Greetings to all.

I only stumbled across this site/forum today after doing some searching online for poltergeists.

I am an adult male who is highly intelligent and, I believe, open minded. By saying that, I mean: There are several things that I may have never personally witnessed (MOST that I don't WANT to), yet I do entertain the notion that they are, in fact, true. Most specifically you could say UFO's and ghosts/spirits. I have had a longtime fascination with subjects that could be deemed far-fetched by many. And, there *ARE* some people in the world who are, for lack of a better term: nuts. So, the things that I have read online and in books I usually take with a grain of salt.

Having said that, I have had my first experience with what I believe to be a poltergeist. Naturally, I'm a tad bit freaked out about things and want to better understand what I encountered.

Here is some background on the situation: I recently began dating a wonderful woman with whom I share MANY connections on MANY levels. Sadly, she has endured quite a bit of abuse in her lifetime whether from a relative when she was a child or abusive relationships with men (mental, physical, and sexual). SO, to say that she has had some stress in her life and some issues with trusting men, etc. is...well...an understatement.

Knowing this about her, and from what I have read both here and at other sites, I can understand where those experiences and various stresses going on her life (she has to deal with a difficult ex, the challeneges of being a single parent, etc.) could very well cause poltergeist activity (if I understand the term correctly).

What happened and why do I think this? Well, early on in our relationship, the topic of ghosts, etc. came up in conversation. She related some experiences that she has had in her lifetime, and I fully believe them. She further stated that things HAD occurred in the house that she lives in.

While curious about them, I would NOT allow her to tell me about those specific occurances in her house because A. It just plain freaked me out...and I didn't want to have the willies while over there and B. I didn't want the suggestion inside my mind as to a particular event or something so that I could prevent my mind from conjuring up something that may not have happened. Make sense?

Okay. This past weekend, I was at her house and we had music playing through her DVD/CD player in the living room while she and I were in her bedroom being, ahem, intimate. The music began to get louder and louder until it needed to be turned DOWN. So, she got up, went in there, and turned it down. She had no sooner came back into the room (with no remotes or anything in hand and no place to conceal them..lol) and the music started getting louder AGAIN. I KNEW something wasn't "normal". After some time, I finally asked her: "So, was that the ghost?". To which she replied yes, and then we talked about it for a while. She explained some of the different things that occur such as: messing with the DVD/CD player, cabinet doors slamming, voices, the sound of her baby daughter crying coming from other parts of the house when the daughter is RIGHT THERE next to her.

I love this person, and her daughter. I am very good to/for her, and she is very good to/for me. So, I'm trying to understand what is going on so that I don't get all freaked out and run from the situation.

She is a Christian, and maintains that nothing holds authority over her or her home other than God. She does not fear the happenings.

I will state that I am a Christian as well, and, while I will admit that I am unsettled by what happened (and would prefer that nothing happen again), I am not truly fearful in that I am a child of God and I pray for His protection.

I guess that I am just trying to get my arms around what happened. A person can't help but feel uneasy about things.

My take on things is that: I want to continue to pour love into her, her daughter, her home, and our relationship. I want to show her that I truly do love her and will be a good man for her. Will this positive energy and the transition of her from a person who has been hurt/abused before to someone truly in love and comforted by me eventually drive this negative force away?

I appreciate your taking the time to read this and welcome any feedback.

Thank you,
H

P.S. In order to give you a FULL picture of things, I must also tell you that her ex DOES come into her home from time to time to drop off their daughter or, on occasion, he has to babysit (I know...I know...tough situation, but I truly trust her that nothing is going on between them). But, I wanted to say that because, he is a troubled person, has physically abused her before, etc., and tends to be just a pretty foul individual. Does his presence in the house from time to time "feed" this thing?

First on the bright side its not a true poltergeist. Poltergeist cases are just about as destructive as hauntings get and quite litterally all Hell breaks loose during them(huge objects move, fires start spontaneously, it rains indoors, rocks fall from teh sky). They're also usually almost impossible to stop them until they run there course.

WHat your dealing with is some thing a lot more minor. Yes the positive emotion in her life now will help(it always does when it comes with this kind of thing). I'd also suggest getting the house blessed by a priest of your particular denomination(ask a catholic if your non denominational or your denomination doesn't do house blessings). I would strongly recomend you don't tell them the house is haunted just ask them to preform a blessing.

