Well i have not been on this forum in god knows how long. Months! Well reason being i've been in a relationship and it was great!! I've hardly done anything else
i was constantly around this girl like always. Over time we fell in love i;m going to sum this all up i;ve always came to this forum for help people here have always been so nice!

To make long story short so i can get some answers we fell apart ...she and me just fell apart.

tonight was the worst argument ever! before we hung up she literally begged me please james get me to fall back in love with you
do something to wow me i want to be back in love with you we are falling apart!

what can i do???? she told me no flowers no material items just get me do something from your heart....

can you guys pease please help me out here

Depends on the type of girl she is? MAKE her a card.. (Dont buy one) with all sorts of little things.. put something special, little poems and/or at the bottom, A place to meet you.. (dependng on the weather) By a river or something, have a few candles and a blanket, find somewhere thats got a good sky sight. o_O

Write her a poem.


If all else fails, Try repeating how you got her to like you in the first place?^.-

the way i first got her to fall in love with me...

i just treated her well always text her good mornign always called her to wish her a goodnite...

bought her little things...
just treated her so well...i know if she gives me a second chance i can do it again but that would take so much time..

im looking for something to blow her mind like damn ....
he did that for me you know... hmmmm

Ask yourself if it's really worth saving. Seriously, can you see yourself with her for the long term, having to make her fall back in love with you over and over again? Love isn't always excitement and fireworks, or getting along perfectly. Sounds like she has some unrealistic expectations of what love is. And why do you have to do all the work to make her fall back in love with you? What kind of effort is she putting forth besides nagging?

It sounds to me (and I'm not saying this to hurt you), that she may never had been in love with you....If your relationship was good and solid, then these arguments would be discussed to see how to rectify them...I would sit down with her and rationally talk to each other about what has gone wrong....Don't try to prove anything to her by buying her gifts, be emphatic, and if she dumps the whole relationship, turning sour, on you, then I would say goodby and get on with my life........

I wondered what happened to you

Hmmm... First you have to make sure that she is the right one to keep trying with, sometimes these things end for the right reason even when it hurts like hell, and rarely do they end cleanly with a handshake and a "have a nice day". Assuming you need to give it another go, for closures sake at least, or another valid run at a relationship then I think you need to look at what made her fall for you originally. Hopefully it wasnt money and buying her things; that is a red flag...

It isnt going to be any one thing that is going to win a girl back. Never. You can plan the greatest most romantic date in the world for friday night, but what about Saturday afternoon?

This is just my opinion and I am horribly old fashioned and will probably get heckled for this but here goes...It is all of the little things that you do day after day that make all of the difference, you have what is called an emotional bank account in a relationship; when you do kind loving things for the other person it is like making a deposit in that bank account; a little here, a little there. The account balance goes up a little bit when you open the door for her, it goes up a lot when you cook her a dinner(even if it isnt all that great- it is the effort), blow off your friends for a special night with her and it is a huge deposit in that account. It goes both directions though...blow her off to go out with your buddies time after time and the balance drops a bunch. Forget her birthday, it drops again.

The goal is to keep that account as high as you possibly can with every action. Of course there will be messups and argument and so on, that is normal over long term relationships, but it is the surplus in that bank account that allows you to weather the tough times; you can forget a birthday once in a while with no long term effects if you have been otherwise adding to the account.

Do you see where I am going?

I have been married for a long time. My wife Sarah is a beautiful woman who is fully capable of doing anything she wants and she too is old fashioned like I am. I alway open doors for her, I always open the car door for her. She has never had to gas up any of our vehicles since we have been married. Like I said she can, but she doesnt like to, and loves the fact that I go out of my way to gas up and wash her car for her. I get her flowers for no reason at least a couple times a month. I send her emails from the station(I work 24 hour shifts at the fire department) and call her when it is slow to say hi and tell her I love her. Lots and lots of little things; everyday showing that I am thinking of her. That way when I mess up I have done so many nice things it is not that big a deal. She let me go to take a bunch of high school fire cadets to a live fire training academy over our anniversary and it was no big deal to her because in her words she didnt have to save up for a year to get a display of love out of me. I had earned enough in my account to make a withdrawal and had plenty left over.

I am not sure how you can apply that to this girl; it may be too far past that point, once you start bouncing emotional checks it is too late and there generally is no recovery, but I have no idea what your situation is.

I wish you the best though...

In this i have to agree with goalie and Fluffy! They really summed it up pretty well in my oppinion! And i fall in love with my hubby all over again everyday and sometimes i just have to look at him and i feel so much love i want to cry with joy and appreciation for him! And even the things that he gets wrong ( the small things) are sooo endearing to me! It sounds to me that this woman thinks highly of you and wants desperatly to feel the love! But if she,s not feeling it you shouldn,t have to try and make her! Real love is felt even during the rough and frustrating times! And wanting, needing to work them out through examining together what the problem is and both taking resposibility in changing those things! Not expecting you to fix it for you both so she can fall in love again! Good Luck, i hope everything works out and you find real true love with the best person for you!

she could be angling for a proposal. I cannot think of a gesture she would want that would make you fall back in love?

