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[G Donnelly]

Professor T, on 08 January 2013 - 10:09 PM, said:

Some people seem to enjoy recieving flak in regards to their opinions.. I think this is an Ego aspect of attention seeking and using their energy to manipulate others into reactions..

Does an Angry person indicate a strong or Big Ego?.... I don't think so.. I tend to think (without having read Sarahs link yet) that anger indicates a threatened Ego more than anything else, which may indicate weakness as opposed to strength..

He's doing a very fine job on that score but I'm going to turn the tables on him.
He will be pleasantly surprised by the kind of reactions I'm going to enforce.
If I've got a threatened ego it's very low on the "ego" Richter scale.
But it's not a very reassuring statistic for anybody that flys off the handle.

Mr Right Wing, on 08 January 2013 - 10:52 PM, said:

Getting the unemployed to build a 2 mile high statue of me is not a punishment. Its an honour for you and in return you're rewarded with a full-time job until you find something. As you're so ungreatful you're going on my 'throw to the lions' list.

I would be a mean God and I'd be mean just because I can (insert evil manical laughing here)

I wish I could take you up on your less than generous order.
But I've got a job in the pipeline and I'm pumped up.
And besides who's to say I won't be like Daniel and retrieve a thorn from said lions paw.
That would throw your evil masterplan into disarray.

Edited by Medium Brown, 09 January 2013 - 07:47 AM.

[Mr Right Wing]

Medium Brown, on 09 January 2013 - 07:45 AM, said:

He's doing a very fine job on that score but I'm going to turn the tables on him.
He will be pleasantly surprised by the kind of reactions I'm going to enforce.
If I've got a threatened ego it's very low on the "ego" Richter scale.
But it's not a very reassuring statistic for anybody that flys off the handle.

I wish I could take you up on your less than generous order.
But I've got a job in the pipeline and I'm pumped up.
And besides who's to say I won't be like Daniel and retrieve a thorn from said lions paw.
That would throw your evil masterplan into disarray.

Well done on the job. Time to do me properly.

So my great grandad was a very wealthy man and when he died in the 80s his land was worth about £16 million. The generations that followed him got a decent education, property and the funds to set themselves up in business if they wished. Being brought up in a family like that does wonders for your confidence and self-belief. When growing up you cant help but think to yourself you're above regular people and you have problems stopping your ego going into orbit.

I'm also an attractive guy and get a lot of attention of the ladies which makes my ego even worse. Strangely it gets them no where because I always go after the ones that dont seem interested in me. Its like I cant get my head around how a woman could not fancy me which is kind of a scary insight to how my mind works.

So I have an over inflated ego. I'm used to being the best at everything and because of this I did at one stage actually believe I was God. That kept me amused for years living in my Walter Mitty fantasy and it really didnt help me any playing Lemmings, Black and White 2, Sim City, etc. The result is a very strange sense of humour but at least it keeps me entertained. I shouldnt really be saying this but I even wrote my God speeches out at one stage and have delivered them infront of the mirror. At least I found it ridiculously funny lol.

My friends are all like me (men and women) and the usual banter in the pub is over who is the best lol.

Edited by Mr Right Wing, 09 January 2013 - 10:05 AM.

[Jinxdom]

What's scary is knowing that one large event can do something to your ego to cause a dramatic change.  I got burnt by breaking the rules as a kid, I grew up and played by the rules, and I got burnt.  Now I don't care about either, Do what I want, do what I need to, making sure I bend, instead of a breaking(or even better like pong).  That requires a constant contradiction of one's self. I do it only on superficial level almost like costume.

Shiny things is nothing more then looking at and for the positive . I just don't forget the other side because it is there and it can come back to kick you in the teeth. (Who knows maybe even literally)

I'm very quite glad to be insane(although not insane enough for a padded room). Oh and have impulse issues. I do care and don't care. I don't care what you are going to say about me but I do care that you are going to say something.

Insane or not insane, broken or not broken, doesn't really matter all that much, Life and the things that make it better matter(mostly people, but I won't look down on material possessions but having nothing is quite boring)

Maybe some people aren't in it for the attention but in it solely for the sake of conversation on a wonderfully asked question? ( I have a feeling most people fall in the latter rather then the former but that's just thinking on the positive )

[Professor T]

sarah_444, on 08 January 2013 - 05:28 PM, said:

I found the article I was reminded of before in regards to having a healthy ego, and the differences between "Strong" and "Big" egos.

