21 replies to this topic

[hungryvampyre]

why do people falin love with people they cant have? i hav fallen in love with a girl tht has a boyfriend and im afraid to tell her how i feel because of her boyfriend what should i do

[hungryvampyre]

i need help !!!

[spartan max2]

honestly if she has a boyfreind then just be freinds with her and move on. Then later if she breaks up and you havent found someone else then ask her.

Honestly people fall in love easy with anyone so just find someone else

[hungryvampyre]

thts not the point. i am trying to get her out of the other relationship

[theSOURCE]

hungryvampyre, on 17 December 2012 - 06:46 AM, said:

why do people falin love with people they cant have? i hav fallen in love with a girl tht has a boyfriend and im afraid to tell her how i feel because of her boyfriend what should i do

No offence meant, but you can't "have" anyone. She, nor anyone else should be thought of as a possession and the sooner you learn this the better off you'll be.
　
　
　
　
Posted by theSOURCE's friend with his permission.

[hungryvampyre]

i dont mean to have her as my possesion

[MarvelAtTheWords]

I think you should leave her alone. If she breaks up with her boyfriend, you can go for it.
If you get her to leave and she is unsure of the whole thing, she might just go back to him, and you end up even more hurt.

I say try to forget her for now.

[tyrant lizard]

hungryvampyre, on 17 December 2012 - 06:46 AM, said:

why do people falin love with people they cant have? i hav fallen in love with a girl tht has a boyfriend and im afraid to tell her how i feel because of her boyfriend what should i do

It's generally considered bad form if you try to break up a relationship, especially if they're happy. If she decides she likes you more than him, she'll leave him all by herself and come to you. You should considered the actions of her boyfriend too - no one likes being a cuckold.

That said, isn't all supposed to be fair in love and war?

[catch-me-if-you-can]

I've been with a loooootttttt  of girls, and the key is Confidence. If you play your cards right then you can be unstoppable. First off, don't let "love" throw you astray, it will ruin any, and all,  your chances of ever being with this girl. You have to play it sly and smoothly. Now that doesn't mean being slick or anything, just play it cool. Remember, confidence is k-e-y!

[ealdwita]

It's very often not worth the effort, vamps. As Kipling wrote...

"A million surplus Maggies are willing to take the yoke,
A woman is only a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke!"

[e u n O i a]

You should probably move on. If you want to tell her, you can but you would be risking a lot... friendship an ass whooping by boyfriend... etc. I think you should just try to move on. If she breaks up with boyfriend later on and you still love her then go for it.

[AsteroidX]

Love yourself first. Take care of your soul first and then you may attract another. BBL gotta flip the tunes back on.

[SmilinJack]

Also, mind you that odds are it's just infatuation, not actual love. You'll likely end up kicking yourself when you think back to your current state, even if you are able to hook up with this girl. Above all things, I know it's hard, but don't stress about it. Don't worry yourself. At this point you can't change things without giving her a reason to distrust you. What happens happens. Just watch how things go and if you still have these feelings by the time they break up, go for it. I

[Pod99966]

I say go for it. Seriously, what have you got to lose.

You say nothing, you lose the girl.

You say something and she stays with her current boyfriend.. same outcome.

But if you never say something to her, she has no chance to ever say yes.

[AquilaChrysaetos]

hungryvampyre, on 17 December 2012 - 07:37 AM, said:

i am trying to get her out of the other relationship

This is the problem. If you truly love the girl, then the last thing you would want is to seperate her from a relationship she's already happy in. Although you would obviously want to be with her if you love her, her happiness would take precedence over yours. You seem to simply want the girl, which is quite different than love. It's very common, but that doesn't make it right.

Try and take her feelings into consideration. Instead of trying to "get the girl", try and just make her happy, and that might just mean you have to leave her alone. Otherwise you'd only make yourself out to be selfish, which is the last thing you should ever be when you're in love.