Hello this is yet another one of my Dream threads, more of a confusing one, i would like some help on interpretting it.
Well lets start with a bit of history, I asked a girl out she said she doesnt like me in that way, this is not the first time it has happened and I have reached the point of giving up on love completly. .
I had a few nightmares lately, which is weird for me because I havnt had them for years or i havn't been remembering them.
This one was sort of a nightmare.

The dream:
I was in my room sitting on my bed and this girl walks into the doorway she is beautiful, I talk to her and i find out that her parents have died and that she is going to stay with us in our old house, we fall for each other straight away, but i also find out she's apparently my cousin, (which is really skrewed up), of course my dream self ges put off by this but the feelings are still there, we discuss it and decide that it is morally and in many other ways wrong. The dream then changes, im outside a building and there are people outside it with guns, they have taken hostages, then they end up leaving im not sure if they get shot or run for some reason, there is a rush of people going in every direction, then I make it into the building, and I have a strong sense of deja vu, like i have been there before and come back in time, I new the girl from the start of the dream was hurt badly and that last time she had died, i ran down to the corridor to the left and she was lying there with a bit of blood coming from her head, still alive, close to death, there was a nurse or doctor there with her, helping her to stay alive, i ran over to them, i was crying, if felt so damn real , i told her that she cant die because I love her and to please not go. Anyway she survives and we end up getting married (yes again skrewed up, I know).

I dont know how to feel about this dream, it has impacted me deeply with a lot of sadness. I cant seem to get it out of my mind.
Does this dream have any meaning? Any help or comments would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading.

I had a dream like that, but i didn't love the other person, they loved me. And i've never seen this boy in my life before, but it was quite scary. Basically, i was in a carriage with him, and we were all dressed up, and every time i tried to get out of the carriage, he'd grab on and start crying, telling me to never leave, never never never. And it was horrible in the dream, but when i woke up, i was really upset, because i've never experienced that type of love, and its in my dreams. A sign of things to come perhaps?

Angel x

It is good to talk things out with others because more often than not when we attempt to explain things to others our minds do a summary to tell them to keep from dragging it out and we inadvertently supply our own answers by creating order to do this.

If you look at these key statements you can clearly see the links.
It is a cycle of behavior that is not working for you but which your subconscious believes that if it is repeated enough will somehow work in the end.
The Cousin represents the type of female that you have been attracted to as inherently incompatible.

The solution is to drastically change your lifestyle, tastes, and appearance to make you more compatible to this type or to make the conscious effort to avoid this type of female, one that seems compatible to your subconscious, but which is clearly not in reality.

So i'll just keep at what iv been doing, avoiding close friendships with any and every girl, making sure i dont fall for any of them, thank you.

I didnt find the girl scary at all, it sounds almost like this boy either really cared about you or was over obbsessive.

owch! Just fall for nice girls, with the intention of falling for them, not making friendhsips with them! If you get me!

Angel x

I've gotten to the point where i aksed my friend to punch me if I ever fall for anyone ever again. I figure that everyone is better off without me . I believe i like it this way.

well no offense...you sound pretty...erm...pathetic? You're seventeen, according to your page, plenty of time, have you even finished school yet? I wouldn't worry too much, relationships are too expensive, think of all the presents you have to buy for them! And they always make you come out, even if you're in the deepest darkest pit of illness! Sreiously don't worry, you'll find someone!

Angel x

I'll take the pathetic as a compliment, thank you. You've been to my page?!, kidding. nope havn't finished school yet. Thank you for the advice and the hope that you are giving me.

No problem! I've got about ten thousand billion friends complaining at me with the same problems, so i know what to say, usually its just a 'awwwwwww' and a pat on the back!

