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Cradle of Fish
QUOTE (atom286 @ Jun 30 2008, 09:15 PM) *
Firstly who cares which religion is right. Religion brings a fear to people that if they do wrong there will be a comeback for it. Thats the point of me raising it because thats whats missing from the mentality of a lot of people today. I would argue though to reduce conflict nations should stick to one relgion if possible and not try to promote holy wars.


So being afraid of what potentially(and probably) is a lie is better than not being afraid of the truth? Your version of theology must be different from all the ones I've heard because what is christianity but forgiveness for your earthly sins? And haven't you heard of the law? I'm more afraid of the police arresting me and the courts sentencing me than some celestial dictatorship in an afterlife that I most likely won't see. I'm sorry, but lying to a child just to scare them into being good is not a morally right act, it's taking advantage of them.


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Secondly the right does not cause segragation. Differances cause segragation and even in the globalist world in which we live there is really no such thing as multi-cultural because all differant groups have a tendency to keep themselves to themselves. Segragation is here and always has been and is no invention of the right.


Never said they created it, it was there, but if they got their way we'd still have it. The right preaches a lot but never puts any of it into practice.


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Thirdly I do believe men should stick to being men and women should stick to being women. A child needs a strong father figure in its life if it is to develop properly and a female figure to teach it how to be diplomatic and loving. This is the idea family unit and what all people should aim for because it produces a mentally healthy well-balanced child.


That's totally contradictory to what I've experienced in my life, that ideal family unit works for some people, but does that mean the rest of us should be forced into trying to fit it just because of this loud minority?


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Fourthly extreme politics is damaging for a nation. Just as many believe right wing extremist parties should be banned I believe left wing and Liberal extremist parties should also be banned. What a nation needs is common sense politics not a far out style of government brought in to suite minorities. That is not a totalitarian state. Its a state with the nuts from both ends cut off.


Freedom of thought and expression are more important than your ideas of what's dangerous and should be banned. There should be no ban on the communist or national socialist parties, why? Because there's absolutely no way they could win.


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In fact I think we should get rid of Democracy and have a telephone vote in system. You watch a debate on tv and all users have the option to press the green or red button. Then the beaurocrats are left to implement it.


So instead of being able to choose between two puppets and a few far out candidates we'll be able to choose between two puppets.
SlyOne
I was emailed the following a long time ago by a friend of mine and I think it pretty much sums up the Op's original question

QUOTE (AFriend date=Long time ago, 10:47 AM) *
If you were born in the 50's/ 60's/70's
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking. As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soda pop with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them!

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever! The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL! And YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good. And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.

Slave2Fate
Thats great Sly laugh.gif I agree. (I was raised in the 70's thumbsup.gif )
SunDogDayze
QUOTE (~Kaizen CJM~ @ Jun 29 2008, 11:35 PM) *
However, you cannot teach a child moral values without a higher power or enforcing powers. Not if you are fair you can't.


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I AM the higher power to my children. And I think it's sad that you would have to use fear (oh noez!!!1burn in teh hell 4evas!!!1) or bribery (angel wings and fluffy clouds in heaven) to teach your kids anything. I want my children to have good morals because they want to, not because they are scared not to.
LadyHay
QUOTE (SlyOne @ Jul 2 2008, 02:04 AM) *
I was emailed the following a long time ago by a friend of mine and I think it pretty much sums up the Op's original question


That list, while cutsie and fun, is only partly applicable. About helmets, lead paint, smoking while pregnant, etc... we know better now. We have the medical evidence to know this. And head injuries among children have gone way down due to the use of helmets. Babies in the womb have better health rates.


QUOTE (SunDogDayze @ Jul 2 2008, 05:52 AM) *
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I AM the higher power to my children. And I think it's sad that you would have to use fear (oh noez!!!1burn in teh hell 4evas!!!1) or bribery (angel wings and fluffy clouds in heaven) to teach your kids anything. I want my children to have good morals because they want to, not because they are scared not to.



Hear hear! Agreed. After all, its other people we are living with and amongst. Not a deity. That quote by Kaizen is just...so... last century....
Watchful
QUOTE (SunDogDayze @ Jul 2 2008, 08:52 AM) *
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I AM the higher power to my children. And I think it's sad that you would have to use fear (oh noez!!!1burn in teh hell 4evas!!!1) or bribery (angel wings and fluffy clouds in heaven) to teach your kids anything. I want my children to have good morals because they want to, not because they are scared not to.


