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Poll: Where do you draw the line at for giving to others?(whats the max you'll give to someone?) (19 member(s) have cast votes)

Where do you draw the line at for giving to others?(whats the max you'll give to someone?)

  1. NOTHING!!!! (explain why please) (5 votes [26.32%])

    Percentage of vote: 26.32%

  2. Eh, maybe a dollar or two, if I have enough to spare (2 votes [10.53%])

    Percentage of vote: 10.53%

  3. Some of my food, if I have enough and the person's hungry (2 votes [10.53%])

    Percentage of vote: 10.53%

  4. 5 dollars, even if I was going to use it all (1 votes [5.26%])

    Percentage of vote: 5.26%

  5. My McValue meal if the person looked starving (2 votes [10.53%])

    Percentage of vote: 10.53%

  6. 10 dollars, since this person looks desperate (2 votes [10.53%])

    Percentage of vote: 10.53%

  7. Treat them to breakfast/lunch/dinner at a nice sit- in restaurant (3 votes [15.79%])

    Percentage of vote: 15.79%

  8. 20 dollars, BUT JUST ONCE! (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  9. As much as the person needs. (2 votes [10.53%])

    Percentage of vote: 10.53%

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#1    TaintedDoughnuts

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Posted 11 June 2005 - 02:34 PM

the scenario is this:  you see a bum on the street, asking for money or food.  do you trust what he'll do with the money, or give him some food? or will you ignore him and live your life?


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Posted 11 June 2005 - 05:21 PM

I do not give money to stret people.  My charitable donations go to organizations.

The reason?  I live in NYC, there are too many street cons and homeless to make the determination of "this one is worthy, that one is not".  Give X amount to one, you might as well give to all.

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Posted 12 June 2005 - 01:37 AM

QUOTE(JMPD1 @ Jun 11 2005, 10:21 AM)
I do not give money to stret people.  My charitable donations go to organizations.

The reason?  I live in NYC, there are too many street cons and homeless to make the determination of "this one is worthy, that one is not".  Give X amount to one, you might as well give to all.

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you have a point.  where i live, in the middle of so cali, we have only about 2 or 3 homeless people asking for money at a time original.gif

Edited by TaintedDoughnuts, 12 June 2005 - 01:38 AM.


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Posted 12 June 2005 - 01:15 PM

I have given food to 'street people.'  I used to mystery shop a fast food joint every week and I befriended this one homeless lady and met her outside the joint and gave her my meal all the time.  I don't come in contact with many, but I've never given them money when I do.  

Well, there was this one supposed homeless guy hanging out in Washington Square (NYC) who wrote a poem for me on the spot.  He got $10.00, but he provided a service -- the poem was pretty good too.

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Posted 12 June 2005 - 01:25 PM

I don't mind buying food for someone, but I rarely give money. Where I live there is a huge drug problem and giving money just seems to perpetuate the drug use.

9 times out of ten when you offer to get them food they quickly reply that they only want the money which is when I walk away.

I do donate to reputable organizations that help folks in need, but too often the individual standing on the offramp of the freeway has no interest in getting anything but drugs; I'd rather not be a part of that...

Too many people on both sides of the spectrum have fallen into this mentality that a full one half of the country are the enemy for having different beliefs...in a country based on freedom of expression. It is this infighting that allows the focus to be taken away from "we the people" being able to watch, and have control over government corruption and ineptitude that is running rampant in our leadership.

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Posted 12 June 2005 - 01:30 PM

I haven't voted because it really depends on what they need (not what they ask for).  If they ask for money, I'll respond "What do you need it for".  If they want it for a train ticket, which is a common one where I live, i'll buy them a train ticket.  If they say "I'm hungry and need food, I'll buy them food from somewhere (maybe a nice sit-in restaurant, maybe maccas, it depends on where we are in relation to food places).  If I just give them money, as likely as not it will be for things that harm their body, which wouldn't be very loving of me.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 05:07 PM

Unless it's family, absolutely nothing.  I have a very libertarian attitude about life.  My first priority is my family, everything else can sink or swim in all honesty.  May sound harsh, but I don't want to encourage someone's drinking/drug habit.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 06:46 PM

Absolutely nothing, It may sound mean, but my attitude about homeless is that
its their fault. like when their drug users and stuff like that.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 06:50 PM

Depends the friend some maybe 20 others a thousand. Either way always write the money off as a gift. If you get back, great, otherwise your friendship can go down the drain. As far street people, I might give a dollar every once in awhile, but you have to be careful about that.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 06:55 PM

I prefer to donate my time cooking at the shelter a few nights a year.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 07:09 PM

I try to give money to those on the street as often as possible, however you can only give so much so often so I voted $10 since we all have to draw the line somewhere. Of course you have to be careful about who you give money to, but in certain circumstances I don't mind dropping a ten or twenty if somebody looks like they really need it.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 07:19 PM

I buy them something. Nothing too expensive. Maybe some tuna or pork and beans. They are greatful if they are hungrey.

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Posted 15 June 2005 - 07:20 PM

Well I live about 1 hour from Cleveland, Ohio…The streets are sometimes littered with homeless people and drug addicts. I’d probably give them 10 dollars because some people really do need help at their moment in life. Even though they could of possibly lead to their homeless ability, you still gotta put yourself in their situation to visualize what it’s like.

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Posted 16 June 2005 - 07:07 PM

I'm in northern Ohio as well.  I give to people whenever they ask, but I don't have a set amount.  Most of the time when I'm asked, the person comes up with a long story why they need it and etc, etc.  I really don't know if they're telling the truth, but all I know is that they just swallowed whatever pride they had, and that they're learning humility the hard way.  This in itself, I think is deserving of some amount of money/goods.

Also, not all homeless people are at fault for their homelessness.  I would like to hear the explanation of how an 8 year old would be at fault for their homelessness.

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Posted 16 June 2005 - 07:21 PM

I reside in California and homeless is a very big problem I live on the coast, In my neighborhood we know our homeless and help where we can, sometimes thats by having a conversation , I never not help asked or not, In a country so great why do we have starving homeless people and I mean everywhere how can we call ourselves great as long as their are those who have nothing.  Jesus said what we do to the least of us we do to all of us, I really take that to heart...........................


I walk to the local gas station every day and my son always comes with me ( he was 4 at the time)  and we always give to the homeless no judgements just give because thats who I am anyways my son says " innocent.gif I know what I want to be when I grow up I said whats that son 'He said Homeless because people are so nice to you."'Thats why I do it I dream of a world where noone  is hungry or without shelter and health care. Great question.







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