ok so this helium-3 is it in ice form on the dark side? or do they have to bring lots of gear to extract it from the dust? Either way it's logistics night mare.
You're more-or-less correct. H3 is in the soil. Extracting it is problematic at this time, of course. About 28 million pounds of lunar soil would be needed to extract 1 pound of H3 by heating it to high temperature and extracting the gas (with oxygen and water as by products, which is also pretty nice).
It's a great idea for a very safe, high energy fuel, but that's a ways off in the future, I'd say!