any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
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any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
Cardiovascular surgery...?
lol thanks athenian, i meant broken heart due to a relationship
This might sound like a joke...but valium does wonders for a while....
I won't joke about it because you are obviously hurting. This is what you need to do in my opinion:
1. Focus on your positive attributes.
2. Focus on realizing your worth as a person has nothing to do with what others
think about you or do to you.
3. Forgive the other person.
4. Put your life in context. You are one of 6+ billion people on the planet. None of us
are perfect. The one you are hurting over is just a drop in the bucket of potential
for true love.
5. Put yourself first. Don't just do things that are fun....be fun.
It is all about your state of mind spooks. Read some positive thinking literature.
Remember that it is your life and don't let anyone lessen your happiness.
And lastly, keep in mind that your happiness is not dependent on anyone else.
Tell yourself (whether you believe it or not) that you don't need anyone else, that you are capable of living without love. Because, of course, you are!
ps Choose better next time! How? Write down 10 attributes that you would really want to have in a partner. Then....become that list.
We all love you here. Take care.
1. Focus on your positive attributes.
2. Focus on realizing your worth as a person has nothing to do with what others
think about you or do to you.
3. Forgive the other person.
4. Put your life in context. You are one of 6+ billion people on the planet. None of us
are perfect. The one you are hurting over is just a drop in the bucket of potential
for true love.
5. Put yourself first. Don't just do things that are fun....be fun.
It is all about your state of mind spooks. Read some positive thinking literature.
Remember that it is your life and don't let anyone lessen your happiness.
And lastly, keep in mind that your happiness is not dependent on anyone else.
Tell yourself (whether you believe it or not) that you don't need anyone else, that you are capable of living without love. Because, of course, you are!
ps Choose better next time! How? Write down 10 attributes that you would really want to have in a partner. Then....become that list.
We all love you here. Take care.
Very nicely put joc. 
Chick flicks only make things worse. Avoid them at all costs, as their syrupy conclusions are far from what happens in real life. Otherwise, listen to what joc said.
Find a lover, works wonders.
I am sorry to say a Broken Heart is like exercise, the more it happens the stronger you get.Unfortunately some hearts develope callouses in later life.
Don't let it happen to you! It will make you mean, agree, and lastly ALONE.
A fate I wish on no one. Been there often.
Time i guess. And I agree with Roger.
Even without trying, time will heal a broken heart. Experience, positive outlook and a clear mind can help too 
Do things that make you feel good. Go out with your friends, go shopping, go to the spa if you can afford it. Do whatever will make you feel like a million bucks. Keep your spirits up, and you'll realize on your own that you'll be okay.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Ice cream lots and lots of ice cream
QUOTE(spooks @ Jan 29 2005, 02:36 PM)
hey, if this gets locked i apologise in advance to the mods
any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
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any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
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sorry to hear it spooks
I'm no expert, but a good way to deal with might be to think about all the good things you have in your life. It also helps a lot if you have someone who understands you to talk to. And another thing that I've found helps a lot is if you think about all the people who love you and care about you. another good way to deal with the sadness is to just take soem time out for yourself and try and sort things out. I'm no expert but I thikn the best ways to deal with it are:1. Have someone who understands you and cares about you to talk to. if they understand your pain there's no one better to talk to and help out
2. Think about all the people who love you and how much they mean to you. their support and kindness will help you a lot
but you know we all love ya spooks, and we're hoping that you feel better in time. anyway, any help with anything you need is yours. I'll always be here to help
remember that you're loved spooks!
we do love ya spooks. also remember you dont need a guy to make you happy. or to complete you. big hugs to you spooks.
Just remember you're worth everything to another person on this earth. And remember, just because bad things happen, doesn't mean you should be afraid to get close to someone else. Just take comfort in someone or something that will never hurt you. Take care and stay strong.
spooks i am sorry...if you have a broken heart hear this from me...you can come on UM and talk with me or us anytime you want. we will try to be as honest and real as possible to help you get through whatever.
awwwww guys thank you, i'm feeling slightly better this morning, its mainly the fact i'm worried about the other person, cause he's taken it worse than i have, thank you very much xxx
Spooks,I can not advise you as every break up and person is different...but from reading the replys here,you are well loved here and have a lot of friends who will be willing to be an ear and shoulder for you.
You take care of yourself sweetie.xxxxx
You take care of yourself sweetie.xxxxx
Do what makes you feel good. Try not to define your feelings by how a guy makes you feel. He can only break your heart if you let him. Keep your chin up.
QUOTE(spooks @ Jan 30 2005, 02:07 AM)
awwwww guys thank you, i'm feeling slightly better this morning, its mainly the fact i'm worried about the other person, cause he's taken it worse than i have, thank you very much xxx
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do not dwell on your past...he obviously is not what will "be"...before you can care for someone else, you must be 100% sure you have taken care of yourself.
please take care of yourself...
I'm only 12, but here's my advice:
Focus on the more positive points of life
Do what makes you feel good for a day
Do some yoga
Hang out with some close friends and talk about it
Well there, hope I helped.
Focus on the more positive points of life
Do what makes you feel good for a day
Do some yoga
Hang out with some close friends and talk about it
Well there, hope I helped.
Thank you all so much, i had a long talk with the person concerned last night, and everything's sorted, we both agreeded it was for the best, and we're gonna remain friends, so thank you all for your words of advice, it was really sweet of you all
QUOTE(spooks @ Jan 29 2005, 12:36 PM)
any tips on mending a broken heart?
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I wish i could help. But, as some of you know, i have yet to mend mine. So, I'm open to help
QUOTE(joc @ Jan 30 2005, 12:45 AM)
I won't joke about it because you are obviously hurting. This is what you need to do in my opinion:
1. Focus on your positive attributes.
2. Focus on realizing your worth as a person has nothing to do with what others
think about you or do to you.