Bingo! Exactly my feelings, not only in thought, but in practice in my home as well.
And working too! wink2.gif thumbsup.gif
EricOfBodom
QUOTE (TheEssenceofExcellence @ Jun 29 2008, 04:43 AM) *
So why do americans need all of these nanny's from england to come over here and show us how to raise our kids? Better yet, why is their a problem with our kids to begin with? What's causing it? Where did it begin? And why does all of western society seem to be falling downard, losing it's moral base? Why do teens think demeaning women in music, acting like a thug, cursing, disrespecting others, and breaking the laws are cool and okay things to do?


I am a teenager and I don't think any of that is cool.
SunDogDayze
QUOTE (EricOfBodom @ Jul 2 2008, 12:28 PM) *
I am a teenager and I don't think any of that is cool.


Most people don't.

Also, Essenceofexcellence, none of those things are new in any sense. Demeaning women? I'm pretty sure that was "cool" back when the bible was being written, wasn't it? Disrespecting people and cursing are learned emotional issues, which have been around since humans had emotions. Breaking the law and acting like a thug...yeah, how is that different from every other era, aside from terminology? I'm pretty sure this has been going on since the beginning of social human life, but instead of thugs they were called bandits, outlaws, gypsies, heretics, etc.

None of this is exclusive to the "godless" society of today.

*pop*

sorry about your bubble.
Tangerine Sheri
QUOTE (Rockerchick2008 @ Jul 1 2008, 05:27 PM) *
I agree with you, parents need to grow a backbone and actually discipline their kids instead of doing the "my child wouldn't do that" act, I'm sick of it, I work at a 7-11 and I get this all the time, its called swat your kids on the butt sometimes, take away the cellphone or the car and actually stick with it...I feel sorry for this generation of kids, they are going to grow up and be brats all their lives...ugh...


if you have to do these things then you do not know how to parent its simple as that...by
discipline do you really mean punish?? do you know that we are moving away from this because it is ineffective as a way to teach self correction.....what it does is inspire the behaviiors you wouldn't want....


We have alot of issue because of the 'way' in which we have parented which is behavior centered instead of child centered.....and many that are parenting do not understand themselves let alone their kids....


Kids for the better part of thier growing years are oppressed and what we see is a natural push for personal freedoms......
Tangerine Sheri
QUOTE (~Kaizen CJM~ @ Jun 29 2008, 11:35 PM) linked-imageHowever, you cannot teach a child moral values without a higher power or enforcing powers. Not if you are fair you can't.

this just speaks of how you have been not exposed to many other world views, ethics can be assigned anywhere, not just in the religious outcome. the concept of "morality" - In the religous context we are using morality to define morality......this is a key point many miss....



because there is no absolute or universal morality/ethics, yet christianity can and does operate falsely under the assumption that there is. christianity assumes alot of things in error....



ethics (along with everything else within your worldview(s)) is a product of learning and synthesizing.


Some of the confusion seems to rooted in ethnocentricity -


as a young person you are living in a cultural moray, and only having lived in this scenario, sees religion as separate and therefore you are overlooking the vast history of humanity where religion was the predominant force within societies (such statements as " it was through religion that ethics came to be" or you cannot teach morals without enforcing powers etc etc.....' illustrates this point .......)


as you mature and gain in experince and add to your worldviews what i have posted will make alot more sense....I hope this helps a bit kaizen....
LadyHay
QUOTE (Supra Sheri @ Jul 2 2008, 02:10 PM) *
as you mature and gain in experince and add to your worldviews what i have posted will make alot more sense....I hope this helps a bit kaizen....



You have more faith than I do, that he will open his mind. What we are asking is for him to agree with us, which I am not sure is fair. However, it would be nice if his discussion tactics/technique were refined a bit.

It is my experience that when someone's logic is as imperfect and biased as his is, he won't see reason and I doubt that his reasonings are based on any personal experience.
momentarylapseofreason
QUOTE (SlyOne @ Jul 2 2008, 10:04 AM) *
I was emailed the following a long time ago by a friend of mine and I think it pretty much sums up the Op's original question


QUOTE (AFriend date=Long time ago, 10:47 AM) *
If you were born in the 50's/ 60's/70's
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking. As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soda pop with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them!

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever! The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL! And YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good. And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.


That was great and so true. So much more the Indigo children myth/BS !! wink2.gif
pai mei
Kids misbehaving is an effect not a cause. Look for the cause elsewhere. We have no values as a society, we also have no unity. I don't know my neighbors. What do you want me to respect ? Money ? Work ? Your religion ? Tell this to the slaves

Here is the "religion" that our society tries to bash into everyone's head :
http://www.orionmagazine.org/index.php/articles/article/2962

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But despite the apparent tidal wave of new consumer goods and what appeared to be a healthy appetite for their consumption among the well-to-do, industrialists were worried. They feared that the frugal habits maintained by most American families would be difficult to break. Perhaps even more threatening was the fact that the industrial capacity for turning out goods seemed to be increasing at a pace greater than people’s sense that they needed them.


http://www.storyofstuff.com/ - a story every child should see. Maybe then they will have a purpose which they can respect : to consume less. They try to be different trough music, clothing and other things they feel like they oppose this system but they don't really know what they do. Show them this, and they will understand better the world we live in and how to fight against it, and create real values they can respect

Tangerine Sheri
QUOTE (LadyHay @ Jul 2 2008, 04:48 PM) *
You have more faith than I do, that he will open his mind. What we are asking is for him to agree with us, which I am not sure is fair. However, it would be nice if his discussion tactics/technique were refined a bit.