Angel x

People need to learn that relationships aren't the most important facet of one's life. Yes, we all know how nice it feels to be loved and cared about, but you need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. If you don't think that you're worthy of being able to love anyone, then guess what, you won't be! It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and it's up to you to change how you feel about your love life, not other people. Trust me, I've felt the same way as you before, and I'll hazard a guess that everyone will sometime in their life. You're young, you have plenty of time to look for your mate, whomever they may end up to be. Teenagers are way too focused on having a boy/girlfriend for no other reason than having one. Don't date someone just because you can, date someone because you actually like them and they like you back and value you for who you are. Don't ever change for someone else, trust me, it's not worth it. I've already made the decision that I'm not going to date in high school unless I find someone who's absolutely amazing, and so far so good. Sure, all my friends think I'm crazy, but it will be more beneficial for me in the long run. There's a lot more important things to work on in your life than relationships.

Thank you both, im feeling slightly better then i have been, but i feel we should proably try to get back on topic, its my fault we strayed off so it should prabably be my fault we get back on. If there is anything left to discuss.

That sweet melancholy born from the memory of a girl in a dream is one of the most powerful artistic forces out there. I'd suggest you try using that feeling to inspire a poem or a story or a painting, whatever.

You'll never find a girl in real life to rival the ones in your dreams, and that in itself is the tragedy.

I need to have a dream about this boy i was dreaming about again, it fascinates me. I've never seen this boy in my life, and i'm getting a bit obsessed with him!

Angel x

Kinda funny how we are falling in love with figments of our imagination, when I get more time eg; the weekend, I think i shall look into this more, try and get an idea of how common this is. It is a weird situation to be in, the feelings feel strong, as far as you know unless you become lucid, everything around you is real.

I just had a thought, maybe we are falling in love with ourselves which isnt that far fetched, my dream girl was like me and i see myself as being just a guy with excema, i have less confidence in anything because of it, maybe my mind created this dream girl as my cousin in contrast to me having excema.

Angel your falling for a guy who seems to be similar to yourself, put yourself in his shoes, the way he felt is similar to the way your feeling about him now. He was obsessed with you and now your getting a bit obsessed with him.

I'm not sure if i'm making any sense to anyone else but to me it's kinda making sense. Either way i guess this is really quite weird.

I do believe that this is because our minds know what type of people we like. And puts them into our dreams thats why we prefer those people in our dreams to the people in real life.

I have done art based on how i feel about my life, it was a while ago but its still a heart with a whole in it.



I have started to think its more of a learning expirience.

Yeah, i'm kind of obsessed with obsession (if that makes sense) so maybe thats it, and you do make sense to me!

Angel x

In your dream the girl was your cousin, and in reality the gal doesnt like u in that way. This signifies barriers to get to know the gal, but after an ordeal you will be close to her and she is the one for you.

No, that's not how dreams work. The dream's meaning could be anything. It could be that you just feel lonely, or that you have the hots for a family member. It could mean you ate too much protein for dinner. Who knows? Instead of trying to find some kind of cryptic prediction, just enjoy the dream for what it was.

I had a dream once where I was in love and happy. I literally cried when I woke. Not that I need a boo hoo parade, but the feeling was intense.

We dream about things that are missing in our waking life...it's the minds way of making up for things we need.

I dream about travelling -just last night I had a dream I went to London, England (not my first choice btw) and stood benenth Big Ben..lol

I need a vacation right now, hence the obsession. What your heart aches for shall manifest in your dreams. It's Freudian.

Sooooo...i need someone to be obsessed with me? Or i need a big fat lovin? I do like that idea, its just a shame that they're in dreams, not reality.

Angel x

Dream obsession is always so much better than real obsession... Last night i had a really full on dream about this girl i met randomly, sparks flying etc (red heads! *sigh*).. nothing happened cos i was always feeling guilty about thinking what i was when i'm engaged.. very vivid feelings and thoughts..

RE: original topic.. i don't think dreams MEAN anything outside our brains doing some exercise while we sleep. The situations we experience while asleep & how we react to them could be "training" us for RL. There have been studies done on sleep deprivation being linked to reduced instinctual knowledge.

Charlatans and Mystics (double positive?) will try to sell you a story about your dreams predicting the future or revealing your subconscious, however i wouldn't give any serious consideration to these interpretations. Your brain is an incredibly powerful and complex sensory interpretation and generating device.. while we sleep it takes our basic thoughts or physical feelings & makes a little story with it.. nothing more...

