Kathleen Meadows: Most people believe in fate. You may not count yourself among that majority, until something happens that cannot be explained any other way. We like to believe that we are in charge of our destiny. What does it mean when we say this was fated to be or that this was our destiny? The notion inspires us when the results are joyful and it makes us feel angry when the outcome is devastating. Loved or cursed. Why do all these terrible things keep happening to me when I always choose the righteous path? Something is not right in the world when we choose to be a good person and never seem to get a break. Fate can make us feel pathetically victimized.