Thank you for your reply, Kevin.

Because I am admittedly ignorant about this type of thing, would you please elaborate on why you don't believe that it is a poltergeist?

Hey, I'm just fine and dandy with it NOT being, don't get me wrong. It's just that it seems similar to one from the many things that I have read.

Please don't take this post as argumentative, I'm just trying to become informed about things.

Thanks,
H

I agree with Kevin in that I don't believe this is of a poltergeist nature. Usually, poltergeist hauntings are pretty violent. And usually, but not always, they involve someone going through puberty or other highly hormonal changes.

It does as if you just have a calm, but slightly pesky ghost. Needless to say, on that particular night, he/she didn't want to feel left out of the activities *grins*

As long as no fires were started, objects flying/thrown across the room, people actually being touched in a harmful fashion, and other such negative aspects, then the chances of this being a poltergeist is slim.

The suggestion to have teh house blessed is a good one. If afterwards, things have not changed, then ... and I know this sounds goofy ... just opening address the ghost and tell them that as long as they are there they need to follow a few simple rules - then give them the list, such as no interruptions during private moments, no messing with electrical stuff cause frankly no one can afford high electrical bills these days *grins*, etc etc.

I have a ghost where I live and had to tell him/her to stop messing with the empty plastic hangers in the closet while I'm trying to sleep. And it worked. *shrugs* It honestly couldn't hurt to try.

And on a side note - I was in an abusive relationship (for a short time thankfully) and now I'm with a wonderful man - so I truely know what you are going through - from your aspect and hers. I wish you both the best in your relationship!

Thank you for your feedback and your best wishes. The relationship has been both very fullfilling *and* a bit of a struggle. She just honestly has a difficult time realizing that someone (me) is so crazy about her and can be so good to her. But, as it's said: anything worth having doesn't come easy. Heh heh. So, I'm hanging in there.

Okay.....here is something that I have withheld...BECAUSE, I suppose that I am frightened to death to hear the possible replies...BUT, truth is the only way that we can get to the root of this.

So...

She told me of an incident that happened a few short months ago, while her ex still lived there. She said that she had been dreaming about an older couple (she didn't recognize them or anything) and that she woke up from sleep and felt compelled to rebuke (aloud) *something* in the name of Jesus Christ.

At that very moment, her ex, who was lying next to her, let out a shriek...NOT from being startled awake...that lasted for several seconds.

She said that he told her that he had felt SOMETHING trying to either enter him or something to that effect.

I don't know him well enough to draw any conclusions as to his honesty, etc....and, given his history of abusiveness, laziness (NEVER has a job, etc.), and just basically staying strung out...I most likely wouldn't believe anything that he says.

BUT, I *DO* believe her....110%, in fact. Without getting into the details of relationships, I honestly believe that she and I could very well qualify for the definition of soul-mates...it is uncanny...and very, VERY neat. But, that's another, more pleasant story.

She believes that perhaps, whatever "it" is in the house basically just hated her ex, because of the foul person that he is. And, if there were ever a candidate for "corruption" by an entity or something like that, I think that he would be. I wish no ill will on anyone, and certainly hope that he, for his own sake, straightens up or he has an unpleasant life in front of him.

The "pranks" and things happen from time to time...as I've witnessed now a couple of times...but she said that there has not been anything that would seem truly eerie or evil or whatever since he moved out.

That is now EVERYTHING that I can recall about this situation, now.

Understanding and the control of fear comes from truth, and that's what I'm trying to find.

Again, thanks for the input, and I welcome more from you, as well as any and all who contribute.

H

Armale,

Hello.

I have a few ideas about what might be happening.

My first idea is that this could be a child bothering you. Alot of times children will try to get your attention in the manner that you decribed. You two were doing adult things the ghost was upset and got your attention. Try talking to her. Show her the light she might go home.

The other idea I had was as follows.

This girl has had it rough in the past. She has had a lot of demons to deal with and alot of negativity in her life. Things are changing now though. You have brought a light into her life she has not known before.