A person in a sensory deprived situation (pitch back room, no noise etc) any person will very quickly start having vivid visual and auditory halucinations.. again.. just our brain trying to give us something t work with when it has no idea whats going on...

fair dos...

I'd like to see this guy again in my dreams, preferably in a lucid so i could say what i want to him.

Angel x

P.S. To Sun_Shine, what's so bad about London, eh? It's my favourite place, apart from Australia, and for some reason, Estonia...

-nothing is wrong with London Angel. I want to go there someday it's just not my first choice..I want to go to Paris, the South of France and Spain first...so it's weird that I would dream about going there and how I sat & stared up at Big Ben-lol. ...I don't even think about that place.

or that you have the hots for a family member i think we can cross that one out lol, I guess I should enjoy it.

I had another terrible nightmare last night woke up crying (not something I usually do). First I dreamt that i was in an apartment overlooking a city, with my dad, it was a big room with a massive window, modern style, I was looking out the window and i noticed there was a storm and clouds, then some weird red/purple ones seemed to appear and fade in different places, I watched and saw a hurricane form within a matter of seconds it destroyed a huge building, looked like a skyscraper, I remember saying something like "people just died in that building didn't they". Then the dream changed I don't have really good recall about it but I dreamt one of my best friends had died, its damn heartbreaking, stupid dream, its annoying that i just cant tell the difference between it and reality. Anyway the dream changed again and i was sitting in a car with a broken door that wouldn't shut, I have no idea but at this point why I became lucid, "i can remember thinking, "I'm in a dream again", "got to relax, cant let heart rate rise" I didn't want to wake up, anyway I decided to fly, (great for getting the heart rate down, yeah right). I flew up a bit then I woke up. Not for long though, fell asleep again to dream yet again. This time I dreamt that my sister died, I couldn't believe it. I had a feeling that she was still alive, then it got weird her bf showed up and apparently he could turn into a bird, he was apparently with her just before she died, apparently she died due to a nuke being dropped on a city they were in, like there was a war and a country attacked another one. After that i was looking for her still not thinking she was dead, I don't think i wanted to come to terms with the fact that she was in the dream, then some witch showed up and she took the form of my sister, but I realised because she was pretty dumb, anyway she appeared a few times, she also had the ability to transform into a cat, a black one I think. Another few scene changes and I ended up at school, I was walking and was believing my sister had died (I care about my friends and family a lot). I was walking past people from my school and i started to cry, then one of my friends tried to talk to me and i kept walking. I woke up with tears in my eyes and a relief that it was all just a dream.

It's funny I think i mentioned in my original post I hardly ever have nightmares and now I seem to be having a heap .
I have no idea hy but I hope they stop soon.

I don't think i've ever had a love dream in my life...

How is your dream recall? There's a good chance you've had on, but you just cant remember it.

Hi Blueguardian...From reading your posts, you sound as if you have a very low self esteem, and I hope that's not true... First of all, start to like yourself, look at all your good points and focus on them, (especially with the ladies)....and don't give up. True love comes in many different ways and your young yet...As to your nightmares, have you been under any unusual stress lately, for example with school, friends, family...I don't know if you watch or read scary books and movies, before sleep, but if you do, sub-consciously this could be affecting you...Also watch what you eat before bed...Certain foods trigger the mind to act up....Just a few hints, but you sound like a good kid, so start looking out for yourself, and write up a dream journal...This always helps for follow-ups...Good luck...

i have to stick my 2 cents in. im 19,been with some girls but never really loved one.i had some real bad times.i know im not the best lookin guy.i went a while with no one. then one day i had a dream about a girl,a girl ive never met,it was something like your dream,i was happy in the dream cus i was with someone that made me happy.waking up i found out she was a dream and became very depressed,i considered ending my life,but didnt.a couple days later i met a girl in of all places here.we have been together 5 months now.iv said i love you to girls before,but until now i never really knew what love was.my family cant stand this girl,but i love her,we are so much alike,ive never had anyone before like that.now i know its still early and you never know what could happen.but the point is love can come out of no where,and you never know when or where you may find it,but you cant stop looking,there is someone out there for you.i disagree with the comment about changing yourself.if someone cant like you for you it wont last anyway.just be patiant and love will find you,when you least expect it.i hope that helps:)

i had a dream journal once it was on the comp and got deleted , i'll probably start another and write them out as i go. Thank you. Good point about myself, i shall have to think on this.