Our Egos: Do They Need Strengthening--or Shrinking?

In short, what I got from most of this is that having a strong (or healthy) ego has to do with having a genuine strong sense of self, or self worth/esteem. One that can be aware and accepting of personal insecurities without masking them, among other things.

That's a brilliant artical.
I've read it twice now, lol.. Thanks..
I guess I've taken a different point of view of the Big v's Strong Ego comparison.. I've always seen this type of Comparison as "Real" (Stong or well grounded Ego) versus "Plastic" (Big or ungenuine world of ones own Ego)..

[Professor T]

Mr Right Wing, on 09 January 2013 - 10:03 AM, said:

Well done on the job. Time to do me properly.

So my great grandad was a very wealthy man and when he died in the 80s his land was worth about £16 million. The generations that followed him got a decent education, property and the funds to set themselves up in business if they wished. Being brought up in a family like that does wonders for your confidence and self-belief. When growing up you cant help but think to yourself you're above regular people and you have problems stopping your ego going into orbit.

I'm also an attractive guy and get a lot of attention of the ladies which makes my ego even worse. Strangely it gets them no where because I always go after the ones that dont seem interested in me. Its like I cant get my head around how a woman could not fancy me which is kind of a scary insight to how my mind works.

So I have an over inflated ego. I'm used to being the best at everything and because of this I did at one stage actually believe I was God. That kept me amused for years living in my Walter Mitty fantasy and it really didnt help me any playing Lemmings, Black and White 2, Sim City, etc. The result is a very strange sense of humour but at least it keeps me entertained. I shouldnt really be saying this but I even wrote my God speeches out at one stage and have delivered them infront of the mirror. At least I found it ridiculously funny lol.

My friends are all like me (men and women) and the usual banter in the pub is over who is the best lol.

Very interesting.. Thanks for showing!
Have a few questions though because this seems quite unique imo..

Would you describe your Ego as stable or well rounded or somehow shallow and empty?
(What I mean by this question is whether you are in control of your own emotions, or do they control you.)

Can you relate to and get along with other people outside of your normal circle of friends?
(The God complex, coupled with you privilaged upbringing suggests that your social needs doesn't or wouldn't fit with mainstream society.. This suggests that outside of your usual circle of friends you would be completely lost and perhaps even treated like a social lepper by others)

With posting in the forums here, do you accept that other peoples opinions by the right and yours could be wrong?
(Wondering if you have any hangups from the God Complex)

[Mr Right Wing]

Professor T, on 09 January 2013 - 03:39 PM, said:

1. Would you describe your Ego as stable or well rounded or somehow shallow and empty?
(What I mean by this question is whether you are in control of your own emotions, or do they control you.)

2. Can you relate to and get along with other people outside of your normal circle of friends?
(The God complex, coupled with you privilaged upbringing suggests that your social needs doesn't or wouldn't fit with mainstream society.. This suggests that outside of your usual circle of friends you would be completely lost and perhaps even treated like a social lepper by others)

3. With posting in the forums here, do you accept that other peoples opinions might be right and yours could be wrong?
(Wondering if you have any hangups from the God Complex)

1. I'm in control of my ego its just that I often choose to let it run off the leash.
2. I can actually get along with anybody when I want too.
3. With a lot of debating people are below my education or knowledge level (not meant to sound arrogant). If I come across someone who posts something against my opinion and its right I have no problem admitting that. Doing so isnt a threat to my ego.

My 'ego' is not a defence mechanism. If I'm not the best at something it doesnt bother me in the slightest. My ego is about entertaining myself and I get a wierd kick out of it lol.

Edited by Mr Right Wing, 09 January 2013 - 04:11 PM.

[Professor T]

Atentutankh-pasheri, on 08 January 2013 - 04:34 PM, said:

Is size of online ego in inverse proportion to real life personality? I often thought that those who shout loudly and in your face online, do so because their real lives are so small and meaningless. I saw in various news outlets where trolls that have caused real harm, have been unmasked. They are sourfaced rat like people, and I guess this is the picture of them we all form in our minds.

