As i stated in my original post, it depends on your definition of reality. There are at least two.
The reality which exists indpendent of us (And would exist if there were no self aware observers and participants ) and the reality which exists with us, self aware, within it. These are very different things, but both ARE our reality.
We are like observers in a quantum experiment. Our very existence as observers alters the reality which would otherwise exist without our presence in it.