It is my experience that when someone's logic is as imperfect and biased as his is, he won't see reason and I doubt that his reasonings are based on any personal experience.


I am not asking that he agree, i am not interested in doing his thinking for him...

you do nake a great point logic is only as good as the one using it.....its a tool

He has come along way he really has...and he is a young perosn.that has to be considered when reading his posts.........
HollyDolly
QUOTE (momentarylapseofreason @ Jul 2 2008, 10:26 PM) *
That was great and so true. So much more the Indigo children myth/BS !! wink2.gif


Thanks for posting this. Have never bought into that Indigo Child BS either.
Watchful
by pai mei:
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http://www.storyofstuff.com/ - a story every child should see. Maybe then they will have a purpose which they can respect : to consume less. They try to be different trough music, clothing and other things they feel like they oppose this system but they don't really know what they do. Show them this, and they will understand better the world we live in and how to fight against it, and create real values they can respect
Probably everyone should see it. This is where the importance of recycling comes in. I think you make a good point. The lady in the video makes a good point. The system is a linear thing in a finite world. Again, this is where recycling comes in. Plus, having that much stuff, is not that important, and I think I agree with you, we could get think about better values in more non-material things more, if we realize what goes on and how temporary everything is.
TheEssenceofExcellence
QUOTE (Fluffybunny @ Jun 29 2008, 12:59 PM) *
Hmmm, picking a scapegoat...good for you. a traditionalist; I like it. Perhaps you guys should stick to religion though, as you suck at picking a scapegoat. I thought this was a joke when I first read it.

Evolution does not eliminate all rules and morality. That wins the prize as the silliest comment I have heard in years. To clue the writer in, rules (and morality) are created by the society itself; not by an invisible god. Whether you go to the deepest jungle society or the driest most lonely desert population, they have rules just like every other place on earth with their own morals.



Think for yourselves.


That's exactly what I said! And that is exactly the problem, Evolution supports the theory that we're nothing but animals and that ALL morals and morality are equal since they're ALL just MADE UP BY SOCIETY!!! That's the problem, because is they're all just MADE UP, then there IS NO TRUTH and there is NO RIGHT AND WRONG! And that is what has led to this decline in society, children are brought up with this view that morality is something society makes up and that there is no real right and wrong just what YOU chose to believe. The fact is, there IS A RIGHT AND WRONG AND THERE IS A REAL TRUTH! The real truth comes from God, the one and only. And even if you eliminate the Christian side of the argument it's evident that the spirit of God inside all of us provides a blue print for what is the truth and what right and wrong is, which is why all religions not just christianity condem certain behaviors such as homosexuality for example as being wrong. Yet evolution has opened to the door to people believing all morals and morality are made up and everything is choice, therefore nothing can be considered immoral or wrong because you don't have the right to speak the truth because you don't know it because it doesn't exist, your just an animal. That's where the problem is, and if your too thick headed to understand that noone can help you.
Fluffybunny
QUOTE (TheEssenceofExcellence @ Jul 4 2008, 07:35 AM) *
That's exactly what I said! And that is exactly the problem, Evolution supports the theory that we're nothing but animals and that ALL morals and morality are equal since they're ALL just MADE UP BY SOCIETY!!! That's the problem, because is they're all just MADE UP, then there IS NO TRUTH and there is NO RIGHT AND WRONG! And that is what has led to this decline in society, children are brought up with this view that morality is something society makes up and that there is no real right and wrong just what YOU chose to believe. The fact is, there IS A RIGHT AND WRONG AND THERE IS A REAL TRUTH! The real truth comes from God, the one and only. And even if you eliminate the Christian side of the argument it's evident that the spirit of God inside all of us provides a blue print for what is the truth and what right and wrong is, which is why all religions not just christianity condem certain behaviors such as homosexuality for example as being wrong. Yet evolution has opened to the door to people believing all morals and morality are made up and everything is choice, therefore nothing can be considered immoral or wrong because you don't have the right to speak the truth because you don't know it because it doesn't exist, your just an animal. That's where the problem is, and if your too thick headed to understand that noone can help you.

