I'm a libertarian and don't understand Conservative political philosophy, but it seems like the rights of the individual are the core concept. The individual's house belongs to him (or her of course) and the fact that he is American does not mean his house belongs to America. He has a right to defend his property (2nd Amendment) because it's not just part of something bigger-- it's his. The government does not have a right to take the money he earned and spend it on social programs, etc. It's his money and he is perfectly able to donate it to the charity of his choice without help from the government. If he decides to gamble on having good health he shouldn't be compelled to buy insurance-- it's his life and his body.
A summary of this attitude might be: "I'm an intelligent adult who can manage the various aspects of my life on my own, thanks. I don't appreciate being bossed around. I'm willing to serve in the military if an international problem needs to be addressed. But when it comes to me, my family, my work, and my household I would like the government to butt out and leave me alone". I can relate to a lot of this.
But then Conservatives refuse to give gay couples the same rights as straight couples. I'm not talking about issues like "should gay legal partnerships be called 'marriage'?". I'm talking about financial things like being included on your partner's health insurance or filing joint income tax. Or whether one partner has a right to call the shots medically if the other partner has a medical disaster and can't make decisions. To me it seems like the logical extension of Conservative thinking would be, "It's none of the government's business who I chose as my partner or what I do in bed. My partner is my partner. I do not need the government's help in chosing a partner". Of all the ways the government can butt into our personal lives surely the most offensive of all is the most private-- our sex lives.
But no. At this point Conservatives suddenly take a radical step in the opposite direction and say "Yes, the government has a right to meddle in the most intimate part of our lives" (meddle meaning depriving people of financial rights that other households have).
Could someone please explain this inconsistency to me? Why should this one aspect of our lives be subject to governmental control (as in, "sorry you aren't a real couple so you can't have the money that other couples get") when all other aspects should be private? If the government tries to control gun ownership Conservatives holler bloody murder, but if the government butts into your choice of a sexual partner-- no problem.
I honestly don't understand this.