Is this a recent bad patch you're in? have you been like this before and worked it out?

good luck with this, whatever you do I hope you make the right choices and sort it out one way or another.

Hey!.
I have only read your original post.

Just from what you have written (and I haven't been on this forum for very long so don't know much about you or if you have posted about your relationship previously) I would say no relationship should be ''hard work''. We all go through our hard times and rocky patches and it does take a bit of work and compromise.

Her asking you to woo her back is so vague. I don't know...have you been neglecting her recently? do YOU feel you could have/should have done more for her?. Is everything you do going to be thrown back in your face because you're only doing it because she asked you to woo her?.

If you don't know where you have been going ''wrong'' then thats alot of pressure on you to do something that you're not sure is expected of you.

I can't say what you should do for her, what would make me happy and feel special wouldn't necessarily make someone else feel special. It seems to me like you both just need to talk openly. All relationships go through different phases, the new ''OMG this is amazing'' part does fade, but with it should come another phase thats just as special.

I hope everything goes well. let us know how you get on x x x

Why did she fall out of love with you????????

Parade naked through the street with her name written across you chest in blood.

If you must have her Kiss her with so much passion it makes her soul tingle, if thats not enough then nothing probably will be.

Now that is an act of true love. Why didn't I think of that?

Before anything, ask her "what was it that made you fall in love with me!?" Get specific, not one word answers. Ask 'what else'

Ask yourself then was it love in the beginning or was it the attention she liked.

Thats just pure sex right there.

For the OP, welcome back btw hehe, I once told a guy the above. He just wasn't giving me anything at all to work with. Bottom line, I was bored and needed attention. You can't cage up this monster and never play with it, yanno?!

*ahem*

Ask her what the hell she wants from you or you could always sing to her.

I gaaave my love a chicken, that had nooo booone.

Ignore me.

Because I'm too good looking. jk



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I think that's the problem 2pac's girl is having. She is just tired and needs attention in a spontaneous way. You should give pac some advice. What would you have him do?



I could point out so many wrong things with that comment. Don't even get me started.

Told ya to ignore me!

James- Miss ya very much. You're too good for her. Many other hotties out there who will treat you with the mutual respect and love you deserve. Hope all is well. Keep us posted hun! ♥ and miis you!! Jody

U r better off without her it sounds like.dont be WHIPPED!!i hope u wake up n realize u r WHIPPED most chicks r not worth fightin 4. good luck!!

Think back to conversations you have had about her dreams, goals, wants, curiousities... I'll give you a couple of examples... Ok, now these are pertaining to me, and she is a totally different person, so realize I am just throwing out ideas and they might, or might not work for her... seriously, think really hard to what she has exressed interest in... sometimes the silliest things can mean the most... for example... I mentioned to my boyfriend one times I would like to try squirrel. so onhis next hunting trip, he AND his friends abandoned looking for deer and pig, shot some squirrels, cleaned them, and he gave them a milk bath so they wouldn't be gamey. He stuffed them, breaded them and made side dishes the night he decided to prepare them though he had a long hard day at work, invited me over and he had his table all set up with candles and the whole nine yards.... now, ok, you are probably thinking one of 3 things, 1, ewww, who eats squirrel? they were good, try them. 2, I wonder if my girlfriend would like squirell... here is why I told you to listen. It was one little offhand comment that he worked hard on to let me experience. She might be very grossed out if ya give her a dead squirell, it depends on what she has said she would like to try, do, experience, etc 3, what is the point/why was it so special? because he LISTENED TO ME, had his friends help (thus allowing them to know he cares for me by doing this), and went to all the trouble though he probably would rather have sat back with a beer than bread squirell corpses. And there is so much more... does she like adventure? Give her an adventure in life. Has she expressed boredom? take her somewhere exciting. Remember, a memory is so much greater than a material gift. I hope this helps!

James hun- After reading this again and then reading some of the responses I just have one thing to say...

You cannot MAKE someone be in love with you. You are who you are right? She was "in love" with you once but now says she's NOT? Well, that's HER PROBLEM; not yours (how fickle). I understand this may not be what you want to hear but when will this come up again in the future? Will this come up again AFTER you're married? Consider this FAIR WARNING; if you wish to believe in fate or destiny. I would suggest moving on to another lovely lady. You will have no problems with your good looks and repectful mannerisms. Love hurts...Love stinks... but when you find the right match you will know it hun. Remember YOU ARE GORGEOUS. Don't fall for the silly schoolgirl mentality.

Said with Much love and RESPECT ♥ Jody

I'd send her a message in a bottle.


http://www.timelessmessage.com/bottles/bot...CFQUllgodKD0qdw

Good idea True.

I guess I'm just not a fan of having to make it so... I don't know... complicated? She's either in love or she's not. right?

Ugh, I'm probably totally wrong so don't listen to me James!

I'm just one to move on quickly I guess.