For myself, well, I am dead and I am a god (apparently) And as my brain is gone long long ago, there is no ego, no nothing, I do not exist, an anti-ego. Well, I do not take kindly to some of the charlatans and bullies and let them know this directly. That is my only claim to any ego, all else is a dream of a lost universe.

and this

and all to often this

Ha! finally got back to this comment..

Is size of online ego in inverse proportion to real life personality? That's a really good question.. and I would say nope, but that's just my opinion.. Here in the forums we hide behind an Avatar and a fake name, in most cases we have complete anonymity.. And yet, when some on-line persona attacks what our online persona says we feel hurt? This imo is because our on-line persona has become an alter-ego or a projection of ourselves into this virtual world in UM..

Remember this??
http://www.unexplain...showentry=26672

On the day you posted that Blog I had been watching several on-line persona's have a very public spat that crossed over several threads and forums. It was very revealing because imo it because it showed off one persona here in the UM community that is a fake.. and by fake I mean someone who's claims things in posts about the forums but embelishes half truthes, tells outright lies, and has fooled or conned a lot of people here..

But I might be wrong about this person, as I was wrong about Jinxdom's ego or Likey Guy's ego.. Some people are hard to read because their Ego's are well blanced and controlled..

Edited by Professor T, 09 January 2013 - 05:16 PM.

[Blue Star]

i have found the most prevalent times of the ego engaged, is when i am lulled into a sense of being in control of it and when i fall into its trap of thinking it is not a defence mechanism.
Do you see?
If i have nothing to lose, i have nothing to fear, if i have nothing to fear..... Then there is no need for the big I /Ego to step in.
The ego acts as a defence mechanism.....it is a false shield.
A tool given to ill-equipped minds/ children, if you will..... With little experience of better ways of thinking.
Problem is that we can tend not to grow out of it. we seem to hold onto it, into our adult life because it goes unquestioned. unquestioned as to whether it is true or validity. It hides behind all kinds of masks and titles.

Edited by Blue Star, 09 January 2013 - 05:18 PM.

[Tutankhaten-pasheri]

Professor T, on 09 January 2013 - 05:14 PM, said:

Ha! finally got back to this comment..

Is size of online ego in inverse proportion to real life personality? That's a really good question.. and I would say nope, but that's just my opinion.. Here in the forums we hide behind an Avatar and a fake name, in most cases we have complete anonymity.. And yet, when some on-line persona attacks what our online persona says we feel hurt? This imo is because our on-line persona has become an alter-ego or a projection of ourselves into this virtual world in UM..

Remember this??
http://www.unexplain...showentry=26672

On the day you posted that Blog I had been watching several on-line persona's have a very public spat that crossed over several threads and forums. It was very revealing because imo it because it showed off one persona here in the UM community that is a fake.. and by fake I mean someone who's claims things in posts about the forums but embelishes half truthes, tells outright lies, and has fooled or conned a lot of people here..

But I might be wrong about this person, as I was wrong about Jinxdom's ego or Likey Guy's ego.. Some people are hard to read because their Ego's are well blanced and controlled..

Certainly remember. In fact it got worse and I was in trouble for speaking my mind, or something.....

I think we do identify with our online persona, even if dead Though I am real in that what I write is what I think and believe. My weird blog is my universe, it says much, it is my real avatar and signature. If that makes any sense....
I found that those who like to play games have taught themselves to be cold and disspassionate online. They have no empathy with other users except when it is fake and to suit their purpose. yet their purpose is nothing of substance, it is simply a game to them. They like to see people get irritated. I think the word troll should be used for them, even if they do not outwardly act like a troll. It is their purpose of disruption and argument for sake of argument that makes them troll. Some of course would not see themselves as a troll, and I think because they are simply an unpleasant person in real life and what they do is normal for them.

[Professor T]

Blue Star, on 09 January 2013 - 05:15 PM, said:

i have found the most prevalent times of the ego engaged, is when i am lulled into a sense of being in control of it and when i fall into its trap of thinking it is not a defence mechanism.
Do you see?