Please stop embarrassing yourself.

You obviously have NO idea what evolution says if that is what you grasp from it, you need to pick up a book. While you are at it, you might want to pick up one on sociology, world history, and on world religions. Maybe then you might see that there are plenty of societies that have done quite well without your god...how do you explain that? Other religions seem to do well with their gods too, how do you explain that? You seem to be the most panicked of the bunch, so far as I can tell your god is failing and everyone else’s is doing just fine.

Each society creates the rules for what is right and what is wrong, it may be based on legend, it may be based on folklore, it may be based on religion, it may be a combination of a lot of things, but societies make laws and they do just fine. Laws change over time as they always have to adapt for things...just as you did things that your parents found odd, your kids will do things that you find odd. Such is life.

If the best thing you can find to pin that on is evolution, and you think that that somehow impacts how kids think, you are just too far removed from society and kids as a whole and are clueless. Things like how the parents raised the child and disciplined the child are going to have everything to do with how the kid thinks he can get away with things, his thoughts on evolution, not so much...it gave me a laugh that you think so though, I though you were joking at first. I was kind of sad to find out you were serious.

Pick up a real book that you can educate yourself with, go talk to kids and find out what is really going on, I can guarantee, that it isn’t this. wink2.gif

As for being thickheaded, I will let that slide. At least I am not so much so as to blame the worlds problems on evolution. tongue.gif


momentarylapseofreason
QUOTE (TheEssenceofExcellence @ Jul 4 2008, 04:35 PM) *
That's exactly what I said! And that is exactly the problem, Evolution supports the theory that we're nothing but animals and that ALL morals and morality are equal since they're ALL just MADE UP BY SOCIETY!!! That's the problem, because is they're all just MADE UP, then there IS NO TRUTH and there is NO RIGHT AND WRONG! And that is what has led to this decline in society, children are brought up with this view that morality is something society makes up and that there is no real right and wrong just what YOU chose to believe. The fact is, there IS A RIGHT AND WRONG AND THERE IS A REAL TRUTH! The real truth comes from God, the one and only. And even if you eliminate the Christian side of the argument it's evident that the spirit of God inside all of us provides a blue print for what is the truth and what right and wrong is, which is why all religions not just christianity condem certain behaviors such as homosexuality for example as being wrong. Yet evolution has opened to the door to people believing all morals and morality are made up and everything is choice, therefore nothing can be considered immoral or wrong because you don't have the right to speak the truth because you don't know it because it doesn't exist, your just an animal. That's where the problem is, and if your too thick headed to understand that noone can help you.



Look. Regardless of how you feel about non- belief or religion, this study that I posted does not scientifically answer any questions about theism causing societal problems. But you also cannot claim that non-belief is the cause of societal ills either.

You should go live in a mostly agnostic-atheist country for a while, you will be in for a surprise. There would be even less crime if there weren't so many criminal immigrants there. (sad but true-of course there are law abiding immigrants too-but crime has dramatically increased with their growing numbers-and the neo-nazis don't help the situation any))
Watchful
QUOTE (TheEssenceofExcellence @ Jul 4 2008, 10:35 AM) *
That's exactly what I said! And that is exactly the problem, Evolution supports the theory that we're nothing but animals and that ALL morals and morality are equal since they're ALL just MADE UP BY SOCIETY!!! That's the problem, because is they're all just MADE UP, then there IS NO TRUTH and there is NO RIGHT AND WRONG! And that is what has led to this decline in society, children are brought up with this view that morality is something society makes up and that there is no real right and wrong just what YOU chose to believe. The fact is, there IS A RIGHT AND WRONG AND THERE IS A REAL TRUTH! The real truth comes from God, the one and only. And even if you eliminate the Christian side of the argument it's evident that the spirit of God inside all of us provides a blue print for what is the truth and what right and wrong is, which is why all religions not just christianity condem certain behaviors such as homosexuality for example as being wrong. Yet evolution has opened to the door to people believing all morals and morality are made up and everything is choice, therefore nothing can be considered immoral or wrong because you don't have the right to speak the truth because you don't know it because it doesn't exist, your just an animal. That's where the problem is, and if your too thick headed to understand that noone can help you.

Atleast two other posters here have a said a pretty good fill to you in response, so I will agree with them on this. You need to do more researching on evolution and on religion.
Where do you get the idea that society makes up the morals from the idea of evolution?

Where is your proof of the real truth coming from God? Can this real truth from God be proven to each and every person on the planet right now? Can it be proven without using a bible? Can it be proven that the real truth from God is actually true, by having God speak to each and every one of us?

And I think you are taking what evolution is about a little bit too literal.

That real truth, you say is from God, I do not believe at all.
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