Hello People, I am here to tell you people something that happened to me yesterday and it seems to be ruining my life and my heart. Please Read this carefully and tell me what i should do Seriously! This not a Joke.

For 2 months after i got accepted into a University in London Called Richmond, i have been talking to 3 girls on the internet i got their emails from the Dean of Admissions for "us" freshmen to get to know each other. I first started talking to this American Girl that was oringnally from Hawaii and i will call her "L" for now. Me and "L" got to know each other a lot and we keep talking to each other for more than 4 hours about random things and personal things. We got close and knew each other very well now before even actually meeting each other. I liked this girl so much that i wrote poems and songs about her. I mean i liked everything about her and she liked everything about me. I even called her up a couple of times and they were international calls that costed a lot but i didn't care and it didn't bother me.

Now about the two other Girls that i got to know too, which i will call "R" and "M", i have been talking to those two for 2 months too and got to know them very well and liked them too and shared many things with them and they have too.

After the 2 months pasted and i was supposed to leave to London and meet them, i changed my mind about going to Richmond and wanted to go to Oxford but it is in the same country and Oxford is like 2 hours away from Centre London where Richmond is. I got to London and they got there too but we haven't met, everytime i try to meet one of them and set a date, i cancel it because something always comes up and i need to stay with my grandmother that is sick.

So i was just emailing them three like everyday and they would email me back and such but i got a little lazy and didn't want to retype everything that happened to me everyday three times, so i just copied it and send it three times and nothing happened until Yesterday.

Yesterday i was supposed to go out with one of them and i didn't know the "L" got to know "R" and she was in her room talking to me. So she asked me what i was doing at 7 and i was supposed to meet "R" but i forgot and said "i am not doing anything" So "R" got pissed off and "L" thought i was being a player and trying to get her and "R" at the same time and then "M" came in the Room and they told her what i am playing with them. I didn't know that "M" changed her room and become "R" 's room mate.

Also i was supposed to meet "M" at 7 too on the same day as "R" but i was simply trying to introduce them to each other and make them become friends because they both have the same personality and i thought they would make great friends. Instead all three ganged up on me and thought i was playing a game on them and "R" and "M" got pissed off and left the room and only "L" was talking to me and i explained everything to her.

But she said" I really don't care anymore and i won't believe anything you say anymore" I told her all i wanted was to be a friend and make you three become friends with each other and with me. but she still is mad at me and i don't know what to do now???

So please if anyone knows what i should do then please tell me right away and don't joke around because this isn't a joke.

uh oh you really screwed up there boyo

honestly, i dont think theres much you can do now, unless you corner one of them in a cafe somewhere and force her to listen..but even that prob might not fix things..

But i did not do any harm to any of them and they just don't understand that this is just some big misunderstanding.

You explained it in every detail?
If so, then I can't believe they won't listen! You've been close for so long, and they sudenly mistrust you over a silly mistake? Are you sure these are good friends? They share close information with you and now they won't listen? Maybe these aren't the friends for you. Real friends forgive and forget missunderstandings.

Wow. That makes my lady problems seem a whole lot better.

Seriously though, i would suggest being very sincere with each of them, but if L already heard you out and didn't trust you, man, that's rough. She's probably the most trusting of the three having known you that long.

Uhm,.. I think it a lot depends on how you acted when you were with each of them. Did you act like yourself most of the time, or was anything superficial? I f you acted true to yourself i don't see why they'd distrust you so easily.

Love can be rough. Hang in there.

No guy can handle three women . Your screwed .

yeah, totally. you really messed up big time, my friend. that a terrible situation for anyone to be in. i hope that you do manage to get it straightened out for you.

i think you should try to talk to all of them at the same time and try to work things out and if that doesn't work, you're screwed

dude that sucks. shouldnt have gotten lasy i guess

I only know "L"'s phone number but they all live at Campus. So what should i do??? Should i choose one or try to explain it to each one of them first or Just forget them and move on???

But before i do that, i want to talk to all 3 of them at the same time and Explain everything to them.

So what do you think i should do i arranged to meet them in 3 days.

Yes, talk to them! After that if they don't even want to be your friend, at least try to end it with a good note and move on.

But i don't want to lose any of them, especially "L".

As I said before , no guy can handle three women . Your going to lose at least two of them if you tell them whats up by yourself . You will lose all of them if you let them figure it out for themselves

Hmmm... Lets look at some facts.

1.You know "L" the best
2.You only have "L"'s phone number
3.You said in a previous post you,"don't want to loose any of them, especially "L"".
4.They're obviously ganging up on you
5.Multiple women are difficult to manage

I say go for L and drop the other two. Talking to all of them at once could risk loosing all at once. Take what you can get right now, and go for "L".

Good luck

Get this when i talked to "L" she was still mad at me and calling me a liar and that she doesn't trust me but when i told her i don't give sh** about the two other girls and that i am in London because of "L" and i even got in a fight with my parents because i was going to London because of a girl. She said" okay i want you to say that right in their faces when we meet and then i may believe you"

So do i do what she asked?? Is it just a trick that she is doing so the other girls would hate me more and want to hit me??? What should i do?

I reckon you should be honest with them and take what is coming to you like a man.
You made your bed...Now sleep in it !

Are you sure you're 18 ?

Yes of course i am 18 then why am i going to Oxford but the thing is now she said " we will be there but we won't be suprised if you won't like you always say you will be there and then make up some excuse that you can't come". You see she really thinks i am in London but i am not there, i still didn't leave to Oxford yet and if i tell her i am not there then she will simply just say"forget you"!

Well friend, here is some 'wholesome' advice .... let them go, least before something worse happens. I can tell you this truth too when it come to women, and always remember this ... in any relationship, the LAST thing a women wants IS to hurt you.

But i really care about "L" and i love her soo much but she doesn't know that i do and just says" i don't care and so do the other girls" unless i show up on Thursday and meet them which is impossible for me.

So here is what i need yesterday i called up a friend of mine that goes to richmond and told him to find "L" and hang around with her on Thursday and make her not make it at 7 on Thursday. That is the only thing i can do that can buy me more time!

You seem very determined & sounds that you have developed quite an affection. Hey, its all good BUT unless your heart has been hardened by a womens 'tricks' in the past I say you stand to lose more than you bargained for. I really dont like the ways I have seen women operate ... do NOT underestimate women. What I fear for you Mishari is the possibility (esp. if they all got the same copy/pasted reply) that the 3 girls have a trick in store fpr you & watch out how quick a true or false reputation about you can spread from 1 chick let alone 3. Just keep your guard up & dont say a lot of friends on this site didn't warn you.

Yeah but i can't meet them , i am not even in the UK. I still didn't leave home to London. So should i tell my friend to find her and do what i asked him to do?

If there is anyway of 'saving yourself' now ?, then this is the best you can do .... have your friend meet up with "L" but his purpose has to be to let her know the truth of this all .... & the only way I could ever see "L" believing it is by being straight up that you had 3 girl mates online, that you fell for her head over heels but had problems with dissociating from the other 2 ... if you get this far you can send me a note of praise, if she doesn't take this then she doesn't trust you & you ought to run ... fast & far. Change University & online identity. Good Luck !!!

She already knows i love her and head over heels for her but she wants me to say that right in the other 2 girls faces and then she will believe me and i will gain her trust again but this is soo f***ed up because i am not in London. I am also scared that my friend might tell on me when she might get soft on him and then i will be gone and out of the game but i warned him that if anything goes bad because of him then he can consider himself a died man and i will call ever friend i know in London and my Bouncer Buddies so we all take him down and destory him.

Well ... all I can say is that I can sense one of those 'female tricks' about to happen. Worse still you seem to be at the point where you have some uncertainty over your friends agenda. Mishari, this is not good .... and Im not saying that this girl & you wont work out. But trust me .... this is gonna be something you learn the hard way. When this girl accepts your love/friendship without you having to announce it in the presence of others is when she will be right for you & then something good might develop from it. Take Care ok

So you are saying i shouldn't do what she asked me to say and never show up and call off my friend from finding her?

Hell No i am going to do this and i don't care what happens because i know that when i say what she wants me to say and she already knows by now that i will say then she will be mine and everything will be fine but you are right i get this feeling that there is going to be a "Trick" to this but i have been taking diffcult risks in my life and i won't stop now.

Good luck friend .... just know that its not normal for a girl thats interested in you to require such an 'act' ... have you ever been totally heart broken ?? I would pursue her with the truth .... it maybe not too late 4 you.

well she didn't really require me to say that i just said " i love you and i don't care if i go on international news and say, i don't care if i say it to anyone right in their face. So she said" oh yeah, then i want you to say right in those 2 girls faces when we meet" and i said " i wil gladly do it without any regrets or looking back".

That's all i know for now and if anything weird happens, i will try to keep you updated because you might see something that i don't see that could happen to me in a bad way and i have never had my Heart Broken, i broken many girls hearts but this one is just as good as i am and knows what she is doing.

Hi Mishari,

Wow you have got yourself in a bit of a pickle there.

Can I just suggest one little thing, if you truely love 'L', tell her the truth. Even if you think she will hate you for it, she will hate you more if you lie to her.

Girls tell their friends everything, we often spend days discussing the tiniest little details and they have probably already written you off as a player, so what have you got to loose? Tell them exactly what was happening with the mix up over dates and times, if they choose to still not believe you, then at least you have told the truth.

As for 'L', if she has feelings for you she will want to believe you, so give her a bit of time and then call her.

It might also be a good idea to tell them that you aren't in the country, don't want to confuse things any further.

Good luck.



Mog.

I will do that on Thursday if i make it there before that day. You see "M" and "R" told "L" to block me and never to talk to me again but "L" told me that she still doesn't know why she didn't do what they asked her to do. I hope to God that i make on to London on Thursday, but if i tell them now that i am not even in London then i will be totally f***ed and never have another chance to see any of them.

Yesterday "L" told me that "R" and "M" will be there when we meet but they have already made up their minds about me so they don't care about what i say. Also i told "L" will you forgive me for what i did and she said" i already forgave but you are still a liar and i don't trust you" but when i told her i got you that necklace you always wanted she said" if you say what i told you in their faces and give me the necklace then you aren't a liar and i will trust you". But i told her that it seems you are just using me to get the necklace and after you get it you wil ditch me and she said" use you?? for what?? what will i get from using you....nothing, i am not that type of person and it's not my style".

So you see people i really confused now, i don't know if those 3 girls are going to play a trick on me on Thursday or "L" is using me or i should never show up and forget about them and still keep my dignity to myself and my unbroken heart.

What should i do?

Walk away. Find other friends.
Give the necklace to your mother. She deserves it. L does not.

Its time for you to be you. Send the same message to all three. The message is simple. Tell them who you are, where you are, and that if they want to be friends ...'cool'. If they do not want to be friends with you....then you understand.

Walk away. Find other friends.

Think this has gone on for long enough.. if you need any more advice Pm each other thanks.