I totally understand the rest of what you said, and agree with the masks & titles theme.. imo, Ego is the shield of masks and titles we wear..  
I'm not sure I follow this first bit though, probably because your Ego is smaller and more subtle..
I tend to find that my Ego is more prevalent when it's being tickled or feels threatened..

[G Donnelly]

I believe the right-winged one has set the bar...
He's done both his commonplace and online ego's.
What about the rest of the happy campers here?
Well I believe the really hardcore posters have a massive ego.
Because how else could you explain their presence and that includes me.
Btw I prefer constructing windows to statues.
I've not really took a shine to any type of hard labour.

Edited by Medium Brown, 09 January 2013 - 09:25 PM.

[Blue Star]

Professor T, on 09 January 2013 - 09:13 PM, said:

I totally understand the rest of what you said, and agree with the masks & titles theme.. imo, Ego is the shield of masks and titles we wear..  
I'm not sure I follow this first bit though, probably because your Ego is smaller and more subtle..
I tend to find that my Ego is more prevalent when it's being tickled or feels threatened..

May I try to explain a little better?
Maybe because I am aware of the Ego at play at all times..... It doesn't need to be tickled/ threatened to draw my attention to it. i have been studying this for some time ....oh, only about 30 odd years or more. Anyways, my point is...... i know enough now to know, it is always there...Present, waiting, like a nagging bore waiting to elbow in.

Have you ever seen an ill-treated dog that is so up the wall wanting to be alpha that it is on guard constantly..... This is the ego..... Your's/ mine...It's the ego. It is not subdued because the risk it holds onto so tightly is flawed...It sees loss where there is none. It sees losing, when there is nothing to lose. It sees only want. Holding tight to an imagined situation or circumstance.

No amount of molly-codling, stroking, recognition, accolades, accreditation's, scores, wins, numbers nor awards will every abate its greed for supremacy. By it's nature you can never appease the Ego....It's nuts.

[ouija ouija]

Mr Right Wing, on 09 January 2013 - 10:03 AM, said:

Well done on the job. Time to do me properly.

So my great grandad was a very wealthy man and when he died in the 80s his land was worth about £16 million. The generations that followed him got a decent education, property and the funds to set themselves up in business if they wished. Being brought up in a family like that does wonders for your confidence and self-belief. When growing up you cant help but think to yourself you're above regular people and you have problems stopping your ego going into orbit.

I'm also an attractive guy and get a lot of attention of the ladies which makes my ego even worse. Strangely it gets them no where because I always go after the ones that dont seem interested in me. Its like I cant get my head around how a woman could not fancy me which is kind of a scary insight to how my mind works.

So I have an over inflated ego. I'm used to being the best at everything and because of this I did at one stage actually believe I was God. That kept me amused for years living in my Walter Mitty fantasy and it really didnt help me any playing Lemmings, Black and White 2, Sim City, etc. The result is a very strange sense of humour but at least it keeps me entertained. I shouldnt really be saying this but I even wrote my God speeches out at one stage and have delivered them infront of the mirror. At least I found it ridiculously funny lol.

My friends are all like me (men and women) and the usual banter in the pub is over who is the best lol.

Currently in News, Politics and Current Affairs: 'A Generation of Deluded Narcissists' makes very interesting reading IMO.

[ouija ouija]

Timonthy, on 09 January 2013 - 03:30 AM, said:

Kanye West refers to his penis as his ego. Relevant? If he means he's a d!*k/pr!*k, then yes that is relevant .... to him!

Ego is good (not referring to penis there). It's healthy to think highly of yourself. Also important to be happy with yourself.

Current thinking is that it's not healthy(or helpful), to think highly of yourself ......... much better to be realistic and honest with your assessment of yourself. See: News, Politics and Current Affairs, 'A Generation of Deluded Narcissists'.

My BOLD ^ ^ ^

[Sherapy]

Professor T, on 07 January 2013 - 08:56 PM, said:

Ok, I'm being deliberately vague with this.
I'm sure most of us have one or to nemesis in the Community who clash because there's just something about their posts/attitute/style that doesn't sit well with our own EGO's..

So, show us your Egos.

And let's discuss & define what Ego actually is.

And pick apart each other's Ego.

How are you defining Ego? (Freud's or your own)

What is your  purpose in picking apart ego's?