Alot of times when someone is down some entities are attracted to this energy. I have been through this myself. Just recently actually. I was unhappy with certain things in my life and I saw alot of dark things. Weird ghosts and shadows. I have ALWAYS seen things but these were negative not good. Anyways I made some major changes in my life, and just as these changes were starting these creepies started to get freaked out and started harassing me more. Almost like they didn't LIKE what I was doing in my life. They knew if I found happiness and light there would be no room left for them. They were right. I don't even notice them anymore. I still see ghosts everyday. Just not dark entities.

Maybe this is what is happening to your girlfriend.

Just a few ideas:)

Braveandcrazy,

I appreciate your response. I can't help but feel as though the positive things in her/our life will help push away these things, as well.

Darkness hates the light. And she and I shine brightly.

As to your thoughts on the child, that's an angle that I haven't considered. Thanks.

H

Your bolth Christian,and your haveing sex befor your marryed?
Am I the only one who sees something funny here?

ANYWAY,I'd be careful...even if it's only moveing small things,it is moveing things...
just don't leave the kid alone,okay?just in case.

I quickly skimmed this topic... from what I got from it I can safely say that it's not a poltergeist. I've actually dealt with a poltergeist a while ago... and that just seems like nothing in my own opinion. DVD Stereo increasing volume? I used to have a cheap one that did the same thing, I'd try to lower the volume and it would start decreasing or increasing by itself... but it's only because of the player. However, you mentioned something about you're girlfriends ex being almost possessed? I can lead it off as this... I assume that some entity is just protecting your wife. And that entity ghost or whatever you may call it is just watching her, afterall you would be the new boyfriend and her last one wasn't that good. So it's either some ghost that resides in that place, or it's just watching out for the better good. Though if it actually tends to get violent in the future... we're talking physically hurting you, (maybe mentally), then get a priest. And I've dealt with a poltergeist before, and they aren't always 'riddable', and some are just meant to stay. Good luck.

H get a pastor from you church and some of the elders to bless some anoiting oil. then ask them to come and pray over the house and to ask this presence to leave. Then make sure you get your and your lady prayed for also. especially the baby. Please don't take this lightly. Even though it isn't a poltergeist. It is a n evil presence. so ask God to protect her,you and her child everytime you pray. What can it hurt.

Thank you all for recent input on this matter.

To update things:

Unfortunately, she and I are no longer seeing one another. Because of her past relationships, she has many issues with trust, etc., and I honestly thought that I could love her enough and be good enough to her to help ease her through that. Sadly to say, I couldn't. Probably too much info, sorry...but.

She did move out of that house a couple of weeks ago, though.

Things started getting too bad for her to stay there... I don't have full details, as she and I haven't spoken much during recent weeks. From what I gather, various noises and voices became pretty persistent.

My honest take on things are: whatever energy was in the house was being fed, to a degree, by turmoil going on in her life....long story....but, I do believe that. I know that she wasn't making things up, as I was there for a few things, and they were my FIRST and subsequent experiences with anything supernatural. Hence, the reason that I joined this board and posted.

Not to say that the house may not have been haunted. Maybe that, combined with things she had going on, caused things to increase. Dunno.

Take care, all.

H

P.S. Rose Red...do I know that premarital sex is wrong? Yes. I fail to see where that would exclude me from believing and accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I merely stated that we were Christian, I never said perfect. Not trying to start a religious debate, just commenting on your statement.

Dang bro..Im sorry to hear that.. It really sounded like you two were going to go far in life..Im in a similiar situation myself, ie. gf had horrible past relationships, cant believe that sumone would love her for who she is ect..idunno what I'd do if she ever left me

Take care of yourself.

- Dark

Dark Grey,

Thank you for your kind words.

Best wishes to you and your gf.

You take care, as well.

H

As a few have now said, I don't think this is a 'poltergiest' but easily a spirit of some kind.

If it is true that the spirt hated her ex, (Maybe he treated someone else badly?) then it has just hung around even when he has gone, and waits for him to come back when he babysits and stuff!

I'd also agree with getting the house blessed. Although, this is only if you want the spirit GONE. As NCG said, try talking to it. You may feel a little stupid, but all of this is worth a try!

If it continues, get the house blessed.

All the best in your relationship!