3. Forgive the other person.
4. Put your life in context. You are one of 6+ billion people on the planet. None of us
are perfect. The one you are hurting over is just a drop in the bucket of potential
for true love.
5. Put yourself first. Don't just do things that are fun....be fun.
It is all about your state of mind spooks. Read some positive thinking literature.
Remember that it is your life and don't let anyone lessen your happiness.
And lastly, keep in mind that your happiness is not dependent on anyone else.
Tell yourself (whether you believe it or not) that you don't need anyone else, that you are capable of living without love. Because, of course, you are!
ps Choose better next time! How? Write down 10 attributes that you would really want to have in a partner. Then....become that list.
We all love you here. Take care.
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1. Focus on your positive attributes.
2. Focus on realizing your worth as a person has nothing to do with what others
think about you or do to you.
3. Forgive the other person.
4. Put your life in context. You are one of 6+ billion people on the planet. None of us
are perfect. The one you are hurting over is just a drop in the bucket of potential
for true love.
5. Put yourself first. Don't just do things that are fun....be fun.
It is all about your state of mind spooks. Read some positive thinking literature.
Remember that it is your life and don't let anyone lessen your happiness.
And lastly, keep in mind that your happiness is not dependent on anyone else.
Tell yourself (whether you believe it or not) that you don't need anyone else, that you are capable of living without love. Because, of course, you are!
ps Choose better next time! How? Write down 10 attributes that you would really want to have in a partner. Then....become that list.
We all love you here. Take care.
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Quoted for truthery. I'm pleasantly susprised by that joc, good man!
Thank you Janiel, i now understand how u've been feeling. if you need someone to drown your sorrows with , i'll volunteer
when ever i feel really sad or hurt by something then i do something which i know will occupy my whole mind (like playing my piano or drawing) i hope you feel happier soon tho spooks.
Thank you Pheenix, and i'm sorry, u'll understand what i mean x
QUOTE(Janiel @ Jan 31 2005, 11:16 AM)
QUOTE(spooks @ Jan 29 2005, 12:36 PM)
any tips on mending a broken heart?
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I wish i could help. But, as some of you know, i have yet to mend mine. So, I'm open to help
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Janiel...we are all here for you too...just let us know when you need/want us.xxxx
And Spooks...Im glad you are feeling better sweetie.
Accompanied by friends (if possible), take a walk under sunshine; do some sports: ping pong, swimming, hiking...; concentrate more to your job or study.
A broken heart only heals through time, and then awaits to be broken again.
TNO
TNO
Moe advises to get yourself a 40 ouncer of your favorite beer and play some xbox live.
Yes, Moe, thats a grand idea. XBOX cures anything.
I once read something really corny in a chicken soup for the soul book, its really cliche, but this quote helped me, "just as it needs to rain to produce a rainbow, your heart needs to cry," give it time.
QUOTE(caitlin_mcfly @ Feb 1 2005, 04:38 AM)
I once read something really corny in a chicken soup for the soul book, its really cliche, but this quote helped me, "just as it needs to rain to produce a rainbow, your heart needs to cry," give it time.
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Very true. Very Sad. But very true.
I too have been broken hearted (several times actually - maybe there is something wrong with me
) Anyway, now I am very much in love and my heartbreaks don't seem quite so bad.When you fall in love again you will then know your heart has been mended but you will also be more guarded against future heart break - does this make any sence at all
yes it does, thank you Mog, and everyone else, i'm feeling much happier today, mainly cause the other person is happy now, we're both a lot better than we were, so thank you all for your advice
Wait a minute. I thought you were just asking around for the fun of it. You really had a heartbreak recently?! And you didn't tell me Grrr...GET ON GMAIL! *sniff*
And you didn't tell me Grrr...GET ON GMAIL! *sniff*
Please let me know when you find the answer on how to mend it
QUOTE(Athenian @ Jan 29 2005, 03:42 PM)
Cardiovascular surgery...?
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LOL
But being serios, if your talkin about a breakup, then just find someone better. I always
prefere revenge
but that's just me. Oh yeah, some good advice on anything is don't take my advice 
QUOTE(Arsenik @ Feb 1 2005, 09:27 PM)
Wait a minute. I thought you were just asking around for the fun of it. You really had a heartbreak recently?! And you didn't tell me Grrr...GET ON GMAIL! *sniff*
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nah nik, its ok honey, dont worry.
. Thank you for your support though , that means a lot. Only a couple of ppl know about this. thank you though xxxx
I thought mine was mended. I think I was wrong.
another way to mend a heart is to visit a 3rd world country. You may realize that you dont have it quite so bad.
Cheese dip helps.
Try to forget about him (or her, you never know) the best thing is to move on, trust me. I could tell you some horrible stories, which would bring memories, which would make me think of him, which would depress me and so on and so forth. The Very best thing you can do for yourself is to go out, have fun, and just enjoy life.
Come to think about it, I remember you telling me something. But from the sound of it, I'm willing to bet it's not the same thing.
QUOTE(spooks @ Jan 29 2005, 05:36 PM)
hey, if this gets locked i apologise in advance to the mods
any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
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any tips on mending a broken heart? i usually try watching a chick flick, hot bubble bath and chocolate, but that doesnt seem to work
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hang in there ok it will be okay
there is some one for every one.you have to be strong ok
(atomos grows wings and flies back too the moon)
p.s want to come with me spooks
someone HAD to mention chocolate!!!
The only answer is time!!!! mate took me two years and dont get bitter it only makes it harder to get over her( take my word on it) chin up...........
HELL SORRY I SOULD HAVE SAID HIM.....................
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