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#16    White Crane Feather

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Posted 21 August 2012 - 05:26 AM

View PostOlliRecklessLoveFan, on 20 August 2012 - 12:01 AM, said:



That's what confuses me, i can go to the store without a problem, talk to strangers with no problem, but Dentists, good looking girls, new places, and crowds get me very anxious, but after i get sick from it it's like i was never nervous in the first place.

In school i was well liked with a few bullies, but nothing too serious, it's mostly anticipation that triggers the anxiety and if i return to that same location or talk to that same person a few days later there's no anxiety so yeah it confuses me.

Loud noises don't bother me at all
Well... That takes care of that hypothesis. Did you have separation anxiety when you were say 6-9 years old?

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 12:23 PM

Experiencing the blues is how I'm seeing things for you right now and turning things around is what you'll need to do if wanted. Forgetting the spiritual, things staying the same. If you would like to turn things around, not too sure what exactly it is for the field you could find out more about, you'll be needing to discover this field and i'm seeing maybe five months is whenever you should come around to it, whatever it is. Whenever the truth is discovered however, you'll then experience serenity

Other stuff I got was needing a synthesis, a lack of simplecontent - studying and research the facts, condescending=having your dreams come true. if/whenever you turn things around, you will experience growth. not much else I can do to help but that's what I've got for you for right now.

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Posted 26 September 2012 - 03:40 PM

Anxiety is so horrible. I hope this gets easier for you!

You seem like you give yourself to your lifestyle and have started to want to take it back and do your thing. You know, the first step is to acknowledge that change is needed, which is what it looks like you've done. :)

The best advice I've seen here for you is to put it all on paper, make a mind map. Your wants, needs, current situation, desired future self etc (google mind mapping) it's set up for essays and such but works really well for working out personal issues too.

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Posted 29 September 2012 - 02:09 AM

View PostOlliRecklessLoveFan, on 18 August 2012 - 04:23 PM, said:

I'm 29, jobless, no car, i do however have money coming in from an incident at birth, but i live at home with my mom ( yes i do contribute financially ) it's just i'm afraid to do anything that may flare up the anxiety such as getting involved with a girl, afraid it'll change who i am and have me believe i'm too good to spend time with my siblings because i'd have a girl in my life.

Me and my mom aren't close at all, but for some reason i think if i go out, get a job, get a girlfriend that it'll cause problems, i know i shouldn't be thinking this way with me being an adult and all, but i'm so confused on what to do.
I'm also having a very hard time getting myself to the dentist for procedures because i'm extremely scared of death and whatnot so as you can tell i'm a mess.

P.S. i'm not a bad looking guy, but i can't seem to get girls to notice me atleast i don't think they do.

Dude, you just have got to chill out. Try to relax and you'll be fine. Seriously, for some people, 'herbal' solutions work wonders for anxiety if smo...err...consumed, but that's up to you haha. Anyway, girls like a guy who's confident, sure of himself, but not someone who is self centered. They also like a guy who takes care of himself, is self reliant, and self sufficient. Start to work on yourself one small step at a time and you'll get there. Might take a while, but you'll be better for it, and you'll feel a lot better, women will notice that. Go to a bookstore and start reading self-help, it works. Check out a video on youtube called the secret. When you do get in a relationship, it has to have balance in all things (do not make the other person the center of your world, you are the center of your world), or it will become a mess, took me a long time to figure that one out.

Edited by Spid3rCyd3, 29 September 2012 - 02:16 AM.


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Posted 30 September 2012 - 02:13 PM

View PostSpid3rCyd3, on 29 September 2012 - 02:09 AM, said:

Dude, you just have got to chill out. Try to relax and you'll be fine. Seriously, for some people, 'herbal' solutions work wonders for anxiety if smo...err...consumed, but that's up to you haha. Anyway, girls like a guy who's confident, sure of himself, but not someone who is self centered. They also like a guy who takes care of himself, is self reliant, and self sufficient. Start to work on yourself one small step at a time and you'll get there. Might take a while, but you'll be better for it, and you'll feel a lot better, women will notice that. Go to a bookstore and start reading self-help, it works. Check out a video on youtube called the secret. When you do get in a relationship, it has to have balance in all things (do not make the other person the center of your world, you are the center of your world), or it will become a mess, took me a long time to figure that one out.
Good advice.
"do not make the other person the center of your world" < this makes girls think the guy lacks this > "girls like a guy who's confident, sure of himself". Confidence and self respect go so far for guys when it comes to girls!

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 12:28 PM

View PostPulsar_J, on 30 September 2012 - 02:13 PM, said:

Good advice.
"do not make the other person the center of your world" < this makes girls think the guy lacks this > "girls like a guy who's confident, sure of himself". Confidence and self respect go so far for guys when it comes to girls!

Yeah, I noticed that when I made an ex the center of my world (I had it bad for her, ugh) I stopped hanging out with friends, focused on making her happy, stopped my interest in hobbies (it just happened that way or something) it threw everything off balance and she felt...drum roll, smothered! How many guys have heard that one before? So in the next relationship, I took it easy, even though I loved the new girl, I had to focus more on myself and the things that made me happy. She did the same and we met in the middle, adding balance back worked pretty well.

Edited by Spid3rCyd3, 01 October 2012 - 12:29 PM.


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Posted 02 October 2012 - 09:09 AM

No, I do not see you with a woman in the near future and I don't need psychic powers to predict that. I don't know any quality women who are interested in dating a a guy who is almost 30, doesn't work, has no car, and lives with his mom. Sorry, but it's the truth. If you aren't already, you should consider seeking professional medical advice and/or counseling help to address your anxiety so you can have a real life. It might be a good idea to solve some of your anxiety and no-job-type issues PRIOR to worrying about getting a girlfriend. Good luck!

Edited by starfire2012, 02 October 2012 - 09:13 AM.





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