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Any parent that abuses a child in any shape or form, IMO (and yes I do mean my opinion) they do not deserve to have those kids and if they go to extremes and it is sick in how they treat a child, then yes put them away for good...for this world would be better off with out this sick behaviour....and I would appreciate it if you stayed clear of trying to twist words to suit yourself....no one here is backing up any of your statements.
People don't have to back up my statements in order for them to be true.
What these people are doing is not abuse, if it is, please explain how it is abuse. They are merely following their beliefs and teaching their children what they believe.
They have a right to do that. You stated (twice) that they should be shot. I was asking you for what reason should they be shot? Because they are teaching their kids their beliefs?
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No they aren't...I hold a right to ask you how the heck would you know & I held a right to add.....do you honestly think a parent that is overbearing would take a childs answer of NO and say - ohh ok then dont go <----nothing wrong with what I posted...NOTHING....you complain because you may not have an answer
I was referring to your statements about them being "shot". Saying that people should be murdered is illegal. It's called threatening behavior.
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Well the same reasons as to why so many thought it was OK to take human lives due to lack of faith?? <------do you think I would sink that low?? NO...I believe if you are evil and twisted enough to hurt and kill then you should face the same punishment..I do NOT think lives should be taken all because they hold a faith...
Why did you say they should be shot?
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Did you watch the video?? did you see their faces?? ...what makes you think they really wanted to be there??..............tell me what would happen to a child IF - he or she told it mother or father...I dont want to go to IE - church?? and the parents believed i sending their kid to church.what wold happen if the kid said NO?? please tell me ...this I so would like to hear the answer to
Neither I nor you can possibly know what would happen. We are not psychics. Nor are we fortune tellers.
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Take religion out of it..and ook at it another way..............I lost count ho often I refused to go to my borring ole aunts house...I hated it....but my parents wanted me to go visit, as they like to do this....but when I protested...I got a mack on the rear and was made go like it or not <------------------if I complained more so on top of what happened...I knew I would get punished more.....[b]so I put up with it to keep my parents off my back....I had to OBEY my parents like it or not...........now lets bring religion back in ......I never liked going to church OR confessions...NEVER...I was a kid..playing was more important for me..so what do you think happened when I told my parents NO CHURCH???? ...........my dads slipper had a meeting with my rear end..and next thing I knew I was in church....I soon saw I had no other choice, what my parents said stuck..and thats that........[/b]...........
Now Why do you think my parents thought it was a good idea to raise me as a catholic?....................because their parents did the same to them, and their parents did the same before them....it was history repeating itself....you teach your kid what you were taught, for it was the only thing you believed was best at the time............I seriously did not give a toss for church as a kid...I didnt like going to confess sins, for I was just a child and I didnt beleive I sinned ...BUT I went anyway to please my parents...for I knew it made them happy...so I learned to deal with it.....<---do you think you could look at it that way??
Touching story...but it has nothing to do with the topic at hand. The children appear to enjoy being there.
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Being raised by parents is one thing...I to was raised by parents...but I only THOUGHT I knew it all...heck all teenagers think they know it all, it is so common with teens...its a stage they all go through....but the sec you have a kid of your own....you are in for one heck of a shock....ask any parent..if they felt differently AFTER they became a parent...chances are COI..you will find they sure did....................
I'll give you a quick and easy example..................before hand as a teen always felt my dad was too strict...and I felt he picked on me for no reason, I actually had the gall to accuse him of wanting to pick on me....all I cared about was self pity...that's it..just self pity. I thought i knew ALL....I hated when he sat up waiting for me to come home from a night club, even up till I was 22 yrs old...I thought he was nuts and only looking to find a way to get at me.............<------------------so true I did think like this.............the sec I had Becky....I SAW what it was like to worry 24/7...it shocked me...........every day since that, I worry non stop..and now i fully understand as to WHY my dad sat up waiting for me..why he did the things he did...he was a parent..and I found out that even when he was a teenager, he was just like me...............it happens..you do see life much differently when you become a parent................have you any idea how many fathers that would kill to protect their daughters???..........but those same fathers wouldnt have felt that way BEFORE they became parents
Some day COI, you will find out for yourself...and when you do..I hope you remember this
Parents worry, this I know.
Teens think they know more then they actually do, This I know.
HOWEVER, the above reasons do not make it OK for an adult to be an over-bearing prick. It's called bad relationship skills. Sure, you're a parent? So what? That doesn't mean that children have thoughts of their own. Granted, you know more, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't listen to what your child says.
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You sure have a way of making things sound so messed up...parents that tell their kids about santa are not laying harm on the kid...and when the kid finds out there is no santa..it hardly disturbs them..they later realize that it was all part of their growth and use of imagination...
Sorry, but I think any sort of lying to children is harmful to the child's development. I understand that you do not see the same way.
Also, I know many people who (as teenagers) learned that Santa did not exist and were quite disturbed by the fact that their parents lied to them. I am an example. I do not like that my parents lied to me about all those mythical creatures, I do not trust what they say.
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You were raised christian..you are now just seeing I made sense and therefore you try and dodge what I said...you know fine well you too where told certain things..and you are now blowing this all out of wack to suit yourself
This is not about my personal life.
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Name me a kid that prefers to go to a church rather than go out and play with their friends?? <----------------at the same time.....name me a parent that allows them to make the choice?? i'll bet you that not one parent who is strict with religion will allow their kid to protest and have it their way...........not a mission..........so who says they arent pushed there?? I SERIOUSLY believe you didnt watch the video, for everyone that saw it, all made the same comments..it was a twisted video....
I am not like everyone BM. And I am glad.
Also, I said that I was merely playing devil's advocate.
Two, I do not believe in rights, thus I do not believe that the parents should be allowed to teach their children this bull. However, we do have rights in this country, and they should not be violated because other people think that the people are "twisted"
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There are christians of this board, that are parents themselves, and I am willing to bet, that they believe that a child should get treated much better and should be eased in without makeing it look SICK as it does in the video...............The christian faith...teaches these people certain values...when a good christian likes to follow the teachings of Jesus...then they becaome loving parents and find better ways to get a child interested in faith
Take me for example..Im not a christian, but raising my child as one..ad she goes to Sunday School....WHY do you think I allow her to go there??? because I saw 1st hand on how they do it...they make it FUN for the child, they INVOLVE the child, they make a child feel part of it all..and it is all about fun and learning..........my kid loves it...ok granted she thinks the church is a castle LOL but she stll says - mommy me go to the castle today?? ............they teach her about the lord and at the same time they show her how fun it is and how easy it all is....the kids in that Sunday school LOVE it...how do I know?...................when I see how happy and content they are, the sec they enter the church sevice for the final 10 mins, they are so well behaved and I 100% agree with it...they even have their own kiddies bibles etc.............<--------------------thats what a lot of good parents do for their kids..nothing sick about it What is the difference between that and how I was raised in a church??...........I never got to see what it was like to have fun while learning..I had to follow the service the same as the adults and I never understood it, any wonder I protested..!!
Again, you have posted your
personal opinion. However, to the parents in the video, they are merely following their beliefs and their faith.