicest funniest smartest, well to me he was perfect, he rejected me, and 3 years pass by i have always thought about him and thought we coudlve been so perfect together, well 3 yrs laters he is into me and i notice hes a drug ddict now, he drinks a lot, we still have everythign in common so should i stay because i feel this stron connection? i kinda tried, but he played too many games and i decided to move on, my heart had a hard time realizing tht this whole time h was a jerk and i really didnt want to give up on him for my own sake and pleassure. but i did, and now i dont feel anythign for anyone no connection at all! lol maybe its just what u THINK u think that person is like, and u feel this thing, but in reality its just ur harmones? lol i still cant get over my 1st ex ive never felt so out of breath and weak with someone, but maybe idk...............ugh i just wrote too much

[SunGod]

i feel connected to ancients ...in timeless dimension ...one God, cosmos, Energy....

[number22]

yeah. (: i really liked this girl and she liked me, but she never made it obvious and i thought she didn't like me. i would think about her all the time and dream about her, and i actually felt like she was thinking about me. like i knew she was. didn't know how, but i just knew. it's very hard to explain. then a long time after i found out that she liked me at the time too. i've read that sometimes when someone thinks about you they send alpha brainwaves to your mind and you start thinking about them. like when you think about someone and they call you or text you like 2 seconds after. and for some reason, i always say what my cousin is thinking before she says it. not like i can actually read her mind, but i say things and she's always like "I was going to say that!" she's the only person i can do that with.i guess it's cuz i've known her all my life. t's weird but awesome. (: