Alright I been wanting to get some help, but I didn't think this was the place..but I'm sad and I seen someone post about their Dad and you guys helped him so I hope you will do the sam for me. LONG STORY!


I use to go out with this girl we knew each other about 2years...we went out for about 2months and broke up last Feb, 9th. Neway we talk every day on the phone sometimes @ school. One time I didnt talk to her at school and she got sad & cried on da phone so I know she cares about me. The thing is she LIKE ALL THE GUYS! She says she loves me I love her we always say it. Also we alk every night on the phone and we talk about everything....but now a few guys asked her out. I asked her out about 2months ago she sad we need some time.
Now shes getting guys asking her out she told me that and she wants to go out with me but then she wants to go out with another guy to. I told her just do whatever will make her happy I will always love her. NE way we we talk on the phone sometimes she talks about how she likes other guys and thinks there hot? WHAT DO I SAY TO THAT? From what you hear do you think I should 4get her? I just cant stop thinking about her she goes out with guys for looks not for how nice they are! I'm going CRAZY!!! Please help me should I try to 4get her?

aww how cute girl problems

obviously you should not forget about her if you love her.

Dump her. This is how girls learn to manipulate. She'll just end up using you (because you WILL be there for whatever she needs) and then she'll dump you as soon as she starts seeing one of these guys. Learn it now! Save you some heartache and a lot of time later.

Damnit! I thought I could just quickly check in on Druidus and now I'm posting again! So let me first just say that I'm only posting once, then I have to get back to my little project here at home....

D12, this is just my advice, so take it for what it's worth. I'm only being blunt because I really should be doing other things right now.

Forget about that girl right now. Put some distance between the two of you until she figures out what she wants. In the process you'll have some time to think too - without her influence. Whether she realizes it or not, she's playing games with you (telling you she cares, then trying to make you jealous) and sounds pretty confused about what she wants. You're young and have plenty of time to find that special someone. And there will be many girls out there that you can really connect with.

I'm not suggesting being mean or totally blow this one off though. Just tell her that you really like her, but can't deal with her indecisiveness right now. Leave the door open for when she makes up her mind, but don't make any promises of a future relationship - that will just allow her to twist things around if she is consciously trying to manipulate you.

Good luck, D12. And remember - Girls are crazy sometimes. I know because I am one.

Don't share, never share. That's my two cents. If she really wants to see you she needs to see you and not mess around with other guys. If she wants to see other guys then she's really not all that into you and you should let her go, man.

Of course, my advice is often bad, so take what you want from that.

I agree with Sweetpumper.

Dump her and move on. It'll hurt at first because you're probably pretty new at this, but it'll save you a hell of a lot of trouble in the long run.

i dont know if this is a term everyone is farmiliar with........


**** buddy....

it sounds a lot like one of those situations......

but otherwise, you should try and get her back

No, he shouldn't.

She's just gonna keep f***ing with him, because he's a sucker and sticks around.

Maybe not the best way to say it, but that's what's going on.

"Just a good friend" is one of those things you never want to hear, but you often do. I think this is one of those situations.

oh crap, my browser only showed me half the post LOL
after seeing the other half, i changed my mind
dump her, and forget about her

yes. i agree. forget about her. she may end up hurting you a lot, lot more than you may be hurting now.

keep in mind none of us actually know the girl, she could be geniune and simply confused right now

Tell her you love her, but can't keep listening to her talk about other guys all the time and that it wouldn't be a good idea for her to call anymore

then if you like you can also tell her that if she ever trully needs help that you will be there for her

or you could just turn the tables on her and start talking about other girls to her, this should make her feel like she is making you feel, and maybe make her see that is is you that she wants

A little reverse Psyc 101 for you

hope it help

Tell her that you just want to be friends and you really want to date other girls....especially this blonde white chick you saw at soccer practice! Tell her this: "This chick is to die for." Then move on brother...move on....

D12, if you wanna figure out if she really loves you or not, then start having one of those 'youre screwing up your chances with me" attitudes around her when she does something you dont like. and then one day, you could maybe lure her into taking about being serious about you.

i think what you gotta do is not 'always be there' for her. once she realizes what a good thing she had going for her, she'll be sorry she took it for granted


trust me, she sounds just like a friend of mine shes not a bad person, just taking you for granted, she figures you'll always be there, and once you're not she'll be missing you like hell

thats what i think anyways, good luck my man

Tanks all this is so confunsing last night was the first night sh didn't call me. I don't think I'm going to call her just let her call me. She told me she is not going to go out with another guy she don't wanna hurt me. But she lets all these guys grab her a$$ I hate to say it but it seems like shes...a hoe. I don't know with her anymore she is so nice tho she will buy me things as I do for her she comes to my house sometimes I buy her stuff. I dunn I guess her only problem is she likes all my friends she likes everybody! So since she likes everybody maybe thats why she likes me......

aw....thats sad. i guess it just wasnt in the cards for you to be together. youll find someone thats right for you tho! dont worry!

Dump her and move on , she is obviously still a kid who doesnt know what makes a good relationship . She has too much growing up to do for you to waste time on her .



And whats with all the advice threads ??? ARGGGHHHH !!!!! Were going to have to make some kind of sub-forum for this stuff so the general board can return to its regularly scheduled program of randomness ...

Dang some of yall getting mad I just needed some help really bad.......juz 4get it from here.

im sure he wasnt being serious D12, no ones mad

I dunno this girls driving me nuts!!!! I'm just stop talking to her then when she asks me why I did...I tell her why!

know your limits d12. if she puts up a restrainin order starts packin mace i ay fergetit. But i think she probablly trying to get you jelous so that you and her will start going staeder and the relationship will be deeper. And she might be piontin out other hot guys to you to judge your rection and see if your gay. Don't judge another mans clothing in front of her unless it it a fat guy in a g-sting and your reponse is ta hurl or to swear and proceed to gouge your eyes out.

Wow ya lost me with the gay stuff !! She knows I'm not gay...believe me she knows..... I just don't know what to say when shes says man your friend joe is so hot you know that. I usually stay quiet and say what then she says nothing nothing. Then I say I heard you and she says well he is dont ya think..then I say IM NOT GAY SO I WOULD NOT KNOW. Then she stars saying more crap about guys!

I think you should give it to her straight.

Say : Look girl do you wanna go out with me or not, cos I really wanna go out with you, I think it could be good! If you don't want to thats fine but don't keep me guessing like this... it's driving me crazy!

Ames

Sounds good to me^^

Go for it!

Let us know what happens with it!

Ames

D12. Dump her and move on. It sounds like she does not see you as boyfriend material anymore and is too cowardly to admit this to you because she does not want to deal with the emotional fall out. She is quite wrong in what she is doing though because whether she intentionally knows this or not she is manipulating you and this is really not good at all. Especially as she is meant to be your friend.
However hard this is and it is tough you need to keep hold of your respect and dignity and walk away from this and find a great girl who will treat you nicely.

Oh and one more thing. Even though she has told you she does not want you anymore, she has been playing games. What I suggest you do is dump her publicly in front of all her friends. This way you save face and she gets embarrased which quite frankly sounds like she deserves!

No, that's bad He doesn't want to hurt her.


The thing is D12, she likes other guys now. And even if you two start dating exclusively, do you really think that her feelings and curiosity about other guys is going to go away? She'll be with you and always checking out other guys. Maybe more, who knows.

It doesn't make her a bad person, it's just normal at that age! You should want to have your options open. Just call her, tell her what's on your mind, and that you're not playing this game anymore. You can only move on if you tell her what's going on in your mind.

Just save yourself the heartache. If she really loved you, it wouldn't be this hard.

-Dis.

Yeah as soon as she calls me (she does everday yesterday was the first she didnt inabout 7months!)
I will tell her everything you know. I just dont want her to go out with the wrong guy who uses here for looks ya know take advantage of her. Cuz she went out with another guy and I knew he was sing her ya know. And she neva knew but when they broke up he called her a b**** and all this stuff...and WHAT DID I SAY I TOLD YOU! So she knew I was right about him adn she said sorry. But im juz gnna tellher what im telling you all and whatever happens happens god has a plan for everthing, everything happens for a reason.....

Okay dude just ask her not to go out with other guys if she wants to be with ya and if she continues you wil know she doesn't care.

Are there any other interesting girls you are interested in?
Focus on the positive
Sometimes pain is what you need to grow

She jst called and we talked for 3mins then she goes I call ya back in 2mins its been bout 20 so Im starting to think oh well....!!!! I'm juz gonna focus on me ..im not gonna lie I wanna be a rap artist when I grow up. I battle people from school all the time So ima focus on other things yea ME! Im gonna work on rhymes and stuff like that I am done with school in 2years so time to worry about me! Won't that be something if I become a rap artist haha and she will wish she stayd with me!!

That's a great attitude D12 , Life only moves in one direction move with it .

as with Druidus's thread any-one who has helpful advice for D12 may forward it to him in a pm .

thank-you .