QUOTE(glorybebe @ Aug 1 2007, 02:10 PM)

Yes, the signs should have been recognized. But, don't forget the loss of pull the teachers have now. and how many parents are really home when their children come home from school. Maybe there should be more help by the government for parents to have rights in discipline, as well as teachers. Most of these kids taunt that they will have nothing done to them because they are too young. It is unfortunate, but is the reality that parents have to work to put a roof over their children's heads and food on the table. Why can't the governing bodies step up and have more childcare or places for the youth to go to and actually be supervised? If the children have more self-respect, then they will respect others more. Even boot camp for the youth who refuse to go to school will not just teach them self respect, but help them feel part of a team. Maybe that is part of it, too. How many come from broken homes and long for that family bond, which they find in a gang like setting? The youth are crying out, maybe we have to listen.
I've said this before, "teachers spend the most time with children after their parents." A teacher may have anywhere from 25-40 per class and depending on the grade level when class switching starts x 7 class worth of students a day. That is a lot of children to keep up with yet they do. They can recognize the problem students or the students with problems.
The sad fact is a lot of teachers don't/won't report flagging behavior in students for several reasons; either they don't want to rock the boat, they aren't getting backup from the principle, or the parents don't want to be told that their little darling is a or having a problem. Not all teachers are good and some of them just frankly don't feel that they are paid enough to care. But the ones that do and try to make a difference sometimes can but there has to be support all the way around. The teacher has to have back up from the principle in the least and hopefully from the parent/s as well. For example, a couple of years ago my goddaughter was failing subjects (this started halfway through the school term) and starting to have discipline problems, bad grades were given and the parents thought that she was just hitting a rut in school (subject matter becoming more difficult, eh... it happens). Instead of contacting the parents or much to my chagrin the parents contacting the teacher to see what was up with her everyone kept Mum about it. Then about two weeks before school was out they get a note telling them that their daughter is getting ready to fail because of behavior problems and failing not only the subjects that she was having difficulty with midway through the year but now she was failing all of them. OK, the year before she was a straight A student. How does this happen? A parent teacher's meeting was called and the parents asked the obvious question- "If she was having behavior problems and you saw that her grades were going down fast, why didn't you call us? Why wait until two weeks before the end of the year and tell us this now when it's too late to do anything about it?" The teacher had no valid response but did some kind of duck and dodge routine. Yet by the same turn a friend of mine who is a teacher had called parents of a student whose grades and behavior suddenly changed and not for the better was told that it was no big deal and not to bother them unless it was important. When that child's behavior became so bad that detention didn't work and suspension was the next course of action, the child was dropped off by the parents at the school during the suspension and basically told them "what are you going to do about it? I've got to go to work and you (teachers) work for me." The principle instead of calling law enforcement or children's services tucked tail and let the student back in class. This behavior is normal not abnormal. People need to grow backbones in my opinion and do what they need to do. By letting the teacher off the hook for not recognizing that my goddaughter had troubles in class she went undiagnosed with ADD for a year (it also could have been that she needed glasses which sometimes causes the similar behavior) the principle for letting the student back on school grounds it let this kid know that he could get away with misbehavior and there was nothing that anyone who should have been in charge was willing to correct it or enforce policy/law.
Yes it's almost gotten to the point at least in the US where both parents have to work to make ends meet and a lot of single family homes are becoming standard. There should be more after school programs for working parent/s to take help provide a safe/stable environment for children. But what if the parent/s have to work at night. They have to hire a baby sitter or have a family member be with their child/children then. So even though the introduction of programs like those won't help out in every case. But the introduction of more youth oriented centers would help a lot. Like what Alice Cooper is doing in Arizona. Got to love Alice.
http://www.azcentral.com/ent/celeb/articles/0731cooper.html I am so down with the boot camp idea, I've been saying that for years. Take these little want to be thugs and send them to boot camp, with a real Drill Sergent or TI. Mwahhahaahahahahah! And I'm not talking about the weekend boot camp junk that you see on Jerry Springer or that ilk, but real boot camp. Both genders too!
I agree and have said before that a lot of children get involved with gangs or gang like clicks want a bond that they aren't getting at home. A gang is a surrogate family.
QUOTE(contactismade @ Aug 1 2007, 02:49 PM)

Yeah maybe they would actually learn something if they got the strap, it worked for me and my brothers. I used to wish I would get picked up by the cops instead of my dad. He knew what the word punishment meant for sure. I was always more afraid of him. He didn't beat or anything like that, he just made my life very very uncomfortable. And he never made the punishment fit the crime, he went overboard everytime with a promise for worse for repeat offenses. He used to keep a note book, whenever some senior he knew or person with an injury needed hard dirty work done he kept a note of it and told them to wait a week or so. Sure enough one of us would do something stupid and out comes his book, next thing you know your painting some strange person's fence, voila lesson learned tenfold.
Now I'm not a fan of the 'strap' but I do see it's place at some points in time. The problem is that it is a system that can be and is more often abused than used correctly, that's why I'm glad that corporal punishment is no longer allowed in school, to many cases of abuse. Yet I do like your Dad's ingenious way of paying off your debts. LOL! Perhaps a similar type system could be integrated into a youth boot camp! Food for thought anyway.
I applaud any parent/s guardian/s who care enough to discipline (correct with kindness incorrect behavior) their child/children because it means that they truly love them.
Too bad that it wasn't done for the youths in this case. Think of how many lives would be different if someone somewhere had given a fig about something other then themselves.
Mabon.