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#1    spud the mackem

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:03 AM

Marriage is a contract between 2 people stating that they will stay together (for better or worse),but it seems that when things don't go according to plan (for worse) people can't handle it and part. Is this caused by the stress of modern day living ?. A Headmaster I know told me that 57% of children at his school are single parent families , and its worse in other schools.Has Marriage gone down the pan,or do people decide not to bother and just partner up, then when it comes to the crunch no divorce is necessary.Its tough on the kids who are left without a mom or dad.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:05 AM

I don't think my parents' marriage worked out.


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Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:10 AM

I've been divorced for about 8 yrs now and I don't think I'll ever get married again. I don't want to grow old alone but I don't want to get married.

I'll take the diamond though, just not everything else that goes along with it haha

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:53 AM

does anyone have parents that arent divorced?

ive been engaged, but didnt marry her as it was a drug fueled relationship, and i only asked her to marry me when i was off my tits, but she took it for real.. had to buy a ring and all.. lol..

was in a 10 year defacto relationship.. never married, as whats the point, unless you have kids.. i hate weddings too.. they really annoy me.. especialy when its someone who has been married three times..


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Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:07 AM

View Postwith bells on, on 11 November 2012 - 10:53 AM, said:

does anyone have parents that arent divorced?

ive been engaged, but didnt marry her as it was a drug fueled relationship, and i only asked her to marry me when i was off my tits, but she took it for real.. had to buy a ring and all.. lol..

was in a 10 year defacto relationship.. never married, as whats the point, unless you have kids.. i hate weddings too.. they really annoy me.. especialy when its someone who has been married three times..

My parents are still married, been married for 35 years now.

I love when the person has been married multiple times lol that gets me. If it didn't work out the first or the second time there's probably a reason and you should maybe worry about what that reason might be before worrying about getting married again.


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Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:22 AM

One of my friends has been married 3 times, but then her first husband used to knock her about so you can't really count that. Nobody in my family has been separated or divorced, and I've been married for 33 years. I don't know, relationships fail for various reasons, it must be hard for all concerned when that happens.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:52 AM

ok, so lots of parents stay together.. wow.. maybe i only know sinners.. sinners are grinners..

i do hope that i will be with someone for the rest of my life.. im 39.. (39 is so the new 29.. ) it would be nice growing old with someone.. a true soul mate.. I've been seeing this little french speaking girl around me for a few years, and she is my daughter.. she is very pretty..  so thats coming.. i dont speak french.. so my soul mate is French..  lol..


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Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:47 PM

I would say marriage is evolving to fit the modern world.  It's not necessary but nice to have with the right person.  And some people may feel they don't need the legal contract anymore.  

I think the whole concept of "family", "community", etc. are changing as well into something more informal.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 05:54 PM

View PostViviana98, on 11 November 2012 - 10:10 AM, said:

I've been divorced for about 8 yrs now and I don't think I'll ever get married again. I don't want to grow old alone but I don't want to get married.

I'll take the diamond though, just not everything else that goes along with it haha
Hiya Viv,If your Avatar is you, you'll never walk alone,hope you meet the right fella, good fortune to you.Its no use saying good luck as I dont believe in luck, ha ha, its fate mate.cheers.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 05:57 PM

Whenever I seriously consider someone to date, I always think ahead, towards marriage (though I would never mention that to them and risk scaring them off, lol). It's just my natural thought process, but yes, I'd like to end up married, happily of course, if that doesn't happen well... I wonder if there's somewhere that will marry me to vodka?

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 06:01 PM

Hormones or whatever it is guys have, are rampant in youth. You meet someone and stake your life your ALWAYS going to ove with and want to be with them. The years roll by and situations change, personalities change and there is a whole world of people out there that you bump into that you fall for, marrriage is a committment, not necessarily a love pact, you just can't know what the future holds.
If you meet someone in later life, the same thing applies.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 06:04 PM

Hi Guys/Girls, The success in Marriage is to let her think she is the Boss, ha ha , but my Mrs says that I am the head of the household and she is the Neck,which can twist the head any whichway. Yes Ma'am Captain Ma'am shall I leap off the bridge at your command.We met at school but I keep telling her that If I like her I might stay (after a lot of years Married).Dont go in the Kitchen if you cant stand the heat, hee hee.

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Posted 11 November 2012 - 06:09 PM

Marriage is very useful legally. Tax breaks, medical rights, finances... that kinda thing. The concept and tradition of marriage is still attractive to the majority of people, plus religions seem to like it still.

My parents are divorced. I'm divorced. One of my sisters is getting divorced. My other sister has been married for about 15 years now.

The thing about marriage now is that people do not NEED to be married. An individual person can get through life fine on their own. Very different than when women couldn't work and men had to plow fields or whatnot. You needed two people to complete a functioning place in society. Not anymore.

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Posted 12 November 2012 - 12:13 AM

I'm not at all cynical about marriage, which I probably should be considering my experiences with it! My parents split up when I was 11 and I have been married twice (age 22, and 32). I'm in the process of divorcing my second husband at the moment, it should be through by xmas. Now I have met my soulmate in Marty I wouldn't even consider not being married to him, it will happen some time next year! I've had some bad luck in the past - first husband was a closet gay who cheated on me, and second husband was a violent con man. Once you meet the right person you know, I know now....but I admit I was naive in the past and was taken for a ride. Marty's for keeps though, not one shadow of doubt!

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Posted 12 November 2012 - 12:47 AM

View PostHasina, on 11 November 2012 - 05:57 PM, said:

Whenever I seriously consider someone to date, I always think ahead, towards marriage (though I would never mention that to them and risk scaring them off, lol). It's just my natural thought process, but yes, I'd like to end up married, happily of course, if that doesn't happen well... I wonder if there's somewhere that will marry me to vodka?
Whisky makes you frisky,
Water turns you rusty,
Rum turns you numb,
But Vodka rots your guts,  Nasdarovia !

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