*Okay, this story is sensitive so I'm going to change the names of the people involved for privacy reasons.
I'm really mad (and so is my family) about this situation that is happening.

Okay, my mom has a friend (she's like an aunt to me and she is like a sister to my mom, that's how close we are. We also are neighbors.)
named Jane* and she has a niece and nephew. I've known the kids for awhile, and when I found out about this situation I was furious.
Well, Jane found out the parents were abusing the kids, her neice and nephew. She was MAD. She called CPS and the kids are now in her care.
The abuse was so bad the little girl ended up in the ER. I should know because I went to the ER and waited with her and her niece. The girl has
a bad back now, b/c her father beat her with a 2 by 4.
Anyway, this whole thing went to court, and her husband John* is on the fence and not even defending his wife. (His sister is one of the abusers.)
The kids are in Jane's care, and she is standing up for the kids. Yet the WHOLE family is backing the parents saying it's Jane's fault and she over reacted
about some "small" bruises. (They WERE NOT SMALL) Oh, and the kid's are lying. (Yeah, right)
John will not defend his wife, or the kids and thinks he can stand on the fence in this matter.

My family is just really mad about this and so am I.
I don't understand this guy's reasonings. He's also an elder in a church! (not one I attend, let me tell u that)

Everyone's input and prayers would be greatly appreciatted, b/c Jane is real upset, and so is my family about this matter.
Thanxs. I just needed to vent this so bad.

Whistleblowers are often greatly maligned in society. When they should be the ones being clapped on the back - just a sad sad fact.

I don't blame you for being mad, child abuse is disgusting and the fact that Janes husband won't support her must be very upsetting.

People often close ranks and protect family members (not the ones who really need 'protecting' in the situation mind you). If the person that you love: sister/brother/partner/child is also an abuser the mind can't quite filter that information in a logical way. That is how people get away with bad things for so long.

The family won't thank Jane for doing this unfortunately - but she has done the right thing.

It wouldnt matter if the bruises were the size of a pin head . no adult should psysically harm a child . I think your friend did the right thing and in that situation i would have done exactly the same thing . and i wouldnt care if my family went against me. It seems she is the only person who has put the kids welfare first . good on her . goodness knows what this could have led too had she not stepped in . bruises this week could be broken bones next week . In cases like this action needs to be taken immediately and luckilly they have a lovely aunt willing to stand up and protect them.

All you can do is let her know that you are behind her and offer her support . Hope this all ends well and she remains strong for those kiddies .

Thanxs so much for the replies.
I hope everything gets better for them too.

I'm with SS79 on this one. No form of child abuse should ever be excused. We read and hear too much of it, leading to very sad consequences..I did exactly what Jane did years ago, and I could have cared less if everyone was against me. I did what I had to do, involving 3 children the youngest 4 months..As a matter of fact, I was so angry that I had the mother against the wall beating the crap out of her (I am not a violent person except in this case)...So yes,Jane did what any caring woman would do before it went any further..A child may lie once or twice about being hurt because they are threatened, but sooner or later, and hopefully sooner, the truth comes out...I didn't mean to ramble on but stories like this upset me...Prayers to Jane and your family...

I am so sorry to hear your friend Jane has come across such animosity. I am sure the kids who's life she potentially saved, whether it be literally or their emotional and physical welfare will give her all the Thanks she will need when they grow up and hopefully recover with as little damage as possible.

It amazes me how some people can stick together at a time like this.

As upsetting it must be for Jane, she can sleep at night knowing she did the right thing. I am sure she'll have more supporters than deserters.

She sounds like a wonderful woman, the kids are lucky to have her.

I agree with what everyone else has said... and it's important to recognize that whistle blowers are often ostracized and maligned. I'd be willing to bet that Janes husband is not supporting her because .... he's embarassed. He's embarassed that this horrible abusive woman is even his sister I'm sure. I'm guessing that he wants the whole situation to go away. He presumably loves his sister (regardless of what an apparent screw up she is) AND he loves his wife and niece and nephew too.

No one in the family wants to admit that their sibling, sister-inlaw, daughter etc is a horrible person, so they try to dismiss her behavior and hope it's not as bad as it is, even when the evidence is right before their eyes. It's a common human defence mechanism. But a poor one because it involves lying to yourself.

Jane's husband likely wants to support his wife, however, doing so would feel like a betrayal to his sister--he doesn't know how to balance both. He's likely incredibly hurt and confused.

I'd say for now... you and your mother can be Jane's support system, she'll need you desperately, she did a very brave thing. Her husband, provided they already had a strong marriage, will come around on some level eventually I bet. But, help only Jane and the kids DO NOT tackle any of the other family memebers, they're going to have to figure out what to do on their own.

I dunno, that's just my two cents.

Thanxs so much for the replies, and prayers.

Yesterday afternoon, I found out the most horrible thing.
Jane's nephew, who is 8, was molesting her 3 year old grandson.
Now, CPS is going to have to take her nephew and put him somewhere,
where he can get help. Her grandson is with her mom right now, but he can't come home
until her nephew leaves.
I am absolutely horrified and upset.
I mean, I babysat her grandson, so many times, and I never even had a CLUE this
was going on! This whole sitaution is just upsetting.