hey, this 'll probably be closed knowing my luck, but for anyone who wants to talk about love, as its nearly valentines day, u can post your thoughts in here, sorry mods, if u do close this, ,

anyway, some pointers for what to think about,

1. what is love
2. true love, love at first sight - real or not
3. soul mates - found yours?


etc etc, anyway happy posting

love to me is define as an beatable emotion that draws two or more people to a long lasting relationship. to achieve the passing of there genes eventually.

there is no such thing as love at first sight? i'll tell you why. when you see a stranger that is a hottie, you like them (you might say love). you can't love someone until you get to know them personally.

and no i have not find my partner yet (i have tried but she didn't agree with my out look on life. she said it's either her or my dreams ). i am a current student with a full time job and have nothing on my mind other than trying to improve the lives of human kind by further studies in science.

I don't think there's love at first sight. Never happened to me or anyone I know.

love is wonderful, unconditional, and permanent...if it 'goes away' it simply never was.

love at first site=no. lol for the reason ragin cajun stated

and idk...maybe...quite possibly...perhaps, ive met mine...i thought i did a while ago...i was quite wrong...but now, idk.

ty all for your answers, forgot to post mine earlier

love - wonderful warm feeling, when a person, walks in the room, or talks to u etc, and u just know u could spend the rest of your life with them

i do believe in love at first sight, for reasons i'd rather not state in here,


and thirdly soul mates do exist, i think ive found mine

1. biologically it's a combination of vasopressin, oxytocin, and endorphins. girls have more oxytocin and guys have more vasopressin. oxytocin has more to do with maternal love and vasopressin has more to do with love for you're gf/bf, which is why i think it's easier for girls to give up on relationships that could work out if they tried hard enough to make it work, but it's harder for them to abort a baby or let somebody adopt it.

2. it could be, but it's never happened to me.

3. not yet.

i couldnt agree more nate, well said

Love to me is a commitment you have to your best friend in your life. I can say I have the evidence in my wife and best friend. We have six grown children and our first grandson. And yes it was love at first sight. Love changes as you grow with it but it is still wonderful.

1. I could give the biological definition of it, but that just won't do it.
I believe love can never go away. As soon as you get it, it stays, forever.
Love from first sight? might happen, all depends on how u define love.

I don't think love can be defined anyhow, without feeling it.
It's a good feeling inside, that u can't really explain it.
I also think that both guys and girls basically feel the same, I mean I know of guys who were really broken from ending a relationship, and in other relationships, the girl was more broken.

2. Could happen - happened to me .


3. yep

i agree with u erik, i've found my soulmate, and yes there is such a thing as love at first sight

just let me correct one thing. love isn't always good. it can be used as a tool for abuse. or love can make people crazy.

I believe in love, not fate. Love is a idea, created for human comfort.

i fell in love with my best friend once, but she wouldn't go out with me because we don't live near each other.



it can go away eventually, but it won't if you try to keep it.

i agree that you can't understand it without feeling it. it would depend on how in love each person was, but in general it would be easier for girls to break up with someone they're in love with.

well said nate, very true, but trying to make it work, all depends on circumstances, and i think girls find it harder to make it work

It can never go away, cause u'll never forget who u loved.
If it did go away, u would have forget it after 10, 20 or 30 years.
The fact that u can't prove u still carry emotional burden.

As for women find it easier - I read in the newspaper only two weeks ago that women tend to experience break up as a combat shock, psychologically speaking...

i think ladies can break away much easier. why??? ladies are always looking for love or want to be loved...if the peron they are with isn't that they just say goodbye. guys i think want try to figure things out(try to work relationship better). but what do i know i am making assumptions based with no facts.

well speaking as a woman, i hate breaking up, its the B***** worst thing to do, but when your in love its even harder

you don't forget people that you fell in love with easily, but that's more because when you're brain marks something as emotionally significant it the part of your brain that makes memories is activated. love is one of the most intense emotions and endorphins stimulate the memory center whether they're caused by love or not.

on average, women have lower levels of a brain chemical called serotonin. low levels of serotonin makes you more sensitive to having your feelings hurt.

i agree that breaking up with someone you like/love is one of the hardest things to do.

Love is like a rollercoaster.

I wanna ride!

I hope this don't get closed like this thread started said. All the good ones always do! Anyways I felt something I thought I would never feel I was deeply in love with my ex. Then all the sudden I fell in love with another girl. And this other girl threats me different we're going out now and it's like I forgot about my ex! Has this ever happened to anyone else they just FELL OUT OF LOVE??

You were never in love with her if one day you decided you liked someone else better.

Love, for starters, is not something that happens one day and not the next. It takes a long time to fall in love with someone, and equally as long to fall out of love.
Sadly, there are too many people who cannot distingush between like, and love, because they have never felt love, and therefore consider any simple feeling of affection for someone to be love.

Agreed. It's more than just a passing whim and is not something that is just *POOF* gone one day in exchange for new diversion. That's love's nature, to be more powerful than any run of the mill 'like' or 'lust'. I think it can be replaced and does fade, but it takes a lot of time if it was true.

Do I detect some cynical men here?

I don't think sex makes much of a difference at how distraught a person is during a break up. Both sexes are affected just as badly in my experience. Of more importance is the support you have around you to enable you to start to recover.

