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[HKCavalier]

This experiment strikes me as not a little spurious; the kind of test that only serves to reinforce already accepted prejudice.  The prejudice du jour boils down to this: "Men are sex-crazed by nature."  And judging from a lot of your posts, y'all tend to agree.  

I don't see that these experiments show a biological cause when our culture is so saturated with these ideas.  Look how the OP was lampooned as being a boy just entering puberty, ridiculed for even posting--the implication being that he's "less of a [grown] man" for doing so.  Oh, I know it was "just a joke" but it was the kind of joke that reinforces lies about what is and isn't masculine.  Had a woman posted the article, I don't think anyone here would have ridiculed her in this way (oh, sure, she might have been ridiculed for any number of reasons--this is the internet, after all--but not for being sexually inexperienced).  

Sexual inexperience in men is shameful in our culture.  A boy is told at a pretty young age that he better know what he's doing sexually or the world will laugh at him.  If a boy doesn't have the stereotypical reaction to female sex cues, he'll soon be branded as a homosexual.  This kind of stuff is a constant underlying force in our culture.  

So such "experiments," mired as they are by culture prejudice, really only serve to support our fantasies and move us further from an authentic encounter with the real world.

[Sherapy]

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This experiment strikes me as not a little spurious; the kind of test that only serves to reinforce already accepted prejudice.  The prejudice du jour boils down to this: "Men are sex-crazed by nature."  And judging from a lot of your posts, y'all tend to agree.  

I don't see that these experiments show a biological cause when our culture is so saturated with these ideas.  Look how the OP was lampooned as being a boy just entering puberty, ridiculed for even posting--the implication being that he's "less of a [grown] man" for doing so.  Oh, I know it was "just a joke" but it was the kind of joke that reinforces lies about what is and isn't masculine.  Had a woman posted the article, I don't think anyone here would have ridiculed her in this way (oh, sure, she might have been ridiculed for any number of reasons--this is the internet, after all--but not for being sexually inexperienced).  

Sexual inexperience in men is shameful in our culture.  A boy is told at a pretty young age that he better know what he's doing sexually or the world will laugh at him.  If a boy doesn't have the stereotypical reaction to female sex cues, he'll soon be branded as a homosexual.  This kind of stuff is a constant underlying force in our culture.  

So such "experiments," mired as they are by culture prejudice, really only serve to support our fantasies and move us further from an authentic encounter with the real world.

It was truly meant as a joke at 15 nowadays the kids are much more informed sexually, , HC puberty is a rite of passage a celebration finally sex is not this bad dirty thing its cute that frog posted this not a thing to be ridiculed where you see lampooning i meant how exciting of a time .....Your perspective is maybe looking for this???lol

[coldethyl]

You know, I'm a girl but if I see a pretty girl in lingere I wouldn't be able to concentrate either...as far as a hot guy-same thing.  Johnny Depp walks into a room and you can bet your sweet bippy I'm gonna drop my drink.  

[HKCavalier]

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It was truly meant as a joke at 15 nowadays the kids are much more informed sexually, , HC puberty is a rite of passage a celebration finally sex is not this bad dirty thing its cute that frog posted this not a thing to be ridiculed where you see lampooning i meant how exciting of a time .....Your perspective is maybe looking for this???lol

Hi, Sheri!  

Sheri, I didn't mean to single you out or imply bad motives on your part--of course you were joking--just pointing out an important undercurrent in the humor. Societal norms are often embedded in a culture's humor.

I'm certain your comments were innocent, but when a boy hears some variation on this theme over and over and over from every direction, it can be stultifying.  I happen to find our culture's attitude toward sexuality to be pretty effed up.  I don't have to look for this stuff, it's all around us.  

Any comments on the larger point of my post?   

[Sherapy]

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Hi, Sheri!  

Sheri, I didn't mean to single you out or imply bad motives on your part--of course you were joking--just pointing out an important undercurrent in the humor. Societal norms are often embedded in a culture's humor.

I'm certain your comments were innocent, but when a boy hears some variation on this theme over and over and over from every direction, it can be stultifying.  I happen to find our culture's attitude toward sexuality to be pretty effed up.  I don't have to look for this stuff, it's all around us.  

Any comments on the larger point of my post?

nice to see you its been some time hC I have missed you, as always i see the caring beautiful heart you have come through your posts, I do think you make a good point and one worthy of reading...lol ((hugs))))

[Avinash_Tyagi]

Well next time a girl asks me why I forgot to get her a gift, i'll just say her beauty impeded my ability to remember.

[Sherapy]

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Well next time a girl asks me why I forgot to get her a gift, i'll just say her beauty impeded my ability to remember.

it just might fly too avinash lol

[Immortal Norway]

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I thought this was common knowledge...

I thought so too...

[Ravinar]

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This experiment strikes me as not a little spurious; the kind of test that only serves to reinforce already accepted prejudice.  The prejudice du jour boils down to this: "Men are sex-crazed by nature."  And judging from a lot of your posts, y'all tend to agree.  

I don't see that these experiments show a biological cause when our culture is so saturated with these ideas.  Look how the OP was lampooned as being a boy just entering puberty, ridiculed for even posting--the implication being that he's "less of a [grown] man" for doing so.  Oh, I know it was "just a joke" but it was the kind of joke that reinforces lies about what is and isn't masculine.  Had a woman posted the article, I don't think anyone here would have ridiculed her in this way (oh, sure, she might have been ridiculed for any number of reasons--this is the internet, after all--but not for being sexually inexperienced).  

Sexual inexperience in men is shameful in our culture.  A boy is told at a pretty young age that he better know what he's doing sexually or the world will laugh at him.  If a boy doesn't have the stereotypical reaction to female sex cues, he'll soon be branded as a homosexual.  This kind of stuff is a constant underlying force in our culture.  

So such "experiments," mired as they are by culture prejudice, really only serve to support our fantasies and move us further from an authentic encounter with the real world.

man i hear you. i have ben called gay on numerous occasions because i have never bothered to get a girlfriend. frankly i think women are more trouble then there worth. don't get me wrong i hade female friends but i didn't see any reason to get into a relationship. the only reason people do it is because there genes tell them to. i like to think i have more control over myself then that

Edited by Ravinar, 27 April 2006 - 05:39 AM.

[robbieb]

God gave man a penis and a brain, but only enough blood to use one at a time.

~Robin Williams~