Okay my bf/gf still considers me a friend! No matter what I tell him/her he/she still stays on the friend level! I'm trying not to force him/her, but then again I want to explain to him/her what i want....what should I do?

You are in a catch 22 situation. It is either go for it or don't.

If you tell them you want more, you will either strike it rich or you could lose your friendship.

No easy answer, you are at a crossroads really. Maybe you could try to read the signs they are or are not sending you before you jump in feet first and risk all.

....You don't know the gender of your significant other?

Dont date friends...when you do that..and if it dont work out..its not fun trying to go back to being friends again

If you lose the friendship, then you will have nothing..

I have to agree with Lotus Flower on this one, a good friendship is not something you want to lose! Be very carefull and consider the signals your friend is sending you on this!

Shag him/her.

I myself believe once you mix sex and friendship the whole thing changes . want it too or not. Is it possible to go back to being friends ? sure. stay lovers ? sure but not both. You may become a different type of friends in a relationship as well.

Ive never known anyone to have a good friendship , sleep with them , and something not change. Usually one expects more than what was offered.

why should that matter ?

You should never mix the two.

I married my best friend when I was 23. it was ok for a little while.

But 12 years later we were divorced and it's been 5 years now, and it's only been in the last 2 or 3 months that we've been able to send each other an email and be civil about it. He lives less than 5 miles from me, but I haven't seen him in 5 years.

Precicely, it just seems odd that one would be so cryptic about such a detail.

Number one, yeah. You should kinda know whether they're male or female. Second, if they're still just wanting to be friends, they're not your boyfriend/girlfriend. It's that simple. Keep pressing it, and you'll lose a friend, too.

I don't know, sometimes the best relationships start out as friendships. Mine did, then it grew. It was even a joke at our wedding, an artist in the family made a big poster for our car that said, "Just Friends - Honest!"

But those that said not to push it are right, to an extent. Allow it to grow. Take your time. Some of us just have a fear of commitment, especially when it comes to someone we genuinely care about.

NO...... Don't do it!!!!!

take the time first,don't jump on the oppurtunity

Go for it, a lot of relationships start as friendships.

missliss,

If you can find someone who will be your lover and your friend then this is the very best relationship you can have. As others have said, take your time and don't sacrifice the friendship, but don't be afraid to want the very best. It's easy to have a relationship where you can hold something back, where your lover isn't your friend or vice-versa, but the rewards from having a relationship where both people give everything is worth the risk.

Just be sure both of you feel the same way.

The question you should really be asking is if you think you can:

(a) fail at a relationship without ruining a friendship
(b ) if the answer is no, is one worth sacrificing for the other?

Presto.

Any other advice is useless as it is entirely subjective from person to person.

It might be useful to know in some situations, I'd have thought.

lol no, it's a quiz i'm single

it's not me but i agree

I agree with Leonardo totally here.

My husband and I did not start off as friends, we just started dating, however, we became the very best of friends too.

He is my best friend and he tells everyone I am his. However, we do get on each other's wick's at times, that's only to be expected though.

..........You're Doomed.

I agree. By far the best relationship is when you can no doubt say your best friend is your lover.

I think it depends on how long you have been friends to determine if a dating relationship is possible. Over a year is probably to long to make the jump from friend to more than friends. I think that when talking about friends it will end up being mutual that another level can happen between the two, therefore it probably would not take all that long to develop into a dating relationship. There are probably reasons that people who are just friends for a long while, never amount to more than that.

I think the best relationships start out as getting to know the person on a personal level rather than just trying to date right away. Because when you are friends for a couple months you can get to know each other then realize that a relationship is possible. But when dating there is so much pressure to be perfect that your true self doesn't always come out.

lmao

it'a a quiz from a friend that she asked me to post, i'm single! i don't like any of my firneds like that

Presumably, you would know that you were no longer " just friends" if you had already decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend.

Perhaps a better way to phraise it would be a an interest?

All I have to say is "Eeeeeeeehhhhhhhhhhh"

It's a bad idea and has a very good (though not certain) chance of ending in regret and possibly ending even your friendship.

That said, the unfortunate thing about bad ideas is they tend to be extremely alluring.

I don't believe you missy! But I do want an update on what you have decided to do about your situation.