Stargazer- yes it's a chupi. and the funny thing is after my mother died I quit going to christian churches all together. Not that I don't like them or had not gone from time to time when I felt the need but I think it stemmed from what she told me when I was 16 in that I was old enough to decide for myself if I wanted to go to church or not. So I figured after she died then there wasn't much reason to go afterwards. (Much to the displeasure of my father and even more so after he got remarried.)
its funny how much alike some people on this thread are although everyone has different beliefs. My mom past away as well when i was a kid. When my father remarried they were even more adament....very similar to your situation. I understand completely.