I still often think of the people I have truly loved (and lost) many, many years on. This includes my mother, my ex fiance and my dog. Those boyfriends/pets/family members I was fond of but did not truly love I do not think of at all.

how did you get me being cynical out of my posts?
cynic=a person that believes people are self-centered and aren't sincere about what they do

i posted the biological definition of it for a reason that the person it was directed towards doesn't want me to tell about.



i hope you're not talking about the same kind of love we're talking about. we're talking about the type of love you feel exclusively for your gf/bf.

Love, for me, is something that you could never match up to, something that could never be taken for granted, and something that you can never turn your back on. It's something that can't turn into evil, something that can't be destroyed, and something that can't be betrayed.
It's a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person that is hard to back away from.
And an intense emotional attachment.

Something that's so deep it's painful when you're away from the person.
Definately.

It's weird I still like her a lot maybe I still do love her, but she alwasy loved my, but the thing is she also liked so many other boys. And now I found another girl and she loves me. Maybe I love this other girl more because shes more loyal.

Love is between one person and one person.
If you have eyes for someone else, you are not in love with the person you are with. Love is a blindness to everyone around you except for the person you are in love with. It is selfish, it makes you ignore everyone completely except for your woman, or man.

That girl does care for me, I hate to use this word I think shes a hoe......and I do love her, but I just no longer feel the same. I think since someone else came in my life I just feel different about her ya know. Hard to say if she did love me or not.

Now Burnside lets not be so cynical. Im probably the only person here who has put any thought into what love really is.

i don't believe in love. i did but now, i think it is just a lie . but, who cares about my opinion anyway?

Love is undefinable.

Well you'll have to forgive me for not taking a 14yr old's word on that.
I don't believe love can be felt until adulthood maturity is met, at least over the age of 17-18.
I thought i knew what love was, like every other teenager, and i was insulted when i was told by my elders that it was not love i was feeling. Now i have matured myself i know only that of course they were right.

love is like a rollercoaster,
that has it's ups and downs,
and if it's waters get too deep,
in it's passion, you could drown.

don't be too eager to swim it's depths,
it's path can be cold and long,
if you're not careful you'll trip and fall,
and lose that for which you long.

but if cupid's arrows hit the mark,
go for it every mile,
if you don't leave with a broken heart,
it will be more than worth your while.

i wrote that when i saw your post but i didn't have enough time to post it earlier.

technically, you can fall in love at any age, but you're more likely to mistake something else for it when you're younger, but i don't think he was really in love either. it's not something that just comes and goes like that. when you fall in love, you know you're in love, and you care more about that person than virtually anything else.

what happened?

or do you not want to talk about it?

Love -> Foo...i say again foo....

Perhaps your right, Perhaps your not. Consider my words carefully, you cannot judge anothers love. For you have never felt it, never shared it. Love is undefinable. It's pointless to try to define, so how can you define who can feel it? I love my friends, I have platonic love for them. So why can I not feel romantic love? As I stated at the start of this post, consider what I have said critically. I'll find out wether you are right or you are wrong out in the term of my life.

*Oh my, I meant to put youngest not only in my previous post..

Awww come on Pheenix, don't say that ...

pheen, please, theres the right guy for everyone, and one day Prince Charming will come and sweep u off your feet, It will happen,

why on earth would u break up w/ sumone u love? unless u love them, and they are hurting u, it should not be done...love endures ALLLL things. its unconditional.

Romantic love is not the only type of love. There are many different types, and they are no less meaningful. The love we have for our parents or our children for example.

I agree you cannot judge what another person is feeling. Love means different things to different people. Why should the love of a 14 year old be devalued or considered less significant due to their age? As we age and as we get hurt more and more often, I sometimes think people are a lot more cautious about falling in love. Maybe that wild abandon of love and passion that many of us felt as teenagers wasn't so bad after all.

I feel a lot of love for my pets. I enjoy looking after them and taking care of their needs. I have made many sacrifices for them (including choice of job and where I live). People think it odd my pets mean so much to me, but as I have no human family it is not surprising - most of us desire to love and be loved in return. It does annoy me that most of my friends devalue my love for my pets yet would be outraged if I suggested they similarly did not love their kids. How can they possibly judge while they are not me?

i hate love all it ever brings me is pain

well said horrification, i agree with that :s , though being in love is the most amazing, wonderful experience, as one of my friends once said, when she'd been with her bf for 4 years, its like floating on clouds, i feel like i'm on cloud nine

Ah, but thats that much further to fall

yes very true novo, but when your in love nothing else seems to matter, everything seems to focus on that one other person, u can never stop thinking about them, u wonder what they're doing, when your having a conversation u think i wonder what ... would think

I think it's entirely possible for a 14 year old to fall in love, assuming that we're all talking about romantic love. And romantic love is different then love for your family, your friends, your pets... not that its better, but perhaps more complicated.

However, if a 14 year old tells me that he was in love with someone that he/she had been seeing for just a few months, but it didn't work out.... you can scream at me until you're blue in the face that it was love, I won't believe you for a second. If it was love you would have been able to understand and compromise to each other to make it work. At a couple of months you haven't really given anything a chance, you still barely know each other.

It's different for everyone, but I think that love and lust feel almost exactly the same at first. The only difference is that once the initial excitement of being around this same new person wears off, you still want to be with them. Because you still connect in a way that you've never connected with anyone else.

I think we all experience it at some point or another, and once you have it, you just know.

With my significant other, after living together for a year I still love him dearly. I see a future with this person, and I've never been able to see that before. I can tell him absolutely anything, no matter what, and he'll never love me any less for it.

I read that too, apparently a serious breakup can have permanent effects on a womans brain, altering her personality.

Mmm, I'd better be nicer in future