Thank you, I hope it finds me sometime soon, your lucky.

I'm 34
I remember when I was 14 I saw in a dream that I passed religious population and climbed from mountains and went to a big river
and then passed the river by bireme and found very interesting place that I have a big house , and in my house neighborhood I saw a beautiful girl
I felt deep love on her she was so attractive , after that I woke up and cried for 1 week , after that till now during 20 years I'm looking for that girl etc.
feeling and thinking of that girl opened all of my 6 chakra (except 7th chakra) one by one during last 20 years , I spent my life for charity and pcea development works , but now I decided to seriously learn astral projection
to find her , this is my first post here and I joined this forum last day , hope will find here that girl or even find good friends to share my experiences.

Hi. I had a dream once which strongly projected real love......but the only part I remember (it was years ago) was a boy with pale chiseled-yet-handsome features and green eye's with shaggy ravenblack hair that fell over his shoulder whispering into my ear in a deep voice


"It does'nt have to be a relationship to mean something"

"I am more then nothing to you,you can't deny it" and he kissed me softly and I really felt as if the feeling of love was there.

"Don't you dare leave me!" was what I said softly and brushed the hair frommy face we were nose-to-nose.

"I would have too because this is'nt real.....


just don't forget me love"

Its werid because I'v never met a man that looks like that in my life (umm unless you count Harry Potter u know...the black hair and green eye's thing.LOL)
and I have never had a romantic engagement with any boy (Im only 12 and come from an old stickler-for-tradition family)


I feel what you mean I truley do and my pillow was wet with tears for the supposed 'lose' of my 'love'

I just felt really,really sad that day and did'nt leave my room and skipped school to stay home.

Learning astral projection is a good idea, I still havnt managed to do it yet though, normally something happens like my excema starts itching or my nose gets blocked, or im not feeling well, the list goes on lol.



It's amazing how powerful dreams can impact peoples lives, I got shot again a few days ago, luckily I didn't feel pain but still not very fun, I really should imagine myself a bullet proof vest. I think we can all learn from dreams, "It does'nt have to be a relationship to mean something" that has deep meaning.

Does it mean I need to shack up with someone? Because the urge has been getting bigger since....or maybe its hormones..I hope it is because I really don't need my nosy-*** subconsious trying to tell me to shag someone.

I'm just wondering if my subconsious is trying to tell me something because the feeling of projected love was very strong or if its just hormones....if it is then my hormones must be desprate for me to get some lovin'

Hormones seem to control a lot of things, I think you should do what you want, what you feel is right. Good luck. Lovin is always good, at least I think it is, as long as it doesnt include a park bench (bizzare news a month ago)

dont worry about it just keep being good girl , try to help people , try to love parents , try to not eat bad foods or drinking , and then try some meditation , if you dont know about meditation search internet and learn meditating , also try listening some music that helps you in relaxation , try to learn arts , go to sports like swimming or if possible martial arts like "tai chi" powerfull chines martial art that greatly helps you empower your energy body , and do anything other good ,

if you do so , you will find that there is great and powerfull magnetic in your inner that comes bigger every day ....

when you felt that it has enough energy to attract any thing , then try to attract the love that you seen in you dream , then relax and wait ,

your inner powefull magnet will attract the one that you are looking for , ....

I remember a book that I was red 11 year ago can be found at amazon at link below :

http://www.amazon.com/Only-Love-Real-Soulm...d/dp/0446672653

Book name : Only Love Is Real: (A Story of Soulmates Reunited) from author "Brian Weiss"

"book author shows that there is someone special for everyone "

this book is written for peoples like you , Read carefully that book and find facts behind your experience, If you would like more knowledge about this experience than that book, I will happy to write more ,



good luck with your special one and Love experience
when you reached your Lover ,
then dont forget us as friends


a drop of light

A wet dream? haha
Just kidding, I'm sorry. I jest, I jest